nope advice 10/18/2006|
Since I am a widow, financially secure, I have attracted
interest from several near-indigent older and younger
men of my acquaitance. This has posed a problem to me, since
I'm someone who always has had trouble with confrontations.
I asked a friend with several suitors how she dealt with
this situation, and here is her advice. "I always begin
by telling them, initially, how much I enjoy ...
2 Comments, 85 Views,
Discussing Sex in an E-mail? 1/23/2010|
A female friend mentioned that she was getting a number
of e-mails from men, particularly widowers, who state
in their initial e-mail that they expect sex by the third
date. She asked me for my thoughts ‒ was she wrong in thinking
such comments were inappropriate.
My first reaction was that unless this was in response to
an “adults only” posting, such a ...
40 Comments, 992 Views,
Why post an old picture... what if you meet.... then what? 6/21/2006|
We have all no doubt aged, but why post an old picture????
What if you get on and decide to meet... I have had many experiences
where I had to say "No Thanks" Some of us age more graceful
then others, but I believe that Honesty should be on the
top of the list...
It is all fine and dandy to build on the net... but please
by all means be honest... it is heartbreaking to find out
that one ...
3 Comments, 53 Views,
What to do with nude photographs... 11/8/2010|
Okay so my profile is more or less blunt and honest. That
doesn't mean that I'm asking guys to send me messages
with nude photographs in them. If I wanted such a photo I'd
ask for one. I got very tired of receiving photos that (1)
weren't requested (2) were nothing to brag about and
needless to say (3) were in very poor taste.
My solution? Forward those pictures to all my ...
28 Comments, 788 Views,
How many polite ways are there to say NO? 2/16/2008|
How many polite ways are there to say NO?
Seeing the title of this section of the magazine really
made me stop and think, just how many polite ways are there
of telling someone 'no thanks'without
them taking offence.
As a parent we learn ways of saying no to a chid, either by
direct methods like, "I doesn't think that's
a good idea", or "later on", and even "that's ...
17 Comments, 328 Views,
last night had to say no 4/7/2009|
Last night I was in a love mood, I was going to find ly make
love to somebody, anybody, I needed love. I call some one
that I knew wanted me.She was most happy to get down with
me. I met her at her house and she had wine and nice sounds, candles
scented the room. This beautiful lady told me that she had
been wanting this.As she went in to the bed room to put something
sexy on my mind and ...
20 Comments, 562 Views,
no condom no sex 6/19/2006|
When I was in my mid thirty's my then girlfriend of several
years had her tubes tied and so was no longer able to become
pregant. One night she discovered I still had condoms and
threw them out stating I didn't need them with her.
We were not active yet so I left it at that and continued seeing
her. A few nights later she started cuddling while watching
a movie and things started ...
2 Comments, 61 Views,
I receive winks , but no one ever follows up when I send and
e-mail....is anyone else having this problem. I also reply
to sevral ads and don't recieve an answer. Being a paying
member I think we should at least reply even if we are not
interested and thank the person their reply.
I hope this messege is going to help
2 Comments, 55 Views,
HOW TO NICELY TELL SOMEONE THAT YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED 6/19/2006|
I think that one of the most difficult aspects of online
dating is telling someone that you have met that you don't
think you have any basis for a friendship without huring
the persons feelings. Do you just come out and say so, or
do you lie and say you are going back with your ex? Is it better
to give the person the benefit of the doubt and see them a
second time in case you judged in ...
5 Comments, 72 Views,
Radical Muslims Kicked Out of Australia = Let's Discuss... 12/25/2008|
to RADICAL MUSLIMS IN AUSTRALIA
Muslims who want to live under Islamic Sharia law were told
on Wednesday to get out of Australia, as the government
targeted radicals in a bid to head off potential terror
attacks. A day after a group of mainstream Muslim leaders
pledged loyalty to Australia at a special meeting with
Prime Minister ...
22 Comments, 317 Views,
MARRIED AND LOOKING 6/19/2006|
ITS BEYOND ME WHY SO MANY MEN ARE OUT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP
. WHY CAN'T WE BE SATISFIED WITH OUR COMPANION AND LOVE
THEM AND HONOR THEM AS WE PROMISED WHEN THEY WERE FIRST MARRIED
. IF THE MARRIAGE NEEDS REVIVING , THEN FIND OUT WHAT YOU
CAN DO AND TRY ANY THING TO GET BACK ON TRACK .
WHAT WOULD YOU SAY IF YOUR WIFE WAS OUT THERE LOOKING FOR
SOMETHING DIFFERENT . MAYBE THAT COULD BE ...
2 Comments, 39 Views,
to sex without condoms 6/19/2006|
No, I am not cutting and pasting.
This is a personal account of recent dating.
Oo la la. He is handsome. He kept asking me out. He seemed
to pester me. I couldn't shake him so I told him that
I didn't want to be bothered and wish that he would not
stop me to talk anymore. As I left, he said "I am not
One day he found me in a good mood. It was my birthday. He ...
2 Comments, 92 Views,
Married Men need not Apply 9/9/2007|
Whats up with all these married men winking and sending
messages to single a woman . I'm not interested in a
f#$%^ buddy and most of the ladies in here are looking for
people that are potential relationships, not a bed warmer.
so get a grip get a life and love your wife .
