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SPACE

In life, we create problems in relationship and interaction when we do not allow our loved ones the space that they need for their own flights of fancy, activity and choices. That is my reason for choice of this tit le SPACE for my blogs.

Best wishes to all.

GRAND PARENTS AND GRAND
Posted:Aug 5, 2012 8:22 am
Last Updated:Aug 12, 2012 5:37 am
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Grandpa's Computer Memory

My grandfather has recently started a course called 'Computers for the Terrified.' He's nearly eighty and, although used to be an engineer within the US Air Force, he is completely stuck when it comes to computers.

He came back from his first evening at this course. When asked how it had gone, he replied, 'Yes, it was really good. I really enjoyed it, but I really couldn't get to grips with my mole.'

I stopped for a second, completely puzzled, until I realised he was talking about the mouse.


Grandfather's Size

You've got to do your own growing, no matter how tall your grandfather was.


Grandfather's Travels

My grandfather started walking five miles a day when he was 60.........................Now he's 97 years old and we don't know where he is.


Mother Knows Best - Eventually

One day, young Sarah girl was watching her mother make a roast sirloin of beef. She cut off the ends, wrapped it in string, seasoned it and set it in the roasting dish.

Sarah politely asked her mum why she cut off the ends of the roast. Mum replied, after some thought, that it was the way that her mother had done it.

That night grandma came to dinner and Sarah and her mother asked why she had cut the end off of the roast before cooking. After some thought grandma replied, she cooked the meat the way her mother had done it.

Now great-grandma was quite old and lived in a residential nursing home, so Sarah, her mum and grandma went to visit her and again asked the very same question.

Great-grandma looked at them a bit surprised and said, 'So it would fit in the roasting dish, of course.'


Never have , only grandchildren.

-Gore Vidal

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JUST A REMINDER
Posted:Aug 2, 2012 2:07 am
Last Updated:Aug 4, 2012 7:18 am
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Who says the sun is set? It has just temporarily gone beyond my horizon!"

Life is not waiting for the storms to pass.........its about learning how to dance in the rain.

We don't stop laughing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop laughing

Today is the oldest you've ever been, yet the youngest you'll ever be...so enjoy this day while it lasts !!!!

Life is short, Break the rules, Forgive quickly, Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably, .........and never regret anything that made you smile

Life is too short to wake up with regrets... Love the people who treat you right and have compassion for the ones who don't.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance"

ENJOY LIFE NOW - NOW HAS AN EXPIRY DATE!

Live today because tomorrow is not promised.
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TO PUT A SMILE ON YOUR FACE
Posted:Jul 29, 2012 6:12 am
Last Updated:Aug 4, 2012 6:37 am
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THE CARDIOLOGISTS' FUNERAL



A cardiologist died and was given an elaborate funeral attended by fellow physicians, family members, friends.... A huge heart covered in flowers stood behind the casket during the service. Following the eulogy, the heart opened, and the casket rolled inside. The heart then closed, sealing the doctor in the beautiful heart forever.

At that point, one of the mourners burst into laughter. When all eyes stared at him, he said, "I'm sorry, I was just thinking of my own funeral ....I'm a gynecologist."

That's when the proctologist fainted.
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BOYS' MINDS
Posted:Jul 29, 2012 1:57 am
Last Updated:Jul 29, 2012 10:04 pm
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HELP
Posted:Jul 29, 2012 12:08 am
Last Updated:Jul 30, 2012 1:30 am
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Perhaps I need a little help.

I have uploaded this very nice image that compliments my post (image) on Girls' Minds so aptly; it has been done several times correctly but it disappears next time I log in.

Anyone anyone clues - help gratefully acknowledge in advance.

Have a great Sunday and the coming week.
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GIRLS' MINDS
Posted:Jul 28, 2012 6:33 am
Last Updated:Jul 30, 2012 9:13 pm
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OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY
Posted:Jul 26, 2012 6:58 am
Last Updated:Jul 27, 2012 4:09 pm
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“Gratitude bestows reverence, allowing us to encounter everyday epiphanies, those transcendent moments of awe that change forever how we experience life and the world.”


