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Nileyears 71F
2362 posts
7/13/2017 11:44 am
Maybe I'm Crazy, But.....

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Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/13/2017 11:45 am

BUMP!!


Abelle2 83F
31203 posts
7/13/2017 12:48 pm

Alfie and I met on SFF.

I remember my gal friend visiting from Arizona and saw I had a computer. She said join one of these sites and meet someone to chat with . She said, ok, here talk to this man. I told her I wasn't interested in chatting with someone I didn't know...killers, molesters, plain old creeps ran through my mind.

One day SFF invited me to join. Made more sense than the other one as it was for 50 and older. What fun I had in chat! I found Blogs and was curious........

Alfie used to write stories and I would comment on them, he commented back...and then...one day he said can't you get the idea I am trying to get your attention.

I knew that we each had to have contact for at least 3 times then could give a bit of info. I had lots of points so contacted him as he was unable to.

6 weeks later we met in person and the rest is history.........we visited back and forth from Georgia to Indiana, Indiana to Georgia. I eventually moved to Georgia to spend the rest of my life with him.

We "came out as a couple" in St. Pete and a Bash. No one knew except Lothringia and Parisdreamer. Surprised everyone!

Neither of us had to push a shopping cart at Wal Mart or some other store


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/13/2017 12:48 pm

    Quoting  :

Yep, I have heard stories on people meeting while shopping, but she's not going for it, lol.

She's going to be 46 next month. She's really pretty, but of course I'm going to say that, she's my daughter, but she has such beautiful eyes and pretty smile, I don't see how someone couldn't fall in love with her, but she's almost as ornery as I am, lol.


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/13/2017 12:58 pm

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I have met some nice gentlemen at the grocery store, but like you, it's a hello, or a quick eye contact and smile, nothing after that.

She's not going for the idea at all about meeting someone at the store, I think she likes to chat first and get an idea about a person before she meets with them. She met her husband Michael at P of F, but now she just seems to run into scammers at that site, some are just looking to get lucky and very blunt about it to her in their remarks, she would block those.

Yep, I have run across a lot of those types that you mentioned here and that's why I stopped looking, but I enjoy blogging, so I stay.


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/13/2017 1:03 pm

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I don't know Saucypeaches, but what a cute handle she has.

I think I'll mention it to her tonight when she gets off work, see what she thinks. I like getting men's views on this.

Thanks Dan.


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/13/2017 1:04 pm

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Good to know Fossil, thanks!


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/13/2017 1:15 pm

    Quoting Abelle2:
    Alfie and I met on SFF.

    I remember my gal friend visiting from Arizona and saw I had a computer. She said join one of these sites and meet someone to chat with . She said, ok, here talk to this man. I told her I wasn't interested in chatting with someone I didn't know...killers, molesters, plain old creeps ran through my mind.

    One day SFF invited me to join. Made more sense than the other one as it was for 50 and older. What fun I had in chat! I found Blogs and was curious........

    Alfie used to write stories and I would comment on them, he commented back...and then...one day he said can't you get the idea I am trying to get your attention.

    I knew that we each had to have contact for at least 3 times then could give a bit of info. I had lots of points so contacted him as he was unable to.

    6 weeks later we met in person and the rest is history.........we visited back and forth from Georgia to Indiana, Indiana to Georgia. I eventually moved to Georgia to spend the rest of my life with him.

    We "came out as a couple" in St. Pete and a Bash. No one knew except Lothringia and Parisdreamer. Surprised everyone!

    Neither of us had to push a shopping cart at Wal Mart or some other store
What a cute story Abelle, you make it sound so easy, but I guess Alfie knew just what he was looking for, besides the fact he was really looking to meet someone and so were you, that always helps. Maybe someday I will be as lucky, lol, but I better put something on my profile if I want that to happen.

Well then, there is hope for my daughter after all.


Rocketship 79F
18518 posts
7/13/2017 1:16 pm

Sure! Why not!!

Just remember that there as many scammers on this site as all the other sites....Sighhhhh. .... and many a lot smoother.