11 Comments, 445 Views,
Say" No Thanks" with a personl note, not some form letter. 6/19/2006|
I feel if we make an investment in money and time, we should
be polite enough to answer each one in a short personal '"Yes,
we might have something in common to go further, let's
continue writing.", OR "Thanks but dont think
we have enough in common to continue. Good Luck in your search."
I feel the Autoreply tells the person nothing as far as Yes
or No- and just leaves the other person ...
1 Comments, 38 Views,
Saying NO to those who think SSF is a shopping Mall for intimate encounters. 9/26/2006|
One of the nice things about this service is I can say No Thank
You quite easily and quickly if the first e-mail contact
or wink (after reading the profile)leads me to do so. Has
anyone else but me run into the problem that there are those
who use SFF as a shopping mall for sexual encounters? That
is not what I am into here; I’m not shopping for someone to
meet some long held ...
3 Comments, 119 Views,
How do you know if He is interested? 7/12/2009|
I had been on a few dates recently with the same guy. He seemed
really keen in the beginning, then increasingly became
really distant. I asked him about it and said to tell me if
he wasn't interested anymore, he replied with "If
that was the case I would tell you."
Two months later and we had only been out once. I took this
as he really wasn't that into me but even when I asked ...
9 Comments, 420 Views,
Just say no. 1/30/2009|
why is it so hard to "just say no?"
18 Comments, 298 Views,
saying get lost to married men 6/19/2006|
Well your looking for mr. right
the easy to get along with ones the ones that dont ask to many
questions and talk about discreet meetings - are usually
married some times they admit it sometimes they wait to
meet you so they can talk you into it. just think girls how
you would feel if you were married to that two timing skunk.
The single guys may be a little harder to get ...
1 Comments, 30 Views,
Married - unfortunately 6/19/2006|
Gypsy Rose thinks we should all love our partners and I think
it would be wonderful if we did. She is widowed and I hope
that her life with her husband was good. Unfortunately
people sometimes grow apart over the years and there is
no putting them back together, however hard they try. It
may be that divorce is the answer and most members here are
divorced. For some of us divorce is not ...
6 Comments, 64 Views,
Why don't women respond 6/19/2006|
I have noticed that on this site and other sites that I belong
to, that women wait for a man to make contact with them. Once
he has made the first move in contacting them, they just
simply don't respond most of the time. I feel it would
be at least pollite just to drop and line. If it were only
to say sorry I am not interested. Instead you simply never
hear from them. How rude can that be, ...
19 Comments, 509 Views,
Reply to "Marriage in the Distionary" 6/19/2006|
The question of whether the sexual proclivities, desires
or habits should be discussed "before" marriage.
I personally think these proclivities should be tried
before marriage...."talk is cheap"..."the
proof is in the pudding" sort of thing. Talk about
it afterwards. Continue talking about it. People's
proclivities and desires change with time and age. I think
the last thing someone ...
2 Comments, 62 Views,
Some females fall in love really quickly and that scares
guys away. If I say, "I'm in love with you, I want
to marry you, I want to move in with you." They say:
"Ma'am, just give me the ten bucks for the pizza
and I"ll be out of here."
9 Comments, 146 Views,
75% of the men on my cupid's match list are MARRIED.
The word must have gotten out that this is the place to go
for women looking to be a partner in adultery. To add insult
to injury, they can't even spell "discreet"
If you want to cheat, learn how to spell it!
3 Comments, 47 Views,
A Response to Why some MARRIED people seek companionship here 5/31/2012|
I strongly disagree with the reasons for looking outside
the marriage listed in the article, "Why Some MARRIED
People Seek Companionship." I think the person very
eloquently wrote a load of excuses for dishonouring their
Before my husband died, there were several years when he
was unable to engage in any sexual activities. I was fairly
young, too (mid to late ...
4 Comments, 113 Views,
Some call me a HELL CAT.. But me, I call it God's work... 6/14/2006|
Seems approiate this go here, as so many people seem to have
great issues with those with redhair..or perhaps it's
just me..LOL..yea, It's just me, Sassy lil me...But
my spirit is mine and ya'll can't take that from
me... Neither can you have my Southern charm...LOL...
Some say I’m mean... Some say I’m a hell cat. Trying to determine
exactly when this all ...
15 Comments, 473 Views,
No marriage no sex. 7/1/2006|
Sex is a “marriage” of two people. Look “marriage” up in
any dictionary. I’m not trying to be cold, but that IS the
definition of the term. Okay, so there may or may not be any
sociological solemnification of the union involved,
but a ‘union’ it is, including exchange of bodily fluids
whether condoms are used or not. There are lots of ...
2 Comments, 87 Views,
RE: Respect 6/19/2006|
Have you ever thought that perhaps your screen name turns
people off? "Hottotrot"...how much respect
does that show the women with whom you're trying to
communicate? Also, your spelling and grammar leave a lot
to be desired...if you don't have enough respect for
others to present yourself in the best possible light,
I don't think you can bring them for ignoring you...think
2 Comments, 55 Views,
Send more five-star matches! 9/13/2006|
I tracked a lovely man down in Wisconsin (pix appeared in
my network or whatever) and stated that, yes, it might be
quite a trek from Maryland to Milwaukee, but that's
what I'm planning! (Trekking, not Milwaukee) Rather
grumpily, he replied that I should send him my pix and he'd
see what's up. If he had not been so kind and courteous
to reply, I probably would have spent a couple of days ...