-John Milton


Epiphanies and awe are not the things that we discuss in our day-to-day conversations. More often mentioned are the annoying, embarrassing, frustrating moments: the Monday morning meeting where your boss rips apart your project proposal, or the fact that you came home to find your dog, haunches-deep in the overturned garbage can.

“When we are feeling scared, worried, or overwhelmed in life, it’s hard to find our gratitude,” says Karol Ward, LCSW, a licensed psychotherapist. “Our minds feel caught in a loop of anxiety, which makes us view the world through a darker lens.”
How does one get beyond this world of stress-induced irritation? Is it possible to experience “everyday epiphanies,” even as you find yourself staring at life through a barrel of obscure blackness?

Milton thinks so—he even tells you how to do it with one, simple word: Gratitude.

What is gratitude?

According to relationship advice expert, April Masini, being grateful means, “taking yourself out of the moment and out of the situation, enough to see that things could be worse,” she says, “Gratitude is the ability to rise above.”

Mastering this ability to rise above can do wonders for your physical and mental health and wellbeing.

Elizabeth Waterman, Psy.D., a psychologist who specializes in mood and anxiety disorders, says that gratitude is a very healing emotion that can help you gain a more optimistic outlook on life and, as a result, access a wider and more reliable social support network.

She also points out that a number of different studies have linked feelings of gratitude with reduced stress and a healthier immune system, and says that substantial evidence shows that grateful people are more likely to take care of their own health by eating right and exercising.

Transcending everyday stress

Since human beings lack wings, we can’t physically fly away from our problems.

What we can do, according to Waterman, is practice being grateful for the good things in our lives—even when these things are nearly impossible to recognize. “Even if you aren’t feeling positive or grateful about your situation, you can enact certain behaviors and the [grateful] attitudes and feelings will follow,” she says.

Here are a few tips to help your find your wings of gratitude and rise above negative emotions:

1. Thank our mortal guardian angels: Whether or not you refer to them as guardian angels, everyone has certain people in their lives that love and support them. These are the people who’ve gotten you through past trials, or are currently helping you cope with life’s difficulties. Taking the time to thank these folks will not only make them feel good, but it is also likely to generate a host of positive feelings within you as well. When expressing your gratitude, Waterman says that face-to-face interactions are best because they can provide a more powerful positive response. But, if time and distance prohibit you from thanking your earth-bound angel in person, a hand-written thank you note will certainly suffice.

2. Share our light: Ward touts the power of smiling and greeting the people you see on the street or in the grocery store. Even if you don’t know someone personally, Ward says that when you say ‘Hi’ to a stranger, you may, “be surprised by how another person’s smile or wise words can lift your spirits.”

3. Spend 8 minutes on Cloud 9: Each day, Waterman suggests taking eight minutes to sit and reflect on the positive experiences in your life. If your present situation seems too gloomy, you can turn your attention to the simpler days of yesteryear. Delve into those moments and really feel the positivity and gratitude that wells up inside of you when you think about them.

4. Collect daily joy sprites: It’s easy to get so caught up in our own problems that we fail to notice the beautiful moments of everyday life. Waterman’s remedy for this is to keep small pieces of paper and a pencil with you wherever you go. Throughout the day, as you notice things like how nice the flowers in your garden smell, or how great a cool breeze feels on a hot summer day, write them down. At the end of the day, re-read those pieces of paper, and then put them in a special box for safekeeping and future reference.

5. DIY our wings: If it’s just been, “one of those days,” and you can’t seem to pinpoint any instances of positivity, you may need to create your own motivational moments. Ward advises searching for inspiration in books, videos, music—anywhere you can find it. For a quick pick-me-up, buy a book of motivational quotes, or create your own, personalized list of poignant phrases. According to Ward, doing this as little as once a day for a week can be enough to help foster feelings of gratitude and perspective.

