Reset Password
Reset Link Sent
Blogs > spiritwoman45 > Life in the Canyon |
Role Reversal I don’t know how many of you find yourselves in this situation. Many are some distance, emotionally, geographically or both from their adult . Those who remain close both in terms of distance and emotion get a special treat – role reversal. I’m not sure when it begins. For me that varied a lot. My oldest is as structured as I am free spirited. By the time she was 11 I was driving her crazy. We spent her years with her telling me how to shape up with my mother backing her up. My youngest was slow to mature and quite dependent for longer than most but when my husband died she started giving me direction (or at least she thought). She fussed about my not eating or sleeping and definitely did not approve of my boyfriends. True my husband was the logical and grounded one and I was the creative intuitive one but she forgot the 40 years I managed before I met him. My began to worry about me driving my old van, saying it was difficult to manage and I should not use it. When I was home enjoying some time alone one or the other of them was hovering about trying to get me to join in something. Now they are approaching or just past 40 and becoming “old ”. In their own way they feel they have to look out for me or make sure I don’t get into trouble. Little do they know all of the things I do. Since I moved out to the canyon I can keep a great deal from them. They can text and call but they can’t see me. I am the wild ager and they are the ultra conservative parents. I catch regular advice from my older one and parental type lectures from my youngest. My just shakes his head when his girl friend calls me her role model. I ignore them laughing and thinking to myself “pay back is a Bi@@@”. Besides I have an American Express card and a passport and money deposited n my account each month. Gives me an advantage teens don’t have. Growing old is mandatory. Growing up is not and I plan to remain a and continuing to frustrate my / parents until my last breath. Spiritwoman ^i^ |
|||
6/30/2012 2:04 am |
I can relate to your blog spirit. I sometimes feel they watch me a little too much and sometimes they make me feel I am getting old, but I honestly think a lot of it is in my own head. They have their own lives to get on with and as long as Im here, can still stand up and look after their kids sometimes, everything seems to just roll along. Being a free spirit is a bonus and Im one too. Stay the way you are.
| ||
|
I don't have any living children, though I do have three step-kids, they tend to leave me to my own devices and I'm happy with that. Not that I give them any reason to get worried, I'm just a boring old fart, who is set in my ways. Alfie...
| ||
|
I don't have any living children, though I do have three step-kids, they tend to leave me to my own devices and I'm happy with that. Not that I give them any reason to get worried, I'm just a boring old fart, who is set in my ways. Alfie...
| ||
6/30/2012 6:04 am |
Spirit, I look forward to your blogs. They are usually very insightful, and things most people can relate to. I'd buy a magazine to read your writings. The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page: St. Augustine
| ||
|
Yippy!!! Yippy!!! Yippy!!!
| ||
|
Good little girl there who is a lovely great grand mother. I suppose that role reversal is bound to take place; my son objects to my parachuting etc at my youthful ( ) years and, when any of my friends happens to mention free falling, he throws up a fit. As a doctor, he feels all the more concerned and every phone call is sound, unworkable medical advice. Thanks God I am not a smoker any more (last 20 years) and am only a moderate occasional drinker. The sermons would have been many. All said and done, our children mean well as we did when they were 'children'. Many thanks for sharing this - have a wonderful day. & a KOC. "To fight the darkness do not draw your sword, light a candle" - Zarathustra
| ||
6/30/2012 9:25 am |
I can relate to your blog spirit. I sometimes feel they watch me a little too much and sometimes they make me feel I am getting old, but I honestly think a lot of it is in my own head. They have their own lives to get on with and as long as Im here, can still stand up and look after their kids sometimes, everything seems to just roll along. Being a free spirit is a bonus and Im one too. Stay the way you are. Spiritwoman ^i^