3 Comments, 102 Views,
Sometimes A Woman 6/19/2006|
Sometimes a woman cares for a man when she shouldn’t
Sometimes a woman wants a friend, and he wouldn’t
Sometimes a woman wants to be treated like a woman, and he
Sometimes a woman needs to be held when she shouldn’t
Sometimes a woman needs him to listen, and he wouldn’t
Sometimes a woman needs to cry, and he couldn’t
3 Comments, 76 Views,
Is your profile the true you? 5/18/2008|
I am a 58 year old women and alot of times i read profiles from
some men that usually starts with, man looking for sensual
women, or his profile title may read, looking for women
to love and 692!! Whats with that? I'm talking men my
age or older with profiles like this.Don't you think
that scares some women off and maybe your not a real pervert
just trying to attract someone. I would ...
21 Comments, 514 Views,
Rude reply 6/19/2006|
I added a very nice man to my network(at least I thought he
was nice)I recieved a relpy from him saying that he was looking
for a younger and prettier woman, he is 66 and Im 63, the
compatable rateing is perfect, he said he was young at
heart and he wanted someone that had a very good bank account, there
was nothing in his profile about the younger, prettier
and the bank account, men like ...
2 Comments, 71 Views,
You Just Met Him. Now What? 10/29/2007|
OK ladies, so you met what might be a potential "Mr.
Right" and then find out he's not the one. What
do you do?
You'll know in less than 5 minutes if you want to continue
to see him. Advise a girlfriend to call you five minutes
after you got there. You look at the phone and ignore it and
say, I'll have to call that person later. Have your
girlfriend call you 10 minutes ...
9 Comments, 377 Views,
More on respect!!!!!!!!!! 6/19/2006|
I thought when I joined this site that being a Senior site
that the Women on this site would be mature! but I guess I
was wrong.I think if you reply to a person more than twice, then
all of a sudden stop replying you have no RESPECT for others
feelings!it leaves that person thinking that they must
have said something wrong.Please be mature enough and
have the respect to let them know you ...
1 Comments, 80 Views,
Response to;- Married Unfortunetly 6/19/2006|
I wish there was a way I could understand how a marriage of
two people can be held together when love doesn't exist
anymore. I wish I could understand how anyone could place
a higher value over monetary benefits than having and knowing
a true inner happiness. I wish I could understand how a married
man could turn a cheek to the hurt he can cause so many people
when he seeks and gets ...
10 Comments, 278 Views,
How to say no 6/19/2006|
What is the most tactful way for a male to tell a lady he isn't
interested in her without hurting her feelings? Is it better
to act somewhat interested and then drag things out and
hope she reads between the lines or should one say it's
obvious that the two of us don't click?
10 Comments, 356 Views,
Looking for Platonic "Discreet Fun"?? 7/22/2006|
Anyone listed on Senior Friend Finder who is not seriously
seeking a LTR should remove themselves from this site and
go list themselves in Adult Friend Finder or other "Relationships
for Fun" sites.
Why waste serious minded peoples time and effort thumbing
thru all the listings of those people who only want to "Have
Senior Friend Finder should not accept profiles from ...
14 Comments, 402 Views,
Why some MARRIED people seek companionship here. 6/21/2006|
Monogamy in a relationship is not always possible. Sometimes
people have difficulty accepting this universal truth.
One's marital partner might develop an incurable
psychological disorder and can no longer be intimate.
One's marital partner might be paralyzed or otherwise
disabled. Is her/his spouse a horrible person to still
love their mate yet seek out companions in the ...
2 Comments, 48 Views,
Great expectations 2/18/2015|
AS happens we get married, expect it to last for ever, it
slowly falls apart, there is a lot of bitterness, and eventually
Then someone else comes along, we get on well, ahve a lot
in common, and sex and loving is great.
The day arrives when another commitment is requested,
we would love to be able to do so. However we have been hurt
badly, and are afraid. Hopefully the ...
14 Comments, 289 Views,
Sex after a couple of dates 9/19/2009|
If you expect sex within a few dates, you aren't looking
for a meaningful relationship, you're just looking
for a "Quickie". Go down to the corner and pick
up your local street slut, she'll get you off with no
strings attached (usually after you pay her). Realize
a "Quickie" with a hooker is probably going
to be cheaper and definetly faster than taking a real lady
to dinner, a movie and/or ...
10 Comments, 308 Views,
Where are my goggles? 8/12/2008|
There are some people on this site who keep issuing invitations
to me...Just by reading what they have to say, I'd sooner
puke my intestines and snorkel in them than see them naked!
7 Comments, 234 Views,
Money making Racket 5/14/2010|
Is this site a money making racket?. You cannot really become
properly involved unless you pay big "bucks"
and become either a gold or silver member, i.e you cannot
download profiles, photographs or indeed make use of most
of the features of the site. I would like to know, before
I spend some of my scarce income, if Gold or Silver members
feel that they are getting good value for their ...
15 Comments, 351 Views,
ARE WE REALLY LOOKING FOR FRIENDS 6/19/2006|
So many people come into SFF or any other "Friends
Site". All profess to be lonely and wanting someone
to "love" or "befriend" or "just
someone to talk to".