6. Seek out like-minded souls: People have a tendency to feed off of one another’s emotional vibes. This means that just one Negative Nancy or Positive Polly can influence the attitudes of those around them. “Negativity is contagious,” Waterman says, “but so is positivity.” She stresses that it’s vital to maintain a network of positive people who can support you and offer perspective when needed.

Fostering an attitude of gratitude can be difficult, especially when you’re feeling smothered by life’s challenges. Even if you do every single one of the things on the list above, the effects won’t be miraculous or instantaneous. As Masini says,” Cultivating gratitude is a matter of discipline. It requires mindfulness and focus.”


- C/P from Care2.com
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SEE WHAT YOUR EYES SAY
Posted:Jul 25, 2012 2:14 am
Last Updated:Jul 26, 2012 6:51 am
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This is a reproduction (C/P) of a very useful article that I read which should be very useful to all of us.

Please do have a cup of your favourite hot/cold beverage handy.


Looking someone straight in the eye may or may not reveal their honesty — but the eyes can tell you about cholesterol, liver disease, or diabetes, if you know what to look for.

“The eye is a unique window into health,” says ophthalmologist Andrew Iwach, spokesperson for the American Academy of Ophthalmology (AAO ) and Executive Director of the Glaucoma Center of San Francisco. “It’s the only place in the body where, without surgery, we can look in and see veins, arteries, and a nerve (the optic nerve).”

The eyes’ transparency explains why common eye diseases such as glaucoma, cataracts, and macular degeneration can be detected early with regular eye exams.

“Unfortunately, people get busy and delay not only eye exams but regular physicals. That’s why eye doctors sometimes discover other issues, like diabetes or high blood pressure,” Iwach says.
Especially vulnerable, he says: People like caregivers, who worry about others around them while neglecting care for themselves.

Keep your eye out for these 14 problems:

1. Red flag: Disappearing eyebrows

What it means: Shaved eyebrows are a fad (or fashion, if you will) in some circles. But when the outer third of the brows (the part closest to the ears) starts to disappear on its own, this is a common sign of thyroid disease — either hyperthyroidism (overactive thyroid gland) or hypothyroidism (underactive thyroid gland). The thyroid is a small but critical gland that helps regulate metabolism, and thyroid hormones are among those critical to hair production.

More clues: Brows tend to thin with age naturally. But with thyroid disease, the brow-hair loss isn’t evenly distributed; it’s a selective dropout on the ends. There’s usually a loss of hair elsewhere on the body, too, but the brows are so prominent, it’s often noticed here first. Early graying is a related sign of a thyroid problem. Women are more often affected than men, and hyperthyroidism especially strikes women in their 20s and 30s.

What to do: Mention this symptom to a dermatologist or your regular doctor. Most other symptoms of both hyper- and hypothyroidism are notoriously broad and general. Before you see a doctor, make note of any other changes you’ve noticed, possibly concerning weight, energy levels, bowel or menstrual regularity, mood, or skin changes.

2. Red flag: A stye that won’t go away

What it means: The vast majority of the time, a small, raised, often reddish bump along the inner or outer eyelid margin is just an unsightly but innocuous stye (also called a “chalazion”). But if the spot doesn’t clear up in three months, or seems to keep recurring in the same location, it can also be a rare cancer (sebaceous gland carcinoma).

More clues: Actual styes are plugged-up oil glands at the eyelash follicle. Fairly common, they tend to clear up within a month. A cancerous cyst that mimics a stye, on the other hand, doesn’t go away.
(Or it may seem to go away but return in the same spot.) Another eyelid cancer warning sign: Loss of some of the eyelashes around the stye.

What to do: Point out a persistent stye to an ophthalmologist (a medical doctor who specializes in the eye). A biopsy can confirm the diagnosis. The stye is usually removed surgically.

