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"If I can't own you, I will distroy you," or "If I can't have you , nobody can".
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Jan 26, 2010 8:53 am
Mood: disappointed,
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As we all know humans are not monogamous. Some are for a period of time, but it would be very hard to find someone who had only one sex partner their entire life. I understand some birds are, but that's another story. I got to wondering recently why people act as they do after a break-up. Whether it was long, or short term doesn't matter. Everyone would prefer to be the 'Dumper' rather than the 'Dumpee', again that is human nature.
When I left my Husband I suppose it made him feel like the Dumpee. And rather than looking at it realistically, he chose to be defensive. Instead of trying to be Friends for the sake of our children and grandchildren, he became more and more angry. I truely believe he has told himself lies about how happy we were, before I went crazy, that he really believes them. And how badly he was treated. A lie told enough times becomes the truth in some peoples minds. He degraded me to my children and friends, some believed his lies. He seems hell bent on having everyone take sides (his).
In my opinon, in every relationship one will have more invested than the other, and that makes them vulnerable. I'm not sure which one of us was that person, but the marriage was over long before I left. No matter, that doesn't give anyone the right to attack the character of the other.
Thank God he doesn't use the Internet, or everyone would know what a lieing, cheating, worthless person I really am. I see people on the 'net doing that very thing all the time. Some even distroy property belonging to the other....LOL
Actually, not so funny, that happened to me too. Others just keep on and on about their hurt feelings. It's hard to forgive harsh and hateful things said. Do people really believe that someone will come back to them after they have said and done so many hurtful things? If you are in this kind of relationship, think about it. What do you really want?
I know what my EX wants. If he can't own me, he will distroy me. He's not the first person to act this way, and he won't be the last.
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New Years Resolution
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Dec 29, 2009 7:00 am
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It's that time again Kids. I want to read all your plans for the new year. I'm working on mine...LOL
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I'm a Bisacksual....
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Dec 23, 2009 8:56 am
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Got your attention didn't I...LOL
I got this in an E-mail from a friend, thought y'all would enjoy it...
STORY OF A CHALLENGED SENIOR -
At a certain age, everyone will understand this poor guy...
I thought about the 30 year business I ran with 1800 employees, all without a Blackberry that played music, took videos, pictures and communicated with Facebook and Twitter.
I signed up under duress for Twitter and Facebook, so my seven kids, their spouses, 13 grandkids and 2 great grand kids could communicate with me in the modern way. I figured I could handle something as simple as Twitter with only 140 characters of space.
That was before one of my grandkids hooked me up for Tweeter, Tweetree, Twhirl, Twitterfon, Tweetie and Twittererific Tweetdeck, Twitpix and something that sends every message to my cell phone and every other program within the texting world.
My phone was beeping every three minutes with the details of everything except the bowel movements of the entire next generation. I am not ready to live like this. I keep my cell phone in the garage in my golf bag.
The kids bought me a GPS for my last birthday because they say I get lost every now and then going over to the grocery store or library. I keep that in a box under my tool bench with the Blue tooth [it's red] phone I am supposed to use when I drive. I wore it once and was standing in line at Barnes and Noble talking to my wife as everyone in the nearest 50 yards was glaring at me. Seems I have to take my hearing aid out to use it and I got a little loud.
I mean the GPS looked pretty smart on my dash board, but the lady inside was the most annoying, rudest person I had run into in a long time. Every 10 minutes, she would sarcastically say, "Re-calc-ul-ating" You would think that she could be nicer. It was like she could barely tolerate me. She would let go with a deep sigh and then tell me to make a U-turn at the next light. Then when I would make a right turn instead, it was not good.
When I get really lost now, I call my wife and tell her the name of the cross streets and while she is starting to develop the same tone as Gypsy, the GPS lady, at least she loves me.
To be perfectly frank, I am still trying to learn how to use the cordless phones in our house. We have had them for 4 years, but I still haven't figured out how I can lose three phones all at once and have run around digging under chair cushions and checking bathrooms and the dirty laundry baskets when the phone rings. (sounds familiar, please let it keep ringing until I find it. . . don't laugh, I am serious)
The world is just getting too complex for me. They even mess me up every time I go to the grocery store. You would think they could settle on something themselves but this sudden "Paper or Plastic?" every time I check out just knocks me for a loop.
I bought some of those cloth reusable bags to avoid looking confused but I never remember to take them in with me.
