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I'm an "easy going" per who enjoys being a "possibility thinker " in creativity. The Meyers-Briggs Perality profile has
classified me as an NTJ type, being an ENTJ which is also classified as being only about 2% of the general
population. That explains why I'm able to be adventureous and "think out of my nine dots!" For
a good relationship, I will not tolerate abuse of any sort or anyone who is prone to go "ballistic" over trivial matters. And, I will not tolerate a "control freak". I have a good healthy sense of humor. Also,
I'm highly "intuitive" due to my NTJ perality type
and am able to "sense" aspects about people and situations. An example of this was that recently I was
able to diagnose a "genertational infection" of
Narcissistic Persobality Disorder that resulted in
power and control abuse with the family my oldest
married into. My "intuitive" NTJ abilities
told me something just wasn't right and I observed all
the behavior patterns of three generations acting and
interacting with one another. The evidence pointed to
some sort of abusive perality disorder, but I didn't know just "what". So, I began investigating on the internet and hit BINGO when I came across Sam
Vaknin's Narcissistic Perality Disorder abuse web
site. I was able to find the correct information because NTJ perality types also make good investigative reporters and are relentless in seeking
the answers they require. So, I hope that the relationship I have will also have a good and loving family attached to it. This is because I will no longer tolerate being around my oldest 's
family that she married into due to the NPD abusive
disorder. As far as my oldest is concerned, as long as she remains "submissive", continues to make
excuses for her husband's behavior patterns and goes along with his NPD thinking patterns, things will not change for her or him. I did tell her she needs professional counseling in order to learn how to properly handle
him. By doing so, only then will it place their relationship at a point for change in her husband's behavior. In other words, my needs the
courage and the correct way for handling her husband's behavior patterns and letting him know that IF he
continues in his present behavior patterns, SHE'S no
longer going to put up with it. In situations such as this, sometimes the NPD abuser does see the errors
of their ways through agreeing to counseling and sometimes they don't. That is a "chance" my oldest will have to be prepared to take. I didn't raise her that way. But, NPD abusers can be quite
"charming" and act very decent to "fool" people in ordr
to get want they want or have their way. And, if they
don't get the things they feel they're "entitled" to,
the abuse begins and the poor Narcissistic supply
victim gets unjustly "punished". So, now you know somewhat about NPD abuse and I certainly DON'T want to
get involved with anyone like that ! IF you have these
tenedncies, don't even bother to contact me. I've learned much about NPD abuse and you may think you're "fooling" me but I know the "signs" to look
for. As far as eating is concerned, I've discovered that there are two types of people in this world.
Those that live to EAT and those that eat to LIVE.
I'm the type that eats to LIVE. I don't gorge myself
with food and think about eating all the time. I have
better things to do with my time. Even though I'm a good cook, I don't live to prepare three meals a day.
I realize I'm now older and my metabolism has slowed down and when I do eat I don't eat that much because my body does not require it. Yes, I'm a light eater.
So, if I go on a date with a good man and we go out to a nice restaurant, he needs to know that I will request the waiter or waitress to bring me a container so I can take the rest of it home with me. I don't like to waste good food. From the huge servings served
in restaurants, maybe I'll eat a third of it and take the rest of it home for 1 or two more meals. Even though I'm a "light eater", that doesn't mean I don't enjoy good food with good restaurant atmosphere. I also
love animals because of my NTJ perality type I've
seemed to be able to develop some sort of "psychic
bond" with them. At times, I tend to be a deep thinker
about the things in life that truly matter. The things
that truly matter to me are being kind, good and loving
and a happy home life. I also enjoy being good and kind
to people and appreciate their being good and kind to me. Also, I dislike unrealistic "image expectations".
I just enjoy being my good and loving self and enjoy
learning, being creative and wouldn't want anyone to
stifle those aspects about me in order to try and change those wonderful qualities about myself, in order to try to change me into some other "image
expectation" they want. I'm an honest per and
try always to speak from my heart, but I've learned how to not wear my heart on my sleeve! As far as home
is concerned, I like the home to appear comfy, cozy
inviting. And, it need not be expensively or
elaborately decorated. I love country cottages and
finding unusual things at flea markets and yard sales
to help decorate a home with that comfy, cozy and
inviting feeling. I'm not the type of per who has to
spend a lot of money on expensive furniture just for
"show".
My Ideal Person
I'm attracted to warm, loving people because I'm a warm
and loving person. I'd like to find someone who understands the "rare" ENTJ personality type and for us to be compatable with one another. Also, someone who has a healthy sense of humor, is kind and loving. And, we would not have to have all the same
likes and dislikes for activities together. It needs to be an "interdependent relationship". Not a relationship based on "image expectations", expecting
"bells and whistles" the first time they meet. It takes time to get to know someone and not cast them off the first time you meet them. So many people are "addicted" to dating services, just living for the "thrill" of meeting one person after another. In which case, they wouldn't be able to recognize a "right" and compatable person. Sorry, but with being an NTJ personality type, I was able to "pick up" on this aspect after I began dating again, after I became widowed. Only people who are not "addicted" to meeting
one person after another through dating services and
are willing to actually see the person "inside", they are the successful ones that find a right relationship for themselves. Also, the ones who are not in love with
"image expectations" are successful in finding a right relationship for themselves. I would like the good,
loving, kind, gentle, calm natured person I find to have a good family attached to him, for one of my needs is to have a good, kind and loving family atmosphere. My youngest daughter lives in N.C. and I only see her, her husband husband and small daugher once a year. Good family life is important to me and
it's one of the things I value and I would want the
person I find to have that same value. I would like for the person I find to be faithful, for I'm faithful in a one on one relationship. I can say I would like someone who values "old fashioned" values as much as I do. When it comes to truly "intimate times" together
I would appreciate my partner understanding that I
also have a physical need for satisfaction and for him
to just not rush through things. I would appreciate
his willing for us to discover together, ways in which
we could accomplish this. Since I like to give and
receive hugs, I'd appreciate my partner giving hugs
also. And, I would appreciate my partner having a
healthy respect, like and appreciate animal pets.
I currently have two wonderful German Shepherds. I
would like for all of us to be a family together along
with any other pets he may have. Like the "Brady Bunch"
program on TV years ago, we'd become a "blended
family" unit. And, I love horses. I owned a horse in N.C. when I lived on 5 acres. But, after moving to Alabama I had to sell him because I could not afford the fencing in order to have him with me. So, if my
partner also loves horses, has a horse or likes horse
back riding, that would be a Super Plus! That would be
an interest we could truly share together. And, if he
likes good home grown vegetables we could have a vegetable garden together. Especially delicious home
grown tomatoes and perhaps a watermelon or two! If he
enjoys camping, fishing that would be great also because I enjoy those things. I just enjoy the things
in life that don't require much money to enjoy or require no money at all. That's because I'm just "rich"
in the things that money cannot buy. I would require a
partner who would be able to "see" and appreciate that
aspect. Please, I do not desire to have married men,
only separated men or recently divorced men contact me.
All three of these categories have too much negative baggage for the type of relationship I'm seeking. Thank you
What are your favorite television shows?:
None at this time because I'm unable to obtain cable where I live.
Favorite films:
Men In Black with Will Smith. I loved "Frank" the talking dog.
What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
None at this time
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