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/13/2017 1:57 pm

    Quoting Rocketship:
    Sure! Why not!!

    Just remember that there as many scammers on this site as all the other sites....Sighhhhh. .... and many a lot smoother.

Hi Rocket, I have already told her about the scammers here, she really got a laugh out of the message someone left me yesterday. I haven't met any of the smooth scammers yet, or maybe I have, whatever, a scammer is a scammer.

Hey what the heck, with all the wise ladies here, we could keep her from getting caught in a scammer's snare.

Only problem is her seeing my blogs about her, she may not like the idea of me putting her business out there for all to see, lol.


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/13/2017 6:46 pm

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Wow, another SFF success story, I don't here of them very often here in the blogs, but I am today. I really don't go into chat much, maybe a handful of times since I've been a member, but tried it a few days ago and had a pleasant chat with a couple of people here. I think my daughter might like that, it's something the other site didn't have.
Thank you for sharing Bob.


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/13/2017 6:48 pm

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Why, what's in aisle 4 that makes them that way?


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/13/2017 7:10 pm

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Well, as I have read from the responses here, quite a few people have met through this site, which is good to know since it seems only spammers have contacted me since I've been here, except for one, but we didn't click at all.

Interesting story of you and your wife, now we have the internet, makes me wonder if people still have pen pals. Things have changed so much in the past couple of decades.

You can have your cats, lol, after having my younger girl's cats here for almost two years, I decided I no longer want to deal with them. I'll keep my horses, they are much more pleasant to be around.


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/13/2017 7:17 pm

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I'll tell her that, I always liked museums, but never thought about meeting someone there.

I don't know about walking up to a complete stranger and saying something to them is a thing she would do, I would, but she's more reserved.

Thanks Tx, I'll plant the idea in her brain.


hermitinthecity 70M
1691 posts
7/14/2017 2:46 am

Well Mama Nile, I'd definitely meet the guy and check him out with your daughter a few times so's you know what she's getting. I'm just a nervous man in a wicked world. Personally I'd let her get used to being alone a bit longer, no sense in rushing anything. Sometimes it's good to have your own company without being bothered by anothers agenda. Could be far less stressful if she got a pet. Many relationships start after you've given up looking, then someone comes along.

Judgment Day will be interesting - and all paths lead there.


bijou624

7/14/2017 4:08 am

Hi Nile: So many scammers on this site; you would not believe all the scams and outright lies. Not only scammers, but so many people who write to you are either long distances away or from other countries and continents. So since your daughter has already been the victim of an internet scammer once, if she joins another online dating group like this one I hope she has learned from her experience. You don't want to mistrust people, but today trust has to be earned. There are many other internet dating groups for women in their 40s. Another woman here found the love of her life at a group for middle aged people and I think the name is our time.


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/14/2017 9:21 am

    Quoting hermitinthecity:
    Well Mama Nile, I'd definitely meet the guy and check him out with your daughter a few times so's you know what she's getting. I'm just a nervous man in a wicked world. Personally I'd let her get used to being alone a bit longer, no sense in rushing anything. Sometimes it's good to have your own company without being bothered by anothers agenda. Could be far less stressful if she got a pet. Many relationships start after you've given up looking, then someone comes along.
Well Hermit, she didn't like my idea, so I'll just let her figure it all out. We talked about it last night when she got home from work and she doesn't like the idea about dating older men, she wants to stick with her own generation. Guess I don't blame her, lol, us old folk do get a tad bit grouchy.

She has male friends she talks to, just like I have guy friends, but no interest beyond that.

Now wait a minute there Hermit, I stopped looking years ago and started looking again, now I have given up. Did I jinx myself?


