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I WAS MISLED BY A MALE CINDERELLA - DISAPPEARED AT MIDNIGHT!!! Those who remember, know I am on some virtual websites. That is where avatars that represent us have friends, lovers and go to clubs and dance and have fun. I am on several. Anyhow on one of them I met a guy and eventually we decided to become boyfriend and girlfriend. My real boyfriend doesn't mind since he is a workaholic and it keeps me occupied. I don't do anything behind his back or anything that bothers him. Anyhow I met this guy and he seemed wonderful. He was a Minister at one point, performed marriages, has 2 impressive daughters who he raised alone after he got divorced, does volunteer work for a cause he believes in, helps his dad who actually is his stepdad who raised him since his real dad died when he was 3. Everything about him sounded great, right? Despite it all, I did not feel so emotionally connected and was upfront with him about that. I only knew him a month or so by that point. We said we will take it one day at a time and see if my feelings grow. Anyhow I felt they were beginning to a bit as we spent more time together but I didn't commit to New Year's Eve, though he asked me for a date. I should explain that my real life boyfriend works every New Year's Eve due to him being part of getting the show on in Niagara Falls which is televised every year. My virtual boyfriend and I did end up spending time together after my bf called me at midnight. The next day he wrote how he had a great time and was looking forward to spending more time with me the next day. Jan 1 we did spend time until I had to excuse myself for some real life stuff for half an hour. This was around midnight. He waited. When I came back he came to my virtual place but in the middle of talking, he disappeared. He does have some internet issues where he lives but he didn't write me the next day. He usually sends me an e-mail each morning and often throughout the day. In my gut, I felt I would never hear from him again. Anyhow I haven't as of yet. He used to have me call him sometimes and we used Skype once, audio only, since he wanted that. I found him clearer on the phone so Skype was a one time thing. I called the closest hospital to him and checked obituaries. I had his real name. No sign of him. I e-mailed and left phone messages. His calls were forwarded. I was worried something happened to him due to some serious health issues he has had and since he always said how happy I have made him. He wanted to be my boyfriend on all the sites we belonged to but I said no. I wasn't 100% sure I wanted him as my boyfriend everywhere. The site where I did agree, my membership ends beginning Feb, as he knew. I didn't know what to do. His disappearance was Jan 2, 2017 around midnight. I asked around to his friends on the site we met at and they hadn't seen him either. Also on these sites, you can easily block someone so they can no longer see you so if he wanted to avoid only me, there was an easy way. In this case nobody saw him. I went to his Facebook, tracked through his e-mail address. My concern was that he had dropped dead. I saw on his FB the 2 daughters he told me about. It showed enough that I knew what he told me about them was true. I didn't want to ask his daughters but as each day passed and my stress grew, I knew I had to do something for my health. I waited to see if any of them put up something about their dad. I waited to see if their friends or family wrote something about their father. Nothing. Finally one put up a video but nothing related to her father. I thought that was odd. A couple of days later she put up an ad asking if anyone has an iPhone to sell. I felt no way is this girl in mourning so I wrote her at FB but no reply. She doesn't come on often but she did remove the ad. I did NOT post anything in response to the ad. I sent her a private message. I didn't hear anything so I decided to call the other . It showed where she worked so I called 2 days ago. She said as far as she knew he was fine. When I said about the fact his dad expected him that Monday to help give his nephew a lift, she agreed. That confirmed what he told me was true regarding that. Then she told me something that blew my mind and that I never suspected. She said if something happened their stepmom would have told them. Stepmom? Yes she said her stepmom lives with her dad. He told me he was single. He even told me about some people trying to set him up with a woman in town. Wow, it all makes sense now. His wife must have caught him and told him to give up being on the virtual sites. However, he hasn't had the decency to write me or call me to come clean. In case you are wondering, he knew about my real life boyfriend. I am upfront to all. I never told his daughters that he was my virtual boyfriend. I said I was an online friend who was talking to him when we disappeared and that we talked on the phone at times. Again, I thought he was single so I wasn't concerned about saying the wrong thing anyhow at that time. The bright side is, I am no longer worried about him at all. He seems to have told the truth about all but his marital status. I won a raffle on another site and gave him some of my prizes. He gave me a necklace and said he was going to buy me something else but disappeared first. I am annoyed about that. Normally if I give a gift, I don't expect anything in return but now that I know he lied to me, I feel differently. If you are wondering why I would care if he was married, I don't if he is upfront about it and his spouse knows he is on these sites and is fine with it, like my real life boyfriend. If someone has a girflfriend/wife who doesn't know, I doubt I would be willing to be their girlfriend even virtually.  Elaine Shuel |
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The picture is his avatar dancing with mine. Elaine Shuel
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Oh dear!! I'm not sure what to think. Warm Hugsss~~~
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I believe your assumption was correct.... wife walked in and did not like what she saw, virtual or not. Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.
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Can't imagine.....
