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Abelle2 83F
31203 posts
4/3/2016 10:36 am

Alfie (Hawkslayer) and I aren't married but will be soon. We met on SFF, made many friends on here and go to Bashes and get togethers we meet even more.

We will see Mr. Joe and Mrs. Joe in Nashville for a long catching up visit. There will be lots of others that we only see at these occasions.

The nasties we just ignore.

SFF has become important to us for many reasons


spiritwoman45

4/3/2016 10:38 am

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I agree.
Ranger is the first man I have run across to have an issue with this. It's almost always the women who complain. Perhaps he has had a bad experience.



Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

4/3/2016 10:55 am

Slippery slope here. Marital status, especially at our age, can be confusing. I'll use myself as an example. My legal status is and always will be Widowed. Even if I met the non existent perfect man there are good reasons , personal and not for sharing with everyone, why I will not marry again.

Then there are the marrieds who have not lived as such for years. I had a coworker in this category. She and her husband were separated for years. Both went their own way and dated, even had committed relationships but never bothered to get legally divorced. Their reason was simple. They did not plan on marrying again and didn't want to go through the expense and bother of getting a divorce.

Then there are the marrieds who want more. I have run across almost as many of them as I have truly single men. All but one have been very open about their situation. The one that wasn't claimed he was divorced - until his wife contacted me. (But to be fair this went beyond chatting on line).

This last one is really going to sound out there. Several years ago on another site I was casually dating a guy and helped him redo his profile. We were simply friends who did some things together. There used to be an option here for activity partner.

After all of this babbling I see that it boils down to a simple sentence. We all have our own preferences and / or valid reasons for doing what we do and they often make no sense to others. As long as people are open about their situation / status we just have to accept differences.


I doubt that you have much to worry about. Unless you have some deep dark secrets you are in a good position and appear to offer a great deal to truly single women who want to settle down and / or get married.


Spiritwoman ^i^


Rocketship 79F
18518 posts
4/3/2016 12:27 pm

I really have no issue with married people chatting or blogging. What their motives are don't concern or bother me.

I just wanted to comment on something you said in response to someone.

Please be careful what you choose to believe when a lady private messages you that another lady is married. Depending on the lady, what she says may or may not be true. ---just saying


spiritwoman45

4/3/2016 12:31 pm

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Who cares what "they" say. I agree with the part about the partner's beliefs. I only married my late husband because it was very important to him and his family. Our relationship would not have changed either way.

Divorce is unpleasant no matter who or why. The time needed for the legal process gets on the way of moving on through the grief process.


Spiritwoman ^i^


Maudie1 74F
8151 posts
4/3/2016 12:37 pm

I have never gone into the chat rooms, and I doubt I ever will. Not my cup of tea at all lol. But I can see the attraction they might hold for some people. I think Mrsjoe and Rocketship made some very good points.