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LodgeManager has closed his Profile Jan 9, 2008 7:09 am
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Friends; when you read this on my Profile, here is the rest of the story...

Hi friend;
I'm off on a short trip until January 25th, 2008.
During this time I'll be turning off my profile until I return.

This is a cut and paste message to all my friends on SFF, I'm heading out the door ASAP.

If you get a duplicate of this message, it means your on my special "Wink-A-Day" List.

I have not given up on trying to establish a meaningful and beneficial Network of Seniors that can share experiences and bond with a common goal.
"Friendship"

Maggie; (GS4U) will have her lap top and will be checking her Profile when ever we get service.

Knowing her, she will probably write a Blog or two on our trip.

Luv Gary AKA Your Friend

For my Friend's Network (ONLY), watch for all the new pictures in my Albums when I return.
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LODGE MANAGER IS OFF DATING, (But not off friends) Dec 14, 2007 8:15 am
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LODGE MANAGER IS OFF DATING, (But not off friends)

The dating saga is over, thanks for the responses and advice; however, before I retire from Blogdom I want your advice and comments on "Your (my) Friends Network".

My friend White Fox has 3K plus, I have close to 100, (mostly Standard Members who are not able to see photos otherwise).

I thought my friend's network was like a Social Club; a forum where people, (both men & women) could exchange information and photos and not be subject to abuse or criticism from those not sharing your ideas.

I did not intend it to be a dating forum; however, when I made it known I was not looking for anyone, I had three members remove themselves. I'm not surprised; whereas, I myself came on SFF to find someone to share my life.

Now that Maggie, (GS4U) and I plan on becoming a couple, I'm going to leave the Blogs mostly to her and I want to work my "Friend's Network" like I feel it should be done. I'd like your comments and suggestions.

I have a very simple format in mind, some of my initial goals are as follows:

Use my Bulletin as an Announcement Board, (Bi-weekly or Monthly);
Let everyone know of important events, (Deaths, Births, Socials/Bashes, Marriages, Friendships, etc.)

Use my Photo Albums as a source of sharing SFF pictures, not only those taken at the lodge, but those sent to me by my friends.

Use the email activities as an Information Sharing Forum as follows:
1. Talk to each other in the moment of need, (share happiness and/or sorrow).
2. Ask advice on household, maintenance, vacation, retirement, health, insurance, etc. etc. etc.
3. Share information, (to many options to list).
4. Meet people of similar interests in a safer environment, (we all know each other better than the general membership).

I could go on and on; however, by now you get the drift. we already all have one thing in common, we are all members of SFF.

Am I wasting my time, is this feasible, how do you feel about the concept ?
AS always I appreciate your comments both "Pro & Con"
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STAGE #5 - I've met my match !!! Dec 10, 2007 8:46 am
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I'd like to start this Blog off by Thanking everyone that has replied to my Blogs, (both Pro & Con).
I've had fun with my Dating Series, if you don't know by now, I purposely tried to stir things up; however, for the most part I was able to get out of the mess I started.

OK; you came here to see who my Match is and if you have not guessed by now, it is GS4U. We have survived over six weeks in our two dates and we plan on getting together again after the holidays to give living together a try, wish us luck.

The sun glasses are prescription, those I have dated know the story behind them, (enough said on that subject).

I'm going to leave the Blog writing to Smiles; although, I will continue to keep in touch with my Friend's Network on my profile.
As my profile now reads I'm out of the dating game. It won't be easy at our age, both of us our set in our ways, but we have decided to give it our best effort.

I'm leaving a few wonderful friends on SFF but as my profile states I am a One Gal Guy and I have tried to be honest with all my friends. If I had to do this SFF dating over again I'd limit my search to those willing to relocate; although, I have no regrets for I have met the cream of the crop and have deep affection to those I have met.

Be kind my friends and I wish you all great happiness and may you also find your soul mates.

Luv Gary AKA LodgeManager
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DOES DATING HAVE TO RUIN A FRIENDSHIP? Nov 24, 2007 3:37 pm
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DOES DATING HAVE TO RUIN A FRIENDSHIP?

This is really a three part Blog;
1st the friendship of the person you have the date with.
2nd the friendships you have with former dates.
3rd the friendships you have with others you have not dated.

I'm giving my opinion in a reverse order; whereas, I always address the simplest task first. I realize this may be a gender thing; however, I believe the basic question involves both sexes.

Friendship of those you have not dated. I sure hope not; whereas, I have approximately 100 men and women on my friends network.
I don't think so, true friends should want you to be happy. They want to be part of your life and if it means sharing you with someone you really care for, they would be happy for you both.

Friendship of those you have dated. This is a tough question to answer, it depends on two different emotions; how did you feel about each other during the date, (was it good for both of you or did it leaving one or the other unsure of their feelings)?

The second emotion is your current feelings for each other. If you left wanting a second date, you're on a teeter-totter, it could go either way. I'd like to think that all of my dates (3) and I wanted another date, I know I did. I'm not going to go into the LDR factor that may prevent this or at the least make it very difficult, (that Blog has been written before). I don't have an answer, just an opinion. I think if you're honest with each other; YES you can still be friends.

