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HAVE YOU CHANGED SINCE YOU JOINED SFF, AND HOW?
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Nov 3, 2009 11:30 am
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I wonder about the members here in SFF. Do you think you have changed since you joined the site?
Some people have been here for 10 years or more, and I wonder if you, the members, hadnt joined SFF in the first instance, what would you be like now. Would you have changed in a different way,would you be a bit isolated, lonely, or does SFF have no effect on you at all.
Change is usually a good thing, in the real world, but can a person in cyber world or on a Social Networking site change because of being here and if so would it have any influence on your thinking or judgment when you have been here for some years. It has been known to change the very young, if they are not rescued in time. Being popular is very important to most young people, until they discover how unimportant it really is.
I have been here for over two years.
I am in a 12 step programme which encourages change, so over the past 25 years I have changed in my real life, quite a lot really, from the person I used to be 25 years ago.
I dont think a cyber site can bring about much change in a persons personality
Recently someone said that I had changed but not for the better.
That made me think about myself and if undue influences can be strong enough to encourage a person to be someone they are really not and if so, why. Do we honestly try to go along with the majority? Is it easier?
I was never one to follow the crowd, I was never part of any group of women. It probably did bother me a bit when I was young, but as I made my own way through life, I became more independent and was happy to be a bit of a loner, - I liked my own company at times and didnt want any intrusion. I can get along with women much better now, but it has always been a big problem. I think I create barriers. I came here with my own personality, and I feel I still am the same person. In the real world I have been described as a very private person. I wonder what other people feel about all this. Im really interested. I know men can feel left out of the crowd too, but do they have their own way of dealing with it. I know a man who never went out without his wife or family, and doesnt know how to socialize on his own, even to go for a pint.
My opinion is that for me, I am exactly who I am, I doubt if a cyber or social site can change me from the real person I have always been and the only changes I can make to myself are in my real life.
A lot of people joining social sites can be left vulnerable by the loss of a partner, husband/wife, divorce, and the self esteem and confidence might be gone for awhile. Encouraging words, no matter here or in your real life, can be just that, encouraging, and help to get you back functioning again, as has happened here, and as I learned from the sharing from members.
While I was looking at the pictures from the St.Petes Bash, I wondered, when I saw all the women getting on so well, would I truly have been happy there, even tho' I said I would love to have been part of it.
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