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Child Abuse? Jun 21, 2008 10:03 am
Mood: sad, 569 Views
There is a family that I don't know well but I do know them. I see them and talk to them occasionally. They have lots of kids! (9) The kids are beautiful children and so well behaved, sweet and gentle. So are the parents. They seem to be giving, soft spoken, gentle.

They were just arrested for 9 counts of child abuse! All the kids were removed from their home, including a 6 week old baby...that mom was nursing.

It's hard to believe. I don't know what happened. Obviously something has. I tend to think where there's smoke, there's fire. I am so sad for everyone involved but mostly for the kids. I hear they are trying to find good foster homes for them.

Makes me want to clean up my "god forbid" room (that is god forbid you should open the door), clean it up and put a few beds in there for a couple of the kids. I just want to hug them.

I won't but I want to.

Would you do it? - make room for a couple of kids in need of a home?
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My Dad is turning 90 this year! Jun 16, 2008 9:09 am
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My dad is turning 90 this summer, still living life strong, the life of the party red head.

That's how I will always remember my dad - the red headed life of the party. He has a big personality and will always be noticed when he walks into a room. He's the one that has everyone's attention, telling jokes, playing practical jokes, laughing. My dad the big little boy.

I don't remember much about my dad as a small child. He must have been working. I remember mom telling me about him more than him being there himself but I do remember this....

He is a kind and patient man. I remember when he taught me how to drive. I worked for him that summer in his business and he let me drive the car. My knees were shaking. He was so patient with me as we drove on the freeway each morning.

He is a deeply religious man. He loves god and went to synagogue each and every week and became president and leader there. Even today, he leads his whole retirement home community in prayers.

Where ever he goes, whatever he does, he rises to leadership. People want him to take charge and give them direction. He is doing that now again in his retirement home. He commands attention.

He knows commitment. He loves his family, each & every one of them and there were alot of them! I remember as a child spending weekends visiting family near and far. He always took good care of his children providing for all our wants & needs.

He is a fun dad always teasing, laughing, joking around. I remember one time his joking around backfired on him. During one Passover Seder he picked up a hardboiled egg and cracked it over my aunts (his sisters) head. It turned out to be the only egg in the bowl that did not get boiled. My poor aunt! Everyone laughed. My aunt did not!

I also remember being tickled as a child until I couldn't stand it any more. He did not take no for an answer. Now that I'm an adult I know it was abusive. I am no longer ticklish. I learned to turn it off.

He is extremely smart. Here he is 90 years old and not only using a computer every day, chatting and emailing away, but teaching other seniors to do it too!

And, I can still go to dad for advice when I need some, particularly about business. He always asks good questions though when we are on chat he types painfully slow. (or is it his internet speed?)

Most of all dad knows how to love his kids & let us love him. That is the best gift.

I'll be going to Detroit in August to help my mom and dad celebrate their 90th birthdays!
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Sex and the City Jun 10, 2008 8:36 pm
Mood: amused, 406 Views
Went to San Diego for the weekend and while there, went to see the movie, Sex and the City. Saw the 10 pm show at a theater in downtown surrounded by real 20 something "Sex and the City" girls with their short skirts and very high heels hanging out with their boyfriends or trying to hook one!

Oh the movie! Yes, it was very good. I loved it. It was funny and romantic. There were beautiful people, beautiful clothes and shoes and beautiful sexy scenes! It was good enough to go see it again. Anyone want to go with me?

Hugs.
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My house is a mess! Jun 1, 2008 9:29 am
Mood: embarrassed, 537 Views
I'm wondering this morning why, me, a single woman who lives by herself can't keep her house neat! Ok, I live with 2 small dogs and a cat but they aren't the ones leaving a trail of stuff all over the place. I just seem to put things down and leave them there. There they sit til I can't stand it any more. The problem is that because I don't know where to start, I feel overwhelmed and put it off some more. Now you might walk into my house and say it's not so bad. You can see the counters and the floor!

To me it seems scattered like my brain! I often wonder if I haven't created a painting in my house, a picture of my brain with stuff scattered about. All this stuff represents what my brain looks like. I can find what I'm looking for, usually, and given some time! The older i get the longer it takes to find something in my house or in my brain!!

Am I the only one who feels like this....please tell me I'm not crazy!!

Have a sun shiny day whether it is outside or not!
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40 Tips For a Better Life-2008 May 28, 2008 9:09 pm
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1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes a day.
3. Buy a DVR, tape your late night shows and get more sleep.
4. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, ‘My purpose is to __ today.’
5. Live with the 3 E’s: Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
6. Play more games, read more books than you did in 2007.
7. Make time to practice meditation, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
9. Dream more while you are awake.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
11. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds & walnuts.
12. Try to make at least 3 people smile each day.
13. Clear clutter from your house, your car, your desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.
14. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, OR issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
15. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
16. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.
17. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the blues away.
18. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
20. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
21. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
23. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, will this matter?’
26. Forgive everyone for everything.
27. What other people think of you is none of your business.
28. Remember God heals everything. (whomever or whatever your vision of God is)
29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
30. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
31. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
32. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
33. The best is yet to come.
34. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
35. Do the right thing!
36. Call your family often.
37. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: I am thankful for _______. Today I accomplished ____.
38. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
39. Enjoy the ride. Remember this is not Disney World and you certainly don’t want a fast pass. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy the ride.
40. Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can’t change.
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Kissahuggle May 26, 2008 9:24 am
Mood: cheerful, 346 Views
It was the twins 4th birthday this weekend. So mom (my daughter) and dad packed the twins, big sister (6), her class friend, and myself into the SUV and off we went to the Enchanted Forest. We followed the kids around through the Crooked House, Western Town, Alice and Wonderland and well, use your imagination. It was a kids delight! We sang happy birthday, ate lunch, had birthday cake and ice cream. Of course, it was fun!