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/14/2017 9:31 am

    Quoting bijou624:
    Hi Nile: So many scammers on this site; you would not believe all the scams and outright lies. Not only scammers, but so many people who write to you are either long distances away or from other countries and continents. So since your daughter has already been the victim of an internet scammer once, if she joins another online dating group like this one I hope she has learned from her experience. You don't want to mistrust people, but today trust has to be earned. There are many other internet dating groups for women in their 40s. Another woman here found the love of her life at a group for middle aged people and I think the name is our time.
Hi Bijou, Yes, I have run into a lot of scammers here, seems like I get at least three messages a week from men overseas.

She's learned her lesson, and maybe now when I tell her it's a scam, hopefully she will listen to me. She closed her profile at the other site and has decided she doesn't want to join this one, or any other dating site. We talked about it last night.

I suggested the Match site to her, but she even said no to that. Now my younger daughter met her boyfriend there and they have been together for a couple of years now, they make a real cute couple and he's a nice man.


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/14/2017 9:45 am

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Hi Myseek, no one is talking about marriage here, just someone to go out and have fun with. She hasn't had much fun in her life the past few years with Michael being so sick for so long. Then she meets nothing but scammers, or men looking for only one thing, that's not what she wants. She was the one who started looking for companionship, I was just trying to help by suggesting this site, but after our talk last night, she no longer wants to be on any dating site. She did meet one man at the other dating site and they are now friends and neither has any interest to take it further than that.


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/14/2017 9:49 am

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My longtime friend and her male friend have the same arrangement, except they don't live that close to each other, and she has no pets, but he has a dog. They do everything together as a couple, but they live their own lives. I think it's a great arrangement, not just great, but smart!


hermitinthecity 70M
1691 posts
7/15/2017 9:51 am

    Quoting Nileyears:
    Well Hermit, she didn't like my idea, so I'll just let her figure it all out. We talked about it last night when she got home from work and she doesn't like the idea about dating older men, she wants to stick with her own generation. Guess I don't blame her, lol, us old folk do get a tad bit grouchy.

    She has male friends she talks to, just like I have guy friends, but no interest beyond that.

    Now wait a minute there Hermit, I stopped looking years ago and started looking again, now I have given up. Did I jinx myself?
Just google your jinxablity rating and then look up how to undo the level you are at.

Judgment Day will be interesting - and all paths lead there.


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/16/2017 10:23 am

    Quoting hermitinthecity:
    Just google your jinxablity rating and then look up how to undo the level you are at.
Not sure if I really want to know, lol, if I'm meant to meet someone, it will happen, if not, oh well, such is life!


MrsJoe 76F
17280 posts
7/20/2017 9:06 am

Joe and I met in the chatroom in 2004 and I think we are considered a success story.
But the secret is to just be looking for friends, not necessarily with a need for a long term romance..... if it develops, great!
My young son once approached a young lady in Kroger's grocery store. He had noticed her and was sort of watching her and saw that she was alone. He borrowed a piece a paper and a pen from me and wrote his phone number on it. Then he walked over and introduced himself and said he would like to get to know her and if she was interested, she could call him. She called a few hours later, and they ended up dating for a few months until they realized their worlds and values just were not compatible.
Friends can be found in many places. Church is also a good meeting place, many have singles groups.


Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.


Nileyears 71F
4206 posts
7/20/2017 12:49 pm

    Quoting MrsJoe:
    Joe and I met in the chatroom in 2004 and I think we are considered a success story.
    But the secret is to just be looking for friends, not necessarily with a need for a long term romance..... if it develops, great!
    My young son once approached a young lady in Kroger's grocery store. He had noticed her and was sort of watching her and saw that she was alone. He borrowed a piece a paper and a pen from me and wrote his phone number on it. Then he walked over and introduced himself and said he would like to get to know her and if she was interested, she could call him. She called a few hours later, and they ended up dating for a few months until they realized their worlds and values just were not compatible.
    Friends can be found in many places. Church is also a good meeting place, many have singles groups.
That's 13 years, I would call it a success story for sure!!

Your son is a brave soul, I really don't think my daughter would walk up to a total stranger, lol, but I might!

I'll have a new story about my daughter in a month, maybe two, it has something to do with a friend she met online. He only lives an hour away from her.