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The 5 Stages of Committment - One man's view Sep 26, 2007 6:39 am
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Let's see what I can stir-up with this one.
Stage #1: Acquaintances
The 1st email, Why? With me it was one of us either liking the other's looks, or a profile feature; being a romantic, phrases like "Moonlight dancing", "Looking at the stars together", Sipping wine in front of the fireplace". Yep; if you said that, you got my attention. Then there's the Interest Activities, most of you that know me, also know Boating, Fishing, Gardening & Dancing would get you a reply.
Stage #2: Friendship
You develop a common interest, something that makes you want to stay in touch with each other.
I believe this is why SFF developed their Friend's Network
Stage #3: Flirting (for lack of a better word) This stage divides your friends into two separate identities. There is that "Very Special Feature" that stands out and says to you "Let's take a chance" I flirt with; those gals that are down right beautiful, (hoping their photos are recent & them). Also; I like intelligence and wit
the Blogs have provided me with so many attractive, intelligent women to email. It doesn't matter at this stage whether they won't relocate or if you will ever meet them in person or not.
"You just enjoy the exchange", you check your email in the morning and seeing their rely makes your day. I guess I could also have called this the fantasy stage.
Stage #4: Dating (this is what got me in trouble in another blog) So let's see what Webster says:
"Making an appointment with a member of the opposite sex" and "To have social engagements with members of the opposite sex". This is where you must separate the girls your flirting with into those that are willing to make an appointment with you - or - as I call it the moment of truth; are you who you said you were, are you compatible, if sex is involved, was it satisfying, (to both of you). And the most important element that must be considered is "are you willing to spend the rest of your life with this person".
Stage #5: Going Steady (living together, marriage). At this point you should both be willing to be settle down with your chosen one
for the rest of your lives. I think stage #5 is what we are all looking for on SFF; however, without approaching Stage 4, (dating) your kidding yourself. Now the controversy, (yep, I'm doing it again, get me gals). Life, as with any sport or activity is not perfect, who is lucky enough to get a strait Flush every time they play cards or get a basket every time they throw the ball. I do believe dating should be approached with honesty; however, until I find the right person, Stage #5 will be a distant reality, a hope and a dream.
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Long Distance Relationships, The Sequel Sep 20, 2007 2:05 pm
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I feel I have learned so much about the Dating Scene from the last Blog that I'd like to follow it up without turning it into a love/hate discussion because of my insensitive remarks.

After talking to many of you on a one-on-one basis, I realize that the frustration of these Long Distance Relationships is quite wide spread.
To avoid this type of thing from happening to me, I set my cupid setting at 200 miles; however, it didn't take me long to discover it just was not going to happen.

I have many friends living a great distance away; however, thats all we are, (friends). Sure there may be a little flirting going on, but as long as you keep it honest, no harm is done and no one gets hurt.

Then like most of you have experienced, someone very special comes on the scene.What do you do next?
I'd never ask anyone to give up their life for mine, nor could I give up mine for them.
How do you handle it: Try to go back to being friends, be content with visiting each other as time and money permits, or just take a chance and move in together.
I have been told that sometimes that works, but most of you say it didn't.

I'd like to stick to the subject this time and hear how you feel about it. Because frankly I'm still looking for answers.
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Long Distance Relationships Sep 15, 2007 6:37 pm
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So you find a possible match - Then what? Sep 13, 2007 10:28 am
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It's been a roller coaster. Since I have been on SFF I have met a lot of nice people, a lot of interesting people a few outright nuts.

Why is it all the ones your really interested in live on the other side of the moon. So what do you do, fly them in for a weekend, that don't necessarily work, hell; 2 nights with anyone half way nice looking and/or exciting is still a high.

So you exchange home emails and telephone numbers, after finding a way to trick SFF, so it isn't dumped. You talk and find some level ground for a relationship, (remember we are here because we are lonely) and you start to convince yourself, this could be great, (my true soul mate). Then what?

Now to my original question; Does he/she own a house or renting, how many vehicles must be moved, how many pets must be moved and will their be sex other than on the phone and what is their preference (I hope this gets thru SFF). But seriously; we are seniors and this can make or break a relationship.

Have any of you made this move? Please respond because I'm getting frustrated with all this telephone sex and might just have found a gal to move. At lease I have it narrowed to 2, (3 if you count California). Thank God I kept my search to the original 48 states, because that fishing lady in Alaska sure looks good. And I hear my buddy in Michigan is walking again.

I'm in enough trouble now; so I'll close with "I am serious about wanting inputs from those of you that have made a long distance relationship work".
Gary AKA LodgeManager
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Help in getting the word out Aug 1, 2007 4:20 am
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Hi Guys & Gals;

I'm trying to get a Social Club going in my area for BOTH Guys & Gals. I just realized that most of my contacts have been with women, (Duh); however, we need you guys to make it a social.
So as not to clog the blogs with what might appear as advertisement. I have opened a local group, (address below). I'd like anyone that might be interested in attending any functions and/or give me ideas, please join my group so I can get the word out to everyone on how we are doing. The Senior Social Club Activities will all be free, (no hidden costs). And I learned my lesson, I'm not putting any distance restraint.

Groups > World > USA > North Carolina > Eastern North Carolina > Cape Hatteras & Vicinity > Lunker Lodge Social Club
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Should I try again? Jul 30, 2007 5:08 am
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I recently (6/22/07) broke up with my girl friend of two years. She was twenty years my junior; however, that did not seem to be the problem. It was a bad scene (maxing out my credit card after she left, etc., etc,.).
I'm over us; meaning I now know I can exist with out her in my life; although, I'm not over her, (there's still a lot of feelings).
She has been calling daily wanting to come back.
What should I do?
Forget & Forgive
Don't be a fool again
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Hosting a picnic - What type of Entertainment Jul 29, 2007 9:58 am
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We are having a "Senior's Picnic" at the Lunker Lodge in Hertford, NC on Sat. Sept. 1st. Nothing fancy, B.Y.O.B. and Pot Luck dinner.
Everything is free, including Lodging for the 1st 30 requesting it, (plenty of space for Campers/RVs/Tents).

We are planning on a Jam Session and/or Karaoke. We will have horse shoes, volleyball, basketball and a pool table available. There will also be boat rides, fishing and swimming for those that want it.

For more information check out our group at: Groups > World > USA > North Carolina > Eastern North Carolina > Cape Hatteras & Vicinity > Lunker Lodge Social Club
Jam Session
Karaoke
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