3. Red flag: Bumpy yellowish patches on the eyelid

What it means: Xanthelasma palpebra, the medical name for these tiny yellow bumps, are usually a warning you that you may have high cholesterol. They’re also called “cholesterol bumps” — they’re basically fatty deposits.

More clues: Sometimes people mistake these bumps for a stye, but with xanthelasma, there tends to be more than one bump and they’re quite small.

What to do: See your doctor or a skin or eye specialist. A diagnosis can usually be made by sight. An ophthalmologist can also examine the eye and see deposits; for this reason, in fact, sometimes high cholesterol is first diagnosed during a routine eye exam. The problem usually isn’t serious and doesn’t cause pain or vision problems. A physician will also evaluate you for other signs of coronary artery disease.

4. Red flag: Burning eyes, blurry vision while using a computer

What it means: You might be a workaholic, and you definitely have “computer vision syndrome” (CVS). The eyestrain is partly caused by the lack of contrast on a computer screen (compared with ink on paper) and the extra work involved in focusing on pixels of light. What’s more, by midlife the eyes lose some of their ability to produce lubricating tears. Irritation sets in, adding to blurriness and discomfort.

More clues: Does the problem worsen in the afternoon (when the eyes tend to become drier)? Is it
worse when you’re reading fine print (more eyestrain)? People who wear glasses or contacts tend to be bothered more by CVS. “Sometimes the problem is made worse by a fan positioned so it blows right in the face,” the AAO’s Iwach adds, noting that the air further dries tired eyes.

What to do: Reduce glare by closing window shades, investing in a computer hood, or checking out antireflective coating for your glasses (if you wear them). Simply tinkering with the contrast of your screen can help, too. White areas should neither glow brightly like a light source nor appear gray. Flat-panel LCD display screens (like those on laptops) cause less eyestrain than older models. Keep reference material close to the same height as your monitor, giving your eyes a break from having to refocus so much.

5. Red flag: Increasing gunk in the eye

What it means: Blepharitis — inflammation of the eyelids, especially at the edges — can have several causes. Two of them, surprisingly, are conditions better associated with other body parts: scalp dandruff and acne rosacea (which causes flushed red skin, usually in the faces of fair-skinned women at midlife).

More clues: The eyes may also feel irritated, as if specks have gotten in them. They may burn, tear, or feel dry. The crusty debris tends to gather in the lashes or the inner corners of the eyes, or even on the lids.

What to do: With clean hands, apply a warm, damp washcloth to the eyes for about five minutes at a time to loosen debris and soothe the skin. See a doctor, who may prescribe an antibiotic ointment or oral antibiotics, as well as artificial tears.

6. Red flag: A small blind spot in your vision, with shimmering lights or a wavy line

What it means: An ocular migraine (also called an “ophthalmic migraine,” “optical migraine,” or “migraine aura”) produces this disturbed vision, with or without an accompanying headache. Changes in blood flow to the brain are thought to be the cause.

More clues: The visual distortion starts in the center of the field of vision. It might appear as a bright dot, dots, or a line that can seem to move and disrupt your ability to see properly, as if you were looking through a pocked or cracked window. It’s painless and causes no lasting damage. Individuals seem to have different triggers (ranging from chocolate, caffeine, and alcohol to stress). A headache, possibly severe enough to cause nausea, sometimes follows.

What to do: If you’re driving, pull over until the phenomenon passes (usually within an hour). Do have an eye specialist check it out if vision impairment lasts more than an hour or so, to rule out serious problems such as a retinal tear; or if you also experience other symptoms elsewhere that could indicate stroke or seizure (such as fever, loss of muscle strength, or speech impairment).

7. Red flag: Red, itchy eyes

What it means: Many things can irritate eyes, but itchiness accompanied by sneezing, coughing, sinus congestion, and/or a runny nose, usually screams “I’m allergic!” When the eyes are involved, the trigger is usually airborne, like pollen, dust, or animal dander.