Friendship of the person you have a date with. Duh! My first though is you must be friends or you wouldn't be on a date to start with. True; however, the date must end, (beware if your date brings 5 suitcase and her computer, she's planning on staying).
Enough joking, this is a serious subject, anytime your playing with someone's heart, someone could get hurt. Both of you MUST BE HONEST!
Don't make promises you can't keep and don't lie about your feelings.

You know I wrote this Blog because of a phone call I received, and I didn't have the answer then and don't have it now. But I'd like your opinion on this subject, Most of the Bloggers I have met and read are wise and understanding people.
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I'm back! - Would I recommend advertising a Date? Nov 19, 2007 8:06 pm
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As popular as GS4U's Blog was
"I have a date with Lodge Manager"
would I do it or approve it again???
HELL NO!
I have to say it did get things stirred up and YES, I approved the idea even contributed to it, but we both loss friends, made a few enemies and even managed to find out "Who are real friends were".

The Blog taught me a very valuable lesson, no matter how honest you may be, don't ever publicize a date with another women and/or man. Honesty is, and always will be my way of doing things; although, this Blog showed me people can be hurt and for that I am very sorry for my part in it.

This Dancer guy (another Blog) did not know GS4U or I, he made some nasty remarks, which were B.S. and I attacked him back for his comments, my real friends know this is not my style, and the source of his so called information was not and never will be anyone I spent time with, (get a life gal).

I love my true friends, some we flirt, some we talk fishing, some about our pets and some we just talk because we like too. What is wrong with that?
As a good friend of mine said, (recently deceased),
"Why can't we all just get along and have a Good Time".

I plan on it "How about You"?

P.S. I changed my mind from a previous Blog, stating 100% of the Bloogers were great. I now say only 99% of the Bloggers are super people. Dancer; I hope you learn that most people are what they say, SFF looking for friends.
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STAGE #5 - Wasn't the End - Dating my style Nov 9, 2007 7:25 am
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Hate it or Love it - No one should get hurt....

The attack on me from a shadow figure is comical at best; however, when he has to hurt my friends to make himself important, I feel another Blog is appropriate.

I have many friends that I Flirt with, email often and we wink at each other . A good friend on SFF explained to me that winking was a way of saying hello and letting someone know you're interested in them.

I wink at my Friends Network, those people close enough to join me for a day of fishing and those that have something in their profile that strikes my interest. If I've offended anyone with a wink, I'm sorry.

Emails are away of meeting people (as are the Blogs). Three persons I have emailed turned into dates of personal nature. I have not even mentioned a couple of more females that I go fishing with from SFF and since I consider them friends (I guess they are 'girl' friends). That is another Blog for you shadow man. I don't want to lower myself to your level by attacking you, I think you'e done a good job of showing everyone what you are with your blogs; infact, I almost wish I had not called you a JERK, (almost).

All these women you have that I supposely have made dates with, tell them to contact me, with you as my dating service; I can save money on my Gold SFF Membership.

Now back to "Dating my style" I don't believe in lying and/or sneaking around like RoboCop and no I've never even watched the Dating Game. Some lady said it best, if you don't like the fact I date other women, "Don't Date Me". I've been married 3 times and maybe if I dated more as a younger man I could have cut that to one and still be married.

I welcome everyone's replies, but please keep your attacks towards me and not my friends they don't deserve it.
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Stage #5; - The Saga is over Oct 27, 2007 12:14 pm
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"Stage #5: Going Steady (living together, marriage). At this point you should both be willing to be settle down with your chosen one for the rest of your lives. I think stage #5 is what we are all looking for on SFF, however, without approaching Stage 4, (dating) you're kidding yourself".

REMEMBER THE ABOVE from the 5 stages of Commitment? Today the Saga comes to an end. It has been fun and I have learned so much from all of you..
With the exception of one person, I believe I have made some great friends. I'm new at Blogging but I have found that you are a different breed of people.... honest, sincere and caring.

Stage #4 - Dating almost did me in. Who is this guy that came forward and admitted he had dated 3 girls (or was about to)? I thought being honest was the way to go and I'd do it the same way again, but must admit someone can still get hurt. I know because I lost a good friend by being honest and expressing my feelings.

OK; Stage #5; What are you looking for? In my case, am I content with how she looks (and is she with me)? I'm not looking for a beauty queen.... I'm 62 and tattooed for life from Nam (thank God it only shows in bed - I sleep nude most of the time). So, at our age we can't look for or expect perfection.

You now have spent time together, the longer the better, and as Belle has said, "any one can be on their best behavior for a week or two". I get up in the morning and turn on the coffee pot and when it's empty I set it up for the next day. I only mention this to show you that we are all creatures of habit. Can you live with each other's quirks and habits ???

Do you share interests? I have kidded about fishing because I own a Fishing Lodge, so naturally I love to fish. My mate doesn't have to, BUT will she allow me to continue fishing tournaments and Guide? I'm a romantic... my idea of a great time is an overnight cruise on my house boat with no real destination and if it rains, all the better. A good friend of mine on SFF can make you hear the rain drops in her poems. I'm not that good with words but I know what turns me on. What turns her on, (and I'm not talking sex yet)? Be honest in Stage #4 and don't pretend you like something if you don't, because sooner or later it is going to come back to haunt you.