There was this wonderful moment when the kids wanted to connect and mom and the twins snuggled up on a bench with her. I told her about OLAs investigation of the word Huggle and we had a good laugh. Then we came up with a new word, very appropriate for the moment! Kissahuggle! It's a combination of Kiss, Snuggle and Hug. Don't know if it's the dictionary but it sure fit the loving moment between a mom and her 4 year olds.

Thanks Karen for the help!

Do you remember the silly words you made up when your kids were little?

Hope your Memorial Day is a good one.
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HotLanta May 22, 2008 9:46 pm
Mood: crazy, 281 Views
Well the Atlanta trip was great. 2 days of non stop seminars for work were exhausting and informative. When the conference was over, my girlfriend, visiting from Baltimore, picked me up and we spent the weekend with her daughter and her daughters partner. They live in the Atlanta area.

Friday night we went dancing and took Salsa lessons. What an absolutely beautiful and sexy dance. Wow! Other than the lessons, the four of us sat and watched most of the time.

During the evening I got up and went to the ladies room. As I headed down the hall, a young man stopped me, told me that he had been watching me and he thought I was beautiful. Eeegads! He wanted me to dance with him. I told him I just had one lesson and he would have to be very patient since my head and my feet were not really connected in any way. He gently took my hand and led me to the dance floor where we danced the Salsa, way too slow! He whispered in my ear and flirted like crazy. Must have been the cleavage! He asked me if I had ever dated a younger man and would I go out with him the next night. In another lifetime, I had but I was just visiting and there to spend time with my girlfriends not to find a date. I declined his offer. He was not too happy. Oh well!

Then my friends daughter was curious about the Hookah that was advertised on the table so she asked the bartender what it was. The owner of the restaurant/hookah bar/dance palace came over and offered us a free trial. It turned out it was mango flavored tobacco. Not exactly the hookah I remember in the 70's! But we had a few good laughs. Then Fouad, the restaurant owner, asked me to dance. We ended up dancing quite a few times and it was so lovely and fun! I felt attractive, pretty and sexy! Wooo Hooo! It's been awhile since I've had that much attention. Of course, can't say I've put myself in a position to have that kind of attention. It was so much fun!

What was so interesting to me is that both men were 35 or 40ish. In a quick evening, I learned that maybe, just maybe, I might be attracted to, and attractive, to a younger man. Hmmm, something to think about.

It would be so nice to find a "dance" partner right here in Oregon. Young or old, we could learn together.
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Off to Atlanta! May 13, 2008 3:25 pm
Mood: bouncy, 308 Views
I am spending the day today getting myself ready for my trip to Atlanta.

I'm attending a sales conference for 2 days and then spending the weekend with girlfriends. I even get to see my son! He works for the same company I do but he's in Orlando. We both are going to be at the meeting at the same time. Wooo Hooo! It will be fun to spend some time with him, and play with friends. We are planning to go dancing and shopping. Not necessarily in that order!

The dogs are going to a friends house. Wish I could take them with me. The cat goes crazy without her family here so she is going to the vets.

I'll be back on Sunday night. Til then - Hugs!
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What Kind of Man? May 11, 2008 7:45 pm
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In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question "What kind of man are you looking for?"

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking "Do you really want to know?"

Reluctantly, he said "Yes."

She began to expound...

"As a woman in this day and age, I'm in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated,

"I am not referring to money. "I need something more. I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life."

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.

She said "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man.

I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked... believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. And even if he is a believer; he needs to believe as I do.

I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a financial burden.

I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, and strong enough to keep me grounded when I do
go through changes. I don't need a man who is going to purposely bring me grief.

I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him and he must respect me.

I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business or who is "messy" in his personal affairs. I have no problem being submissive...but he has to be worthy.

I can't be a helpmate to a man if he can't help himself. If he can't help himself then he definitely can't help me.

When she finished her spiel, she looked at him.

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.

He said,"You're asking a lot."

"She replied, "I'm worth a lot."

by Gerald K. Howard, Psy.D.

I often have to remind myself "I'm worth a lot."
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Whew! What a Day!! May 11, 2008 9:32 am
Mood: energetic, 340 Views
Yesterday started with a delightful visit from OLA. She stopped in Salem on her way home and we met for breakfast. It was so awesome to meet in person. It was like I had known her forever...well almost. She walked into the restaurant and I knew her immediately. She looks just like her picture, if not better! Fancy that! Her new car is WOW! Nice choice.

Then off to clean up all the construction dust left by the contractor this week. He replaced 55 year old windows and left a film of dust over every single thing in my house. I was sneezing and wheezing like crazy! I never worked so hard moving furniture, vacuuming, dusting...by days end I could barely walk! Still have the living room to do....later.

Then I went off the theater for the last performance of the original play Dorian, The Remarkable Mr. Gray. (as House Manager) The Director, writer just signed a contract to open in LA! He is so excited. This could be the start of something big for him.

Anyway, I didn't even make it to the cast party. I was so exhausted! I'm way past starting to party at midnight anyway!

Happy Mothers Day to all the mom's!
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