So then why so many declines? Does someone have to be slim
and beautiful, rich & famous, own a boat, or fly around
the world, or promise a roll in the sack? Otherwise they
are declined? What does it take to be an accepted friend ...
4 Comments, 76 Views,
Why from across the seas 6/19/2006|
I've been new to this on line date for only a few months
and I can't understand why I get winks and get put on
hotlist from women from across the seas when there is a slim
possibly of meeting. I mean these women are
looking for loneterm relationships and marriage. Is there
something going on that I don't know about?
11 Comments, 346 Views,
What is the best way women want to hear No Thank You? 6/19/2006|
Men can answer also, but of course I am interested in what
is the least problem for a woman to hear.
As for me I enjoy the first instant you feel it is a no go, that
you say we just are not an item or a click or what ever and we
have no need to move on.
10 Comments, 350 Views,
I find that the majority of Women on this site don't
have any idea of what being courtios realy means.I'm
refering to being polite enough and having the respect
too at least reply with a NO THANKS! when another member
shows an interest in them!.I would much rather to be told
NO THANKS! as to be ignored.
3 Comments, 40 Views,
A Considerate Way To Say I'm Not Interested! 7/7/2010|
Everyone has feelings and wants to be wanted and accepted,
'no matter the age'. It is not difficult to be considerate
and kind unless you have a history of being abused. People
usually give back what they get, but it's helpful in
the relationship arena to remember that you should give
what you hope to receive. What's wrong with saying,
"with what I know from your profile, we may not be ...
5 Comments, 265 Views,
WHAT IS REALLY RUDE ??? 6/19/2006|
SINCE BEING HERE ( ONLY A FEW WEEKS )
I HAVE ENCOUNTERED SOME REALLY RUDE WOMEN !!
CAN'T SPEAK ABOUT THE MEN AS I AM A MAN AND DONT
AT FIRST I THOUGHT...WELL MAYBE THEY JUST DON'T KNOW
THAT A RESPONSE OR REPLY ( EITHER WAY )IS APPROPRIATE...AS
IT TURNS OUT HOWEVER THAT IS NOT THE CASE...
NOW...BEFORE THE WOMEN GET RILED UP...UNDERSTAND WHAT
I'M SAYING ...
10 Comments, 332 Views,
Heartache Of Breaking Up 6/19/2006|
Lost in a world of unknown sadness;
Smiles and laughter hidden by distress.
Living my life in a dream-like state,
Nothing I can do but sit here and wait.
My once happy heart has been broken in two;
Now i sit and wonder what can i do.
Tiny little tear tracks lie upon my cheeks;
That I`ve cried and cried these past few weeks.
Sweet memories of the days gone by;
1 Comments, 55 Views,
What does likes or dislikes have to do with joining a net 6/19/2006|
Joining someones network of friends doesn't mean
you have to be friends joined at the hip for eternity. It
is simply an invitation to join a group of friends. What
does it have to do with any one person? Standard Members
are able to learn about others in the net that they can't
reach in any other way. They might find someone there or
see something they like. They are certainly not obligated ...
1 Comments, 62 Views,
Hell hath no furylike a man scorned ! 6/19/2006|
I am speechless but since "MM: Male Motives (good
handle )and his web site named " Cracked Rabbit"
should have been a warning! I have just read his SCORCHING
"bogus" website under my name ...I could sue
him for deformation of charactr, slander and WORSE hacking
my PC ..and my business website in order to try to ruin my
I have had HOURS of chat with MM and ALL documented if ...
3 Comments, 216 Views,
I am 'me' 6/19/2006|
I have the right to choose, do i not? Just because i am sexstarved,
do i have to jump in bed with every hunk i see? Is'nt there
anything called mental compatability or love? Why can't
a man stand it when he hears a 'no'? Why does most
men think that they are god's greatest gift to womenfolks?
It is upto me if i want to say 'no'. I have the right
to choose and reject. What do i lack ...
4 Comments, 120 Views,
Beware of Arizonaboy1950 6/19/2006|
This is Sherry, his girlfriend of six years; I stumbled
upon his add after he returned my camera to me, broken. Then
found out he was trolling for couples on the internet..This
is SICK and I hope and pray that all of you out there stay away
from this pervert!
Call me a nut, but I expect MY man to be faithful!
Anyone wishing to contact me may do so at :
You people ...
6 Comments, 558 Views,
Is it easy to say NO? 11/25/2006|
We often say Yes and its easy. Do you think its easy to say
NO to some one? Is it not hurting them?
6 Comments, 175 Views,
OnLine Contacts 6/19/2006|
It seems to me there are a lot of ladies who either list themselves
as a lark, as a dare or as a joke. I have asked some five star
fits to just say hello and no response. I don't think
there is anyway to be sure of what the other person is, but
if you are in this to pass the time of day, why not at least
respond with a 'no, thank you'?
3 Comments, 83 Views,
Married Men 8/8/2007|
I would like to thank SillyWizardess for the article she
wrote, it spells out how allot of us women feel.
I also am a widow and loved my husband very much. The last
3 yrs of his life he was sick and I stuck with him, never cheated.
When you marry someone you listen to the vows you say and
remember in sickness and in health, forsaking all other's,
til death do we part.
9 Comments, 255 Views,
Why do they get so excited? 6/19/2006|
This is such a public place to have a sexual encounter..
Why would you? And then if you got passed around in this area..