Now I toss it back to them. When they ask me, "Paper or Plastic?" I just say, "Doesn't matter to me. I am bi-sacksual.." Then it's their turn to stare at me with a blank look.
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A repost and Update on last years Christmas wishes
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Dec 17, 2009 8:01 pm
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Last year I wrote this blog, and I would like to tell how Good Santa was to me.
My Christmas List........ Dec 8, 2008 2:54 pm
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Since others are making Christmas list for good ole Santa, thought I would make one too...
1. New carpet, and someone to install it. Age or gender doesn't
matter.
Well I still have the same Carpet, but I have a "Little Green Machine" and I try to clean it before it gets really bad.
2. More jobs in the coming year, so I can quit my 40 hr. per week job.
Did less jobs (Stripping and Waxing floors) but I no longer work 40 hrs a week, I got Fired.
3. Money enough to pay my house off this year.
Paid my house off this month...YeeeeeHaaaaaw
4. Time to spend with my Friends (especially want to go to Nashville bash).
I went to Nashville twice, and to St Pete for a week,on a road trip to Atlanta, and to Albuquerque, and two trips to Tupelo Ms..(Realized carpet wasn't that important)
5. A nice fairly new gas saving car, that I like and feel safe in, that I can afford without a strain on the budget.
Still have the same car, But I paid it off, and only needed one repair all year.
6. Affordable Medical insurance would be nice.
I don't have Insurance.
7. Good health would be even better (as long as we are wishing).
No better no worse, but I only went to the doctor a few times, and the Hospital not at all.
8. Another year without any major appliances breaking down.
Nothing broke, and I got a new washer dryer.
9. A miracle weight loss plan.
Gained about 40 lbs...UGH!
10. Last but not least Santa, encourage that handsome man here in SFF'S to write me. From what I know of him at this point, I think he is a fabulous man. Even though my first impression was that he is to Handsome for me. Friends or more, I would really like to get to know him better.
I have no idea who I was talking about. I think maybe I just wrote this part to make it an even 10...LOL
So you see I did pretty well in 2009....
Thank You Santa, I don't think I'll make a list this year, but I'll ask for just one thing.
1. Make it possible for me to go to more SFF Bashes, and meet more of the Friends I've made here.
I Love my Life....
Barbara
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An apology to michiannared (and others)
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Nov 14, 2009 5:18 am
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I signed in this morning to find another comment on my blog on the 9th. Due to misunderstandings the whole thing has been twisted, as you know. We were all quite compatible all during the Bash, and left wishing each other well, until the next time we could be together.
Looking at the comments, most of them were repeaters, the same people over and over again, keeping things stirred up. I must admit that when I'm attacked I lash back. Actually that was the reason I wrote the blog in the beginning. I didn't want sff people to think that I would 'accost' anyone, (and she said she was Pissed). One comment suggested that perhaps there was a language/culture barrier that made her say the word accosted. I agreed, but wondered why she didn't comment and explain, since I gave her the opportunity.
As you know Red there was no fighting, arguing, jealousy, promiscuity, drunkenness, vulgarity, or anything that we need to be ashamed of. True we drank some, we partied a lot, some teased and flirted. But it was all in fun. No one was offended that I'm aware of. One set of roommates had a disagreement, but it would have gone nowhere if it hadn't hit the blogs. Does anyone even realize who wrote the first entry, I do?
It was a wonderful Bash, and as usual you did a wonderful job in the planning. I was glad you let some of us help with the work so you didn't have to do everything.
Lets not let the people who weren't there, and know nothing about the great time we had, tarnish it for us.
Looking forward to the next one....
And I am Sorry if my Blog caused you any distress, it was never meant to.
Your Friend,
CountryGirl1945
Barbara
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Another St Pete Blog
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Nov 9, 2009 8:53 pm
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If anyone hears that Shay was Naughty, believe it...
If you hear anything about me maybe getting a little Naughty, SHAY made me do it.
And of course cjc did too.
Karin made me drink a Bloody Mary..
Meme made me some Pineapple and coconut punch, and forced me to drink it...
Belle made me run out on the beach one night...
Honestinjun kept wearing that cologne that draws me to his neck, where I tried to stay....
Weeks before the bash sirgets told me he wouldn't be doing much dancing, so I said I would just have to give him a lap dance. I was told that I had to do it, or I would be called names like "chicken".
Joygirl was the one spot of sanity in our room....