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He said he was single and I believed him. Not the first time a guy (or gal) lied but it's still a shame since he seemed like a nice guy. Elaine Shuel
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Oh dear!! I'm not sure what to think. Warm Hugsss~~~  Elaine Shuel
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Yes I usually am good at spotting cheaters. I have to be more careful. Thanks boogie. Elaine Shuel
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I believe your assumption was correct.... wife walked in and did not like what she saw, virtual or not. Elaine Shuel
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Can't imagine..... Nice to see you here.Elaine Shuel
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I know it's rare but there are some that don't go around lying. Sadly we make up the minority it appears. Elaine Shuel
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Wow! I'm so far behind the times. I've never heard of "virtual" sites where folks have virtual lovers/boyfriends and have a "virtual" social life. Obviously, this is different from the cyber cheating that has been around forever and was generally very sleazy. Quite a revelation for me!
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1/13/2017 4:11 am |
I don't understand any of this. If people are just flirting and pretending to have affairs in that group, what is the difference between a virtual group and a regular dating group? If a woman has an image of her with long flowing hair and beautiful face and figure, she must know that a man who picks her wouldn't be with her in real life. Also it means the suave blonde man you're dancing with there could be bald, no teeth, and 500 lb. so the whole situation is very strange.
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Wow! I'm so far behind the times. I've never heard of "virtual" sites where folks have virtual lovers/boyfriends and have a "virtual" social life. Obviously, this is different from the cyber cheating that has been around forever and was generally very sleazy. Quite a revelation for me! Thanks for your comment, buddie. Nice to see you here.Elaine Shuel
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I don't understand any of this. If people are just flirting and pretending to have affairs in that group, what is the difference between a virtual group and a regular dating group? If a woman has an image of her with long flowing hair and beautiful face and figure, she must know that a man who picks her wouldn't be with her in real life. Also it means the suave blonde man you're dancing with there could be bald, no teeth, and 500 lb. so the whole situation is very strange. Elaine Shuel
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Diane, you are half right. i DON'T do this for work at all. My erotica is where I earn money. This is purely for fun. At one time, I did have a job that involved being on a virtual site but that was many years ago. You are correct that I don't meet men in person since I have my real life boyfriend. He is fine with what I do on virtual sites or I wouldn't be on them. Elaine Shuel
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I wouldn't say it has anything to do with being smart, though you are correct that I had hoped I would see through dishonesty. He was very good though. Usually if you can call someone or Skype, it means the person is single. At least one would hope. Elaine Shuel
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You have to understand ET, he has had major health issues. Had he just disappeared, I would have assumed he was avoiding me. However, given the e-mails he wrote me that day and that he waited for me to finish what I had to do, and disappeared during us talking, I was concerned. The fact none of his friends saw him either, I was worried he got ill. Elaine Shuel
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Exactly. Just tell women you are married and some will be fine with it and others not. Thanks Dan. Elaine Shuel
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I am under the impression that this blog is to share what happens with us. I was merely doing that. I am not in denial as there is another guy that I have liked before and after this disappearing one. I refused to make the missing bf my boyfriend on the sites this guy is on since I prefer him. This "hobby" as you put it, has led to me making some great friends and having some wonderful times so thanks Maggie. Elaine Shuel
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Wow, I can't believe what you wrote boogie. It reminds me of when I first started blogging here. In what way am I gathering info for a novel? I provided info on what happened to me and that's it. I haven't been as active here as I used to be and this type of response makes me feel like staying away more. As far as tolerating my behavior, if you mean my real life bf, he knows how much I love him and that I would never meet any guy from the internet or cheat on him. He knows I wish he was around more but since he is a workaholic he is happy when i am having a good time. Elaine Shuel
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Incidentally, telling me to "fess" up and calling my blog "ridiculous" has offended me to no end. Should we now be reading other blogs and deciding whether they are deemed satisfactory to the reader? My stories are FICTION except for my life story. I DON'T come here or any site to gather information for my next story. I use my imagination to come up with material but perhaps your comment will inspire a story about a blog reader who sees everything so negatively that she has to come up with nasty remarks to someone who was merely telling about an event in their life. Elaine Shuel
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You didn't say anything wrong, ET. You expressed your opinion. I am fine with that. Insulting me by calling my blog ridiculous and saying I should "fess" up to something I am not guilty of, is where the problem is. That was boogie not you. Have a nice weekend, ET. Elaine Shuel
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Sadly I agree, Dan. I just don't see why someone would do that. Thanks. Elaine Shuel
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Diane, I know that many can't understand why I enjoy being on virtual worlds. I have no issue with that. I also get why you are surprised my real life boyfriend has no issue with what I do. He is not a jealous man and he knows in the 11 years (this March) we have been together, I have never met any man in person though I have had many offers. You have to remember given I was a phone sex operator for many years and an erotica author, I have received my fair share of offers and accepted none. He also knows I tell him everything and is not threatened by anything done on the phone or virtual. He is my real love and he knows it. It is not for anyone else to judge if what works for a couple is right or wrong.. I hope you know that even if you don't get it. Elaine Shuel
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Thanks Dan. Those who are into it understand it. Those who aren't, often can't. Elaine Shuel
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