My Ideal Person:
Oriah Mountain Dreamer
Native American Elder
Revised

It is not that important to me what you do for a living, I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It is not that important to me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.

It is not that important to me what planets are squaring with your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals, or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain. I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it. I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or even your own; if you can dance with the wilderness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning yourself to be careful, be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being human.

It is not that important to me if the story you’re telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. I want to know if you can be faithful and therefore be trustworthy. I want to know if you can see beauty even when every day is not pretty, and if you can source your life from its presence. I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of a lake an shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes!”

It is not that important to me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after a night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done for the children. It doesn’t matter to me who you are, how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It is not that important to me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away. I want to know if you can be alone with yourself, and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.
(But in truth, I want to know everything.)