Now you know the rest of the story...
P.S. Our Friend Yellowduck is one Brave man for staying in the room with the four of us...
Duckie Duckie he's our man if he can't do it no one can....
Three cheers for the Duck...
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What happens in Vegas/St . Pete, stays in Vegas/St . Pete
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Nov 9, 2009 12:33 pm
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webster's collegiate dictionary; Accosted, To speak in a challenging or aggressive way.
Quoting 'RosieRosieRosie123';
Countrygirl accosted me in front of Over and Missioncontrol before I left the hotel asking me kindly not to blog anything about them. She said they don't want people to know they were having a good time, and whatever happened in St.Pete remains in St Pete.
Rosie My Darling, If you think I accosted you, that's fine. I have been known to speak aggressively at times, so in no way am I trying to defend myself Darling. After all My Sweet Sweet Darling, I really don't care if 'Rosie is Pissed off'. But if you are going to put my name in a blog, quote me exactly My Darling. What I said was "Remember what happens in St Pete stays in St Pete". And, "Don't write any blogs that make us look bad". That was after we hugged goodbye, My Darling Girl. We say the same thing at every Bash. You should know My Darling that it started with 'Whatever happens in VEGAS, stays in Vegas'.
My Darling girl, there are people who would like nothing better than to get a tidbit of information that they could blow-up into something UGLY, to under-mind the Bash. Especially St Pete.
I can only speak for myself My Darling, but I was grateful that you stayed in your room as much as you did. IF you were ill Dear Darling, you didn't need to spread your Germs to the rest of us. When you did come out My Darling, which was usually just in time to set up a breakfast/lunch/dinner date, I would hear mumbles of "Uh Oh, here comes Rosie". I've seen women do that at Bashes before My Darling, but they seemed to find time to make friends with the women too. Now My Darling I'm not saying that this is bad behavior, on the contrary, you go GF. I, like Karin, was the recipient of 'Over's' generosity last year when he was wining and dining my Roommate. I can say without a doubt, My Darling, that you made an impression where-ever you went, especially with the men. Now, My Darling, Just how many did you ask to marry you? I can't remember the exact wording, but one told us that he would take you on a 'Honeymoon', and marry you later (maybe ?)Mum's the word.... To your credit, My Darling you did refuse him saying "Not without that piece of paper, and a Ring on my finger". Good Girl...
I'm sure you know My Darling, that personalities will clash at times. That's no reason to start another "War" in our beautiful Blog-land. It's just childish My Darling, don't you agree?
So Please stop your 'Pity Party' and lets move-on, shall we Darling?
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My two unanswered questions to Ann Slanders...
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Oct 15, 2009 7:40 pm
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#1
Dear Ann Slanders,
My Boyfriend 'BOB' wants to have a Threesome. Since I've never indulged in any sexually perverted acts such as this, I'm curious to know how this would work for me.
Signed
Hooray for duracell
P.S.
I've been told that there are a lot of SFF'S women that have dated their very own BOB.s
#2
Dear Ms Slanders,
I will be attending the St Pete Bash in a couple of weeks. As you might have heard I had a problem recently with Dreadlocks, and red mange. If not please read my May 7th & 8th blogs. I've had some comments via e-mail, chat, and phone calls asking/referring to said problems and to the bash. Since I will be wearing a swim suit, and participating in any and all acts of Skinny Dipping (If they occur), my question is this. Should I once again try to rid myself of said Dreadlocks, perhaps activating the Red mange again, or just let nature be, and let it all hang-out.
Signed
Not so Hairless
anywhere..........
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Ann Slanders overlooked me again...
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Oct 15, 2009 3:32 pm
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Twice now I have asked for advice from the famous Ann Slanders, and she has neglected to answer my questions. One was a blog written specifically to her, and the other question was on her advice column. Since Ms Slanders answers everyone else's questions, I'm wondering why not mine...
Would anyone else like to give me the advice I so desperately need?
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Dear Ann Slanders
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Sep 29, 2009 7:08 am
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Where the heck are you????
I will post my question here in hopes that you find it, and give me the advice I desperately need......
Dear Ann Slanders,
My Boyfriend 'BOB' wants to have a Threesome. Since I've never indulged in any sexually perverted acts such as this, I'm curious to know how this would work for me.
Signed
Hooray for duracell
P.S.
I've been told that there are a lot of SFF'S women that have dated their very own BOB.
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