What will everyone think of you? Does that make you a cyber
ho? I think nothing, nothing, take the place of holding
each other in person, talking to each other an being able
to see honesty in someones eyes, , So when a gal or a guy says
NO, , they mean it! i'm ...
4 Comments, 366 Views,
If Your Adult Enough.... 11/13/2006|
To make a connection and follow through with a date that
leaves a less than desired feeling in you, then you should
be adult enough to let the other person know that you are
BUT be careful in hasty judgements..you might turn away
someone, who under different circumstances and in a different
light might be a good fit afterall.
Intuition and "gut" ...
8 Comments, 352 Views,
common decency 6/19/2006|
why is it that when you go to a chat room, there are people
there that when you talk to them they don't respond.
I think it is "Common Decency" to tell that person
you don't wish to conversate with them instead of totally
ignoring them. I would rather have someone tell me "No
Thanks". I would consider it a courtesy rather than
a rejection. I know people don't enjoy being ignored,
but it ...
3 Comments, 55 Views,
if the spelling is correct, try a better title 6/21/2006|
I just had to respond to the article about the choice of names
and the spelling in profiles and e-mails. Call me fussy
but if a person can't take the time to use spell check
when writing a profile or a message, then that turns me off
right away. As for titles...come on, use a little thought...responding
to or even being interested in titles such as "Long
and Slow, " "Hard One, " and ...
3 Comments, 52 Views,
why dont people at least say no thanks 6/19/2006|
it's so fustrating to go to all the trouble to search
for that someone speasel and try to contact them only to
be ignored. if you can contact them they can respond by replying
to e mail. even if for some reasen you cant at least send them
a wink to let them know your interested so they can try to
contact you again
4 Comments, 100 Views,
Response to:- "Love" 6/19/2006|
If I were a man delivering pizzas and a woman said this to
me I'm sure I'd say no thanks give me the ten bucks
and I'll be out of there. I once did an estimate for a
contract for work around a house. The wife answered the
door in her robe and flashed me as her husband stood behind
her. I said no thanks and left. Is it true some woman fall
in love quickly or might some have an alternative ...
8 Comments, 191 Views,
just say im not allowed an opinion 10/18/2006|
i just spent my whole night posting my opinions on members
articles only to be sent back declined.why is it some can
say what they want when others cannot?oh-im not a paying
8 Comments, 315 Views,
how many 'NO THANKS" 10/6/2006|
either I am awfully picky or else I am just the world's
worst judge of character of all. I have sent many emails
out since away before Christmas to email's that wanted
to chat or commute conversation back and forth and from
time to time. I honestly can't tell what a guy is like
through a piece of machinery. So its "No thanks"
"No thanks and so on. How do I know if my 'Mr. Right
might of ...
8 Comments, 268 Views,
Give my regards the hard way! 6/19/2006|
Hey, I don't know about you, but I have trouble coming
up with "no thank you" lines when the person
is down right rude or weird. "No thanks, I'm not
interested, and neither is my room mate" or "No
thanks, I've already had my toes sucked today"
or (My particular favorite) "No thanks, I don't
share my undies with anyone"
I have read and reread my profile, and don't see where
it invites ...
7 Comments, 215 Views,
After 25 years of marriage. My wife at that time had decided
that I was running around. So she left for a week to visit
her dad, on xmas day (1984)This was the third time. So, being
who I am, I divorced her. I was a general contractor and did
NOT have a fling/girl friend. Was out making money to pay
for daily life.
Started to drink in February of that year.Never drank before
6 Comments, 335 Views,
Long distance relationships. 2/11/2007|
Maybe I'm too new to this online dating but I find that
many nice guys respond to me from other cities across the
country but it seems almost like an impossibility that
anything meaningful can come of these long term relationships.
Am I wrong to discourage this or has anyone had success with
long term relationships becoming lasting? It seems that
the local guys in my town don't seem to be ...
7 Comments, 175 Views,
What part of NO do people nOT understand?
13 Comments, 153 Views,
up front, I am married, Is this a problem?If so ,no wasting time 5/14/2010|
I found out that someone lived in my region and wanted to
say a couple of things like greetings, have you lived there
all your life, what do you like to do?
Well that is how I like to start an aquaintance with anyone
I may never meet nor see on this forum in the world.
But I was told what you see in the article title. "Up
front, I am married . Is this a problem? If so, no ...
3 Comments, 357 Views,
Just say no 7/15/2008|
If i meet someone on a sight that dosent spark a connection
i tell that person. Isually i try to remain friends evan
if there is no romantic connection.I have run into some
women that dont feel this is needed, they seam to think it
is ok to just let the other person guess what is going on or
just not answer any further contact. ladies if you meet
some one and there id no connection just ...
7 Comments, 172 Views,
Reply to "rude response" 6/19/2006|
Following SFF advise to write the article first using a
text editor and its spellcheck would help everyone to avoid
2 Comments, 40 Views,
If you are not riding the wave of change
you'll find yourself beneath it.
4 Comments, 161 Views,
Date From Hell 10/18/2006|
This is one of my personal experiences and the names have
been removed to protect the not-so-innocent. Seven years
ago, my mother was dying of cancer. My aunt told me that I
needed a new hobby besides taking care of mom and going to
work and sleeping. I decided to do "online dating".
It was one of my first experiences with online dating. I
emailed her a few times and then used one of ...