More clues: An eye allergy can also be caused by certain cosmetics or ointments. Some people, for example, are allergic to the preservative in eye drops used to treat dry eyes.

What to do: Staying away from the allergic trigger is the usual treatment. Antihistamines can treat the itchiness; those in eye-drop or gel form deliver relief to the eyes faster. If the problem turns out to be an allergy to eye drops, look for a preservative-free brand.

8. Red flag: Whites of the eye turned yellowish

What it means: Two groups of people most often show this symptom, known as jaundice: Newborns with immature liver function and adults with problems of the liver, gallbladder, or bile ducts, including hepatitis and cirrhosis. The yellow in the white part of the eye (the sclera) is caused by a buildup of bilirubin, the by-product of old red blood cells the liver can’t process.

More clues: “Other tissues of the body would have the same look, but we can’t see it as clearly as in the whites of the eye,” says ophthalmologist Iwach. (Skin can also turn yellowish when a person consumes too much beta carotene — found in carrots — but in those cases the whites of the eyes remain white.)

What to do: Mention the symptom to a doctor if the person isn’t already under care for a liver-related disease, so the jaundice can be evaluated and the underlying cause treated.

9. Red flag: A bump or brown spot on the eyelid

What it means: Even people who are vigilant about checking their skin may overlook the eyelid as a spot where skin cancer can strike. Most malignant eyelid tumors are basal cell carcinoma. When such a tumor appears as a brown spot, then — as with any other form of skin cancer — it’s more likely to be malignant melanoma.

More clues: Elderly, fair-skinned people are at highest risk. Look especially at the lower eyelid. The bump may look pearly, with tiny blood vessels. If the bump is in the eyelash area, some eyelashes may be missing.

What to do: Always have any suspicious skin spots or sores checked out by a dermatologist, family physician, or eye doctor. Early detection is critical, before the problem spreads to nearby lymph nodes.

10. Red flag: Eyes that seem to bulge

What it means: The most common cause of protruding eyes is hyperthyroidism (overactivity of the thyroid gland), especially the form known as Graves’ disease. (First Lady Barbara Bush had it.)

More clues: One way to tell if an eye is bulging is to see whether there’s any visible white part between the top of the iris and the upper eyelid, because normally there shouldn’t be. (Some people inherit a tendency toward eyes that bulge, so if the appearance seems to run in a family, it probably isn’t hyperthyroidism.) The person may not blink often and may seem to be staring at you. Because the condition develops slowly, it’s sometimes first noticed in photos or by the occasional visitor rather than by someone who lives with the person every day.

What to do: Mention the symptom to a doctor, especially if it’s present in tandem with other signs of Graves’, including blurry vision, restlessness, fatigue, increase in appetite, weight loss, tremors, and palpitations. A blood test can measure thyroid levels. Treatment includes medication and surgery.

11. Red flag: Sudden double vision, dim vision, or loss of vision

What it means: These are the visual warning signs of stroke.

More clues: The other signs of stroke include sudden numbness or weakness of the arm or leg or face,
typically on just one side of the body; trouble walking because of dizziness or loss of balance or
coordination; slurred speech; or bad headache. In a large stroke (caused by a blood clot or bleeding in the brain), these symptoms happen all at once. In a smaller stroke caused by narrowed arteries, they can occur across a longer period of minutes or hours.

What to do: Seek immediate medical help by calling 911.

12. Red flag: Dry eyes that are sensitive to light

What it means: Sjogren’s (pronounced “show-grins”) syndrome is an immune system disorder. It impairs the glands in the eyes and mouth that keep them moist.

More clues: Sjogren’s usually affects women over age 40 with autoimmune disorders such as rheumatoid arthritis or lupus. Usually the eyes and mouth are affected together. The person may also have vaginal dryness, dry sinuses, and dry skin. Because of a lack of saliva, it can be difficult to chew and swallow.