The bed room... you knew being a guy I'd get here sooner or later. There is more to the bed room then just sex. I like to snuggle, does she? Does she snore, (how loud)? I don't, I know because I stayed up all night one night just to see. I only mention snoring because I had an ex-wife that had her own bed room so I could get some sleep while I was still working Civil Service (my hours were 5 AM to 5 PM including travel time). Yes, I still enjoy sex, does she? Are you compatible, willing to do what is necessary to make your mate happy, (enough about sex) I don't want SFF to edit my blog.

Baggage, (I hate this term). Are you willing to accept each others, fully and unconditionally? Don't say you are now and bring it up later at each disagreement. For lack of another place to mention this, there's also hospitalization, insurance and other realities you hate to talk about but that can and will effect your life together. Be up front now or suffer the consequences later. And you thought all you had to do is kiss and be happy the rest of your lives.

We are all trying to get to Stage #5, and we have heard on my other Blogs that some have made it, and are happy, so to those lucky ones, Congratulations. We have also heard some horror stories and I don't want to be one of those. I feel if you go into stage #5, you must go into it believing 100% that it is going to work and you also must be 100% honest with each other. Remember this is the rest of your life you are talking about. A few things to think about, eh? What do you think?
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Stage #4 - The Dating Game - Who, When & Where. Oct 16, 2007 8:25 am
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Got you! "NO! DATING IS NO GAME".

So now we are all out of stage #3, maybe we have done a little or a lot of Flirting, I know we have avoided the SFF Police and either exchanged telephone number and/or personal email addresses & most likely have used IM.

The problem I have had and maybe some of you have encountered, is that darn "Distance Factor". I know we all have our match somewhere and you have convinced me you can't let distance rule out anyone. I know I'm getting myself in trouble again and will probably be hit with that 10' stick, but here it goes "How do you narrow down your search"? I have found a very classy lady that is not only fun to be with, but has charm and can cook. Problem: she has her own house, great job and will be working for a few more years to come. Next; I have met a very nice lady, who loves the same things I do, we have a great time together. Problem: She owns her own business and house and like me, she loves her life style. And there's always the one that is so beautiful she melts your heart just by looking at her. I don't think we have that much in common, but your heart says give it a chance.
OK; I've mentioned three ladies, but I'm dating and they all know about each other, (remember my profile, honestly is essential in any relationship, including dating.
Don't tell me spend as much time as you can with your chosen one. I can't afford the plane cost and neither can they. Plus I'm ready for Stage #5, I want one girl only . This dating gets old fast and sooner or later someone is going to get hurt, whether your honest or not.
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DATING 101, (SFF STYLE) Oct 8, 2007 7:07 am
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I'm back, (but we won't go there).
I had a few names picked out for this Blog; "Dating for Dummies" (I ruled that out before a buddy from Canada jumped on me). Then I thought "How to use your Profile to get girls", But after careful consideration thought it might be just a little Risque' and besides I'd have to hire to many advisor's and consultants on the subject to make it cost effective.
So; "DATING 101" is what you get.
SFF has done such a great job on their Profile Layout. They have made this as easy as shopping out of old Sears Catalog.

Remember this is one man's approach and may be hazardous to your health if performed by amatures.

Step #1; How to chose your contact
a. Profile pictures; are a must; but don't believe what you see. I have seen them with pictures taken 25 years ago or longer and 100 lbs ago or more.
(Be honest folks, you have to meet some one, some day).
b. Who are You and what do you want; I get a kick out of I'm an attractive honest lady looking for an attractive honest man. Aren't we ALL! I'm a romantic and have winked and/or emailed Ladies solely on phrases like dancing under the stars, rain falling on the roof, etc., (you get the picture). What are they looking for? If they say they want to go out dining in some fancy restaurant with a man in a tux, (I don't bite). I've been there and done that. Hey I'm going to be 63 in Jan. and I'm going to be relaxed and comfortable, (right Belle). Ok, we know who they are and what they want. Are we still interested?
c. Interest Items; Now those that know me will tell you Hunting/Fishing will automatically get you an email. I only wish they had separated Hunting & Fishing, can you imaging telling a girl with a gun, "Not tonight honey, I have a head ache".
Step #2; Making the contact.
I didn't know about this wink thing until some one emailed me and asked if I got her wink?
I didn't know she lost it. Seriously though, a wink is a low pressure way of letting some one know your interested, but be careful, maybe like me, they don't know anything about the wink activity. The good ones; don't let them get away, Take the time and write them an email.
Be honest & short. Let them know why your writing, don't B.S., (these gals have heard it all before). And what ever you do don't make promises you don't plan on keeping, these girls also chat.
Step #3; The follow-up. Don't play games. Your dealing with peoples hearts, I didn't realize the impact an incentive remark could have until I made one on another Blog.
OK; I got it started. How do you play the Dating Game?
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