4 Comments, 470 Views,
pictures not important 6/15/2006|
I think if you like the person you are chatting with looks
are not important now if you are seriously looking for a
mate a pic ok but we are all friends who cares291 what one
looks like we are chatting.
3 Comments, 217 Views,
in the work place 5/14/2010|
Many of you are thinking that you would never date anyone
from work. This article is for the rest of you. If you are
interested in the guy, you many want to think twice before
playing hard to get.
With today's sexual harassment laws,
you may only get asked once.
So, if you are interested, think twice before saying no
4 Comments, 104 Views,
Re repect. 10/18/2006|
Perhaps if one wants respect one should begin by showing
respect. Like the name or handle you choose.
2 Comments, 32 Views,
THE FIRST STEP... 6/19/2006|
It takes great courage in a lot of cases for people to take
the first step in showing/alerting someone your interested
in them.. it cost nothing to be polite and say... thanks
but no thanks ...it could have taken them weeks to ask you
in the first place.. with others you can see more or less
if their playing games and answer accordingly.... kels
5 Comments, 230 Views,
Passionate Encounters with Chocolate Chip Cookies and Cucumber Sandwiches 12/27/2006|
Chocolate especially in cookies is a major league aphrodisiac.
There is nothing more exotic than dipping a Chocolate Chip
Cookie into a fragrant cup of Java and the sensual combination
slowly melting in my mouth as I close my eyes and mmmmmmmmmmm
what magnificent TANTALIZING fantasies.
If only I could get similar results from dining on cucumbers.
Cucumbers have more vitamins and ...
2 Comments, 104 Views,
hotel lobby request 7/12/2006|
Please I have an unusual request
My car is on the on the far side
Of the parking lot
I am afraid
Would you walk with me
Short and soaked and afraid
Her hair sodden shoelaces
Open face innocence
Had I refused / later learned
I walked her to her car
Waited until she was inside
Her doors locked
As we walked
I had cause to wonder
What the ...
3 Comments, 187 Views,
King of the HoneyDoo Tavern 12/27/2006|
You couldn't get hold of the things you'd
done and turn them right again. Such a power might be given
to the gods, but it was not given to women and men, and that
was probably a good thing. Had it been otherwise, people
would probably die of old age still trying to rewrite their
The Older I am the more I ...
2 Comments, 78 Views,
The Anticlimatic Meeting 6/19/2006|
Sometimes after talking on the phone, sending letters,
pictures and such just not take the place of the first meeting.
I had long learned to keep one's heart out of it until
that first meeting.
Last weekend was one of those. This older gentleman came
to visit for the weekend; we had wonderful conversations,
great dinners sightseeing all over the city and NO chemistry!
3 Comments, 169 Views,
Many Ways to say "No Thanks" 6/19/2006|
- You just walk out the door,
- make a big scene in a restaurant,
- never call again (changing number is a plus!)
- tell them all of their faults,
- claim a mental breakdown,
- tell them _____________ insisted you break up (your spouse,
son, therapist, sponsor, grocery clerk, rottweiler...)
- have your girlfriend call and say you went to a Buddhist
- send a happy-happy St. ...
6 Comments, 196 Views,
so easy to say **no thanks** 6/15/2006|
When asked..no thanks is an easy way to get out of a jam.Sometimes
that is all it takes to get out of a relationship also. This
must be done at the very beginning if you feel you dont really
need the hassle of all the questions and the secrets that
seem to appear.Enter into this type of life can only be a
downfall if all the truth is not brought out in the open.
Past history is not needed, ...
7 Comments, 153 Views,
What is it about rejection people take so personally?
Why did the ex take it so bad that I rejected her offer of X-Mas
Because I reject, or am rejected, is not a personal judgement...at
least I don't perceive it that way. It simply means
I am not interested in that level of involve at that time
with that person.
7 Comments, 158 Views,
Anger - Four of Cups 12/27/2006|
Anger when goals are not met can be used productively. Frustrations
can be used to move ahead,
1 Comments, 85 Views,
Do you ever wonder 5/31/2006|
do men say"no thanks" do men even know how to
say "no". do men ever turn down the offer of going
out with a nice looking lady, do they KNOW how to say "NO"
3 Comments, 219 Views,
Have you actually spoken to most women on this site or are
you generalising? Why do most men on this site judge women
on their appearance? Oops...I am generalising... I have
not spoken to or winked or emailed most of the men on this
site so I should not say that...*naughty me*
4 Comments, 82 Views,
do your best to do not say (no) to any lady 9/9/2007|
if you start to go out with a lady which at the first you think
that she is the one exactly that you have been looking for
and after some dating you will find out that you were wronge.in
my point of view the best way is to tell her the true.if you
just left her by not saying any word of why i had left you, you
might make a question of why he left me on her mind.so on top
of the best life ...
4 Comments, 238 Views,
Re: Has Declined Your Invitation 6/19/2006|
I see I have now been accused of being an angry man... Angry...never
but sadly disappointed with some of the comments made these
ladies One asked me if I had contacted "Every American
Lady"??? I was not aware that every American Lady
was on this site.
I respectfully point out that I am not and never have been
an angry man nor have I ever used insulting or abuseive language
5 Comments, 279 Views,
Welcome 2 Syrian Airlines 4/7/2009|
Welcome 2 Syrian Airlines
This is your captain “Ihab” Welcoming both seated &
standing passengers on board of Syrian Airlines.