What to do: A doctor can diagnose Sjogren’s through testing. Artificial lubricants (such as artificial tears) are usually necessary to protect the eyes, as well as to improve eating. Drinking plenty of water also helps.

13. Red flag: Sudden difficulty closing one eye, inability to control tears in it

What it means: Bell’s palsy is an impairment of the nerve that controls facial muscles (the seventh cranial nerve), causing temporary paralysis in half the face. It sometimes follows a viral infection (such as shingles, mono, or HIV) or a bacterial infection (such as Lyme disease). Diabetics and pregnant women are also at higher risk.

More clues: Half of the entire face, not just the eye, is affected. Effects vary from person to person, but the overall effect is for the face to appear droopy and be weak. The eyelid may droop and be difficult or impossible to close, and there will be either excessive tearing or an inability to produce tears. The effects tend to come on suddenly.

What to do: See a doctor. Most cases are temporary and the person recovers completely within weeks. Rarely, the condition can recur. Physical therapy helps restore speaking, smiling, and other tasks that require the facial muscles working in unison, and it also helps avoid an asymmetrical appearance. Professional eye care can keep the affected eye lubricated and undamaged.

14. Red flag: Blurred vision in a diabetic

What it means: Diabetics are at increased risk for several eye problems, including glaucoma and cataracts. But the most common threat to vision is diabetic retinopathy, in which the diabetes affects the circulatory system of the eye. It’s the leading cause of blindness in American adults.

More clues: The changes linked to diabetic retinopathy tend to show up in people who have had the disease for a long time, not those recently diagnosed. The person may also see “floaters,” tiny dark specks in the field of vision. Sometimes diabetes causes small hemorrhages (bleeding) that are visible in the eye. There’s no pain. People with poorly controlled blood sugar may have worse symptoms.

What to do: Someone with diabetes should have a dilated eye exam annually to catch and control the earliest stages of retinopathy, glaucoma, cataracts, or other changes — before they manifest as changes you’re aware of.
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STEPS TO CREATIVITY
Posted:Jul 23, 2012 3:37 pm
Last Updated:May 23, 2024 6:10 pm
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This is an adaptation from a Deepak Chopra writing which I reproduce for the reading pleasure of all Many thanks for reading - have a fun filled creative day. .

Whether you are creating an original work of art, a new piece of music, a unique software program, or a healing response to an illness, creativity requires a leap in awareness. If you are improving on something that already exists, that is innovation. Creativity brings something into existence that has never been there before.

There are some basic steps to the creative response. Become conscious of these steps and use the creative response whenever you are facing an issue or challenge in your life. You have unlimited creative potential that can be used to solve any problem you are facing.

1. Intended outcome: Have a clear vision of what it is that you want to have unfold. Avoid defining your intentions in terms of what you don’t want.

2. Information gathering: Learn everything that is available about the issue you are facing. Recognize that your particular variation is unique. Pay attention to the sensations in your body as you learn what others have to say about the issue.

3. Information reshuffling and information analysis: As you gather information, your mind will digest what you are learning, formatting the information in ways that are useful to you. Look for patterns.

4. Incubation: In incubation, you allow your awareness to settle into a more expanded state of consciousness through meditation. Incubation is a stage of surrender.

5. Insight: Insight results from the rearranging of the previous relationships and meanings into an entirely new context, which then allows for an entirely new interpretation.
6. Inspiration: When you really see things in a new light, your entire mind/body becomes energized. You know in your mind that your insight is true and you feel in your body that the insight is right.

7. Implementation, integration and incarnation: As you integrate and implement the insight into your thinking and behavior, you incarnate it in your body. It becomes a part of you, and as a result you are a new person.

8. Archimedes, the archetypal creative response: Set up conditions that allow you to experience a creative quantum leap and you will access life energy that was previously unavailable
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GRATITUDE
Posted:Jul 22, 2012 3:39 pm
Last Updated:Jul 23, 2012 3:49 pm
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