| ||
6/30/2012 9:27 am |
Thanks for the compliments. I am aiming for attending the bash in Oct. Hope it works out. Spiritwoman ^i^
| ||
6/30/2012 9:28 am |
I don't have any living children, though I do have three step-kids, they tend to leave me to my own devices and I'm happy with that. Not that I give them any reason to get worried, I'm just a boring old fart, who is set in my ways. Alfie... Spiritwoman ^i^
| ||
6/30/2012 9:29 am |
Boring old fart? Then who is the active fun fella that lives here??? Spiritwoman ^i^
| ||
6/30/2012 9:37 am |
I actually have a plan and legal document for when the day arrives that I need someone to make decisions. Current companion is number 1 with most logical child number 2. If one id available I feel it is best to have a non family member in charge. However I am assuming that when the day comes that I am incompetent I won't know the difference or if I do I won't care. Spiritwoman ^i^
| ||
6/30/2012 9:39 am |
Spirit, I look forward to your blogs. They are usually very insightful, and things most people can relate to. I'd buy a magazine to read your writings. Spiritwoman ^i^
| ||
6/30/2012 9:42 am |
Yippy!!! Yippy!!! Yippy!!! Spiritwoman ^i^
| ||
6/30/2012 9:42 am |
One of the perks of being ADD Spiritwoman ^i^
| ||
6/30/2012 9:49 am |
Good little girl there who is a lovely great grand mother. I suppose that role reversal is bound to take place; my son objects to my parachuting etc at my youthful ( ) years and, when any of my friends happens to mention free falling, he throws up a fit. As a doctor, he feels all the more concerned and every phone call is sound, unworkable medical advice. Thanks God I am not a smoker any more (last 20 years) and am only a moderate occasional drinker. The sermons would have been many. All said and done, our children mean well as we did when they were 'children'. Many thanks for sharing this - have a wonderful day. & a KOC. Want to guess what she ended up doing? Motorcycle riding, although she is over 40 now, a grandmother herself and finds it too uncomfortable. Spiritwoman ^i^
| ||
6/30/2012 9:56 am |
Definitely can relate to the immediate aftermath of loosing their Dad. Mine felt I needed to be on "suicide watch" when I was in that situation. I definitely didn't need suicide watch but can see why they thought that as I am a typical Latin personality - we are emotional and expressive. One of them proceeded me home took my meds and doled them out like nurse Ratchet! Probably a good thing in reverse since I probably would have neglected to take them on schedule while in that state of shock, confusion and disorientation which would have lead to me being more emotional and expressive. Spiritwoman ^i^
| ||
|
I travel a fair bit and my kids have tended to be concerned when they don't hear from me every few days. My CAR is getting older they say. They bought me a cell phone with a plan and a laptop to use on the road. Now before every trip I need a lesson. Have used the cell once-the laptop not yet. I think they should just buy me a new car.
| ||
6/30/2012 4:14 pm |
I travel a fair bit and my kids have tended to be concerned when they don't hear from me every few days. My CAR is getting older they say. They bought me a cell phone with a plan and a laptop to use on the road. Now before every trip I need a lesson. Have used the cell once-the laptop not yet. I think they should just buy me a new car. Spiritwoman ^i^
| ||
7/2/2012 11:59 am |
Wow, I am really impressed by this blog. I have 4 x children, two from both marriages, with a ten year gap. I have one daughter who, having nursed her then boyfriend's mother through cancer until the mother died, decided to distance herself and her only son from me, incase they got too upset when I died! She has succeeded, I rarely see my only grandson, now almost 21, and although I do see my daughter when I go to her shop to get my hair done, very rarely at any other time. Although, I do know she cares and loves me. Difficult. My three sons have all got jealous and possessive partners who want me as far away as possible. I rarely see my eldest son, who has just split from his cheating wife, but do see the younger two. The son I am closest to, I suppose, does his best to look out for me, but travels a lot with his work. Anyway, enough of my issues! I enjoy reading your interesting writes. Your thoughts make me laugh, also. Take care Amy Spiritwoman ^i^
|
×
×