We apologize for the four-days delay in aking off, it was
due to bad weather & some overtime I had to put in at the
bakery baking Kaka.
·This is flight 717 to Sham Airport. ...
5 Comments, 113 Views,
Reply to Rude responce2 6/19/2006|
If all you want is proper spelling ask for old english teachers
only. Some of write as we think and a few spelling errors
should not get your shorts in an uprore (I know I misspelled
4 Comments, 67 Views,
you can always block them 6/19/2006|
No one likes rejection. Least of all a man. We have this wonderful
image of ourselves. I look in the mirror when I'm shaving
and see someone totally different in a photograph.
If someone gets in touch who is nothing like the person you
are seeking. Then I see nothing wrong in telling them so.
Why string anyone along?
So, he or she fits the bill. Away you go for your first meeting.
A meal ...
3 Comments, 189 Views,
Let's Have Some Manners! 6/19/2006|
I think we all need to treat those interested in us, whether
online or in person, with at least some human dignity. This
means acknowledging the mail we receive unless it is vulgar
or abusive, finishing a date with the frog who was supposed
to be a prince, unless he creeps us out, and being at least
polite and tactful at all times.
If someone online isn't our cup of tea, a ...
1 Comments, 132 Views,
If you have put someone on your hotlist and have decided,
either you or both of you, not to correspond anymore, please
take that person off your hotlist! Otherwise, there you
are, the first on the list, uninterested, uncommunicative
and just not "un" anymore!
1 Comments, 177 Views,
Good Old-Fashioned Courtesy 6/19/2006|
I'm fairly new to the Internet "meeting scene"
and the first thing I noticed was the discourtesy of someone
not replying to a note that's been sent. I've had
some wonderful encounters. Don't get me wrong. But
I can't help but ask what would it "cost"
to be courteous. After all, are we not all here on the same
journey, trying to reach the same goal .. to find someone
to share life with? ...
5 Comments, 223 Views,
arrange to say no 6/19/2006|
Usually it is "no" so I found the best way is to
set things up so that it is easy to say "no". First
make the date short, in public, in daylight eg for coffee.
Make it clear this is to decide if a second date is a good idea,
nothing more. If it is obviously "no" then say
so. I find most women very helpful at this point ! Typically
"the chemistry is not quite right".
3 Comments, 206 Views,
Honesty Is Worth It 2/22/2007|
We all submit the most flattering photographs, but that
is not fair when the time comes to meet in person. Guess it
takes courage to be that real. I study a photograph for personality,
style, taste, because I can pretty well tell whether there
would be chemistry for me.
Another preliminary contact is by phone, because chemistry
takes place audibly, too.
But, most of all, ...
4 Comments, 183 Views,
I said," No Thanks," Lately... 6/19/2006|
It was to by soon to be ex to her question, "Maybe, someday
That was good practice and it felt good.
I received a drunken phone call at 3a.m. from a lady I donated
a generous ear to in a bar (ok, I'm learning about all
this as I go) and I said, "NO THANKS."
I prefer to be straight from the ...
4 Comments, 145 Views,
First impressions are not always a best indicator for me! 6/15/2006|
Interesting posts by many people.
A lesson I have learned is that my 'gut' instincts
often are much lower then my stomach so not always a great
indicator of what I need in my life
My longest term relationship since the divorce was a person
I had an "OMG a troll!" reaction to when I first
saw him when I rated him by my 'attractive meter'.
2 Comments, 177 Views,
listen you guys
we listened to his trill
“why walk when we can ride,
it’s like 3 AM , no buses,
I’ve done it before , no sweat .”
he tried a number of cars
eventually found one , unlocked
“ see , get in. ” the others got in
I walked home
5 AM I’m home
no use going to bed
stayed up , read
3 Comments, 143 Views,
Has Declined your invitation 6/19/2006|
How many of us have had this?????
You contact some one who's been in the ladies IM room
for ages and you dropped them a short message.
You would think they would at least say thank for contacting
me but I'm......etc
No way...seconds later back comes the reply (lady such
has declined your invitation) it's not an invitation...it's
a contact to see if she wishes to chat...Pity they can't ...
7 Comments, 186 Views,
Just be Honest!!! but Tactful!! 6/19/2006|
If after chatting/meeting someone who may be more interested
in you, than you are in them, just say so.
You don't have to be blatantly blunt by saying "I
think you are a creep", Or "You are really "f'uglier"
than the pic you displayed.
A kind word, "it was really nice to meet you",
"glad you took the time to arrange this meeting",
"however, after weighing all the facts I don't ...
1 Comments, 130 Views,
50 / 50 spread 5/31/2006|
either way 50/50 spread
takes place outside Day’s Inn
G : has just parked his truck , is about to register
he : approaches G
she : follows he
he : can you loan us twenty
G : why?
she : we need to put a deposit on gasoline to get back home
G : deposit ? gasoline ?
she : we ran out of money , ran out of gas ,
can’t make it ...
4 Comments, 162 Views,
make it neat not messy 6/19/2006|
If you are involved with someone and you decide the time
has come to bring your relationship to an end do it honestly
and without any unneeded drama.
2 Comments, 171 Views,
date from hell #2 6/19/2006|
i had a similar exprience like date from hell.i laughed
at his experience but not for long because i realized it's
probably as embarrassing for a male as it is for a female
and they were in a restaurant, no less.my date was at a mall
& started out in fine form but turned ugly when he aske
me to go to his place & I asaid it ws to soon.he whippd
out a nude photo to advertice his appeal &i ran ...
2 Comments, 301 Views,
Does kindness matter when saying 9/9/2007|
I try to remember that the people on the net are not just names
and thumbnail shots, but real people with hearts and histories
and hearts on thier sleeves. We all have enough bumps and
bruises already, and don't need anymore. Sometimes
I hear people excuse unkindness saying "They needed
to be taught a lesson." That may be true but the lesson
of unkindness has probably already been ...
4 Comments, 138 Views,
Response to saying No! 6/19/2006|
If your spouse is dying and the laws of the marrage are holding
you back from cheating, what happens when the spouse that
is dying gives you permision to start a relationship?
His this cheating?
8 Comments, 120 Views,
I consider myself lucky. 6/19/2006|
I take the time to compose a decent note in reply to a woman's request to correspond with her or in initiating my interest in getting to know her.
If we are not interested in each other after a few words we have the option of remaining silent and dropping the idea. This is fine and dandy I guess. It also illustrates what I consider to be a lack of sincerity in the first place.
I always send ...
5 Comments, 115 Views,
Every One Who Writes Me Deserves My Respect 6/19/2006|
I try not to leave anyone feeling "down" just
because we are not a fit. We all are searching for companionship,
with such hope and humility. It has been a sweet venture
for me, for many of you have written complimentary remarks,
that I try to return the favor. Let's all put back into
society good wishes and warmth for having sojourned here.
2 Comments, 130 Views,
respones to your no thanks 6/19/2006|
not only women do that but so do a lot of men.
it doesnt cost any one to be polite.
2 Comments, 102 Views,
Learning to hit the right keys to say NO! 11/3/2005|
I might be able to say NO better if I learned to hit the right
keys, spelling is not my problem it is getting over anxious
and hitting the wrong keys. Please excuse my spelling on
my last article.
1 Comments, 127 Views,
Years 70 ‒ Good Times! 10/1/2015|
Who lived intensely the
70 years is condemned to not to remember of him. At least
not completely. There are such a big irony in that, an irony
so ... years 70...
Because it was a decade of experiences with very little
intermediation. It was not important, early, there was
or I do not register, memory, an inventory from what was
tried. The capture of the ...
6 Comments, 98 Views,
Are sites a Money-making Racket. 6/19/2006|
During the last couple of days, I had made a posting (which
was denied by the offices for reasons they refused to inform
me of) in response to a posting by a guy named "John"
who had made comments concerning these dating/relationships
sites as being Money-making rackets. John's topic
was IN THIS category --- TODAY, it is no where in sight anywhere,
so, I guess the offices decided that it ...
1 Comments, 90 Views,
Joe and a disembodied voice
One Act Play
chair center stage
Joe a retired mechanic sits / waits
Joe enters right / sits
j. so this is it / what the fuck / you die
you wait / a chair / it comes down to this
V. what did you expect / trumpets /
ticker tape parade
J. more than this
V. Joe the no name brand mechanic /
1 Comments, 96 Views,
The word "NO" 11/29/2005|
Is it harder for a woman or a man to tell their friend that
they are not interested anymore. Why is it hard for us to
let the other person know that we are not interested.Wouldn't
you think that maybe one would rather hear the truth than
to be led on thinking everything is still okay between them.
We talk about being open and honest, then when it comes to
something as important as to tell ...
2 Comments, 141 Views,
Whenever I meet someone for the first time it is for coffee.
I have used this way prior to internet dating. I make it clear
that at the end of coffee, we will make a decision on what’s
next. Hand shake and nice meeting you, drinks, dinner.
I have made some friends, date some and dealt with a few jerks.
But it was clear going in that it was coffee only and then ...
2 Comments, 133 Views,
Oh My Gosh! 6/19/2006|
Don't give up on one who has no manors or know how to spark
a relationship, God put everyone here on this big blue planet,
there is always one who is seeking you, even if you gave up
on the first try!
2 Comments, 64 Views,
Has Declined Your Invitation 6/19/2006|
I seem that two votes in my last artical were "Dont
Like's" Presumably these may be two of the ladies
I was talking about and seems I hit a raw nerve.
Sorry if I got to you ladies but I believe in speaking the
And it does seem that if you come from England our American
female cousins are out to ignore us
2 Comments, 156 Views,
Will & Grace without the gay. 9/9/2007|
Everyone I'm sure has watched Will & Grace.Haven't
you ever thought to yourself, "what a great relationship
they have going on"? Only to remember that Will is
gay.But then you start to think.What if you could have that
great relationship without someone.They are best friends
above all else. No matter what life has to in store for them, good
or bad, they'll handle it together.Isn't that ...
2 Comments, 117 Views,
Live for now. 3/29/2015|
When you are over sixty opportunities are less, time is
ticking away, soon you may be unable, so if love comes -
grab it with both hands. When we die, it will be for eternity....
1 Comments, 40 Views,
Being kind when not interested 10/1/2015
If contacted by someone in SFF who expresses interest,
don't be unkind if the person is not to your liking.
1 Comments, 27 Views,