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Do you love yourself? This might be too deep for a blog. I guess the response it elicits will prove one way or another. I just have to say that I know people who can't look at themselves in the mirror, or if they do, they don't like what they see. Sometimes it's about their weight, other times it's about other things. It's strange because my life hasn't exactly turned out how I planned. I did well in school and expected a bright future. Unfortunately for me, Murphy's Law (anything that can go wrong, will go wrong) frequently happened. This isn't to show self-pity. I always found another way and if I didn't, I accepted the way things are to some degree. I'm ambitious by nature so it hasn't always been easy. I'm overweight, a lifelong struggle that many people are familiar with. Despite all of it, I DO love myself. Of course, I'd like to lose weight for health reasons but I don't have trouble looking in the mirror. I don't need to weigh a certain amount to love myself. Do you? When I hear from those I know that don't love themselves, I ask them a question. Do you judge others as harshly as you do yourself? The answer is always NO. So, why is it that there are so many people out there that can accept the faults of those they love but can't accept their own shortcomings? You love your family unconditionally. Start with yourself. Elaine Shuel |
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Very good, Bill.  That's a good question. If you read my blog that asks if you are a day person or night owl, you'll have the answer. lol Truth is, I really wanted to get to bed by 2 am but we had a blackout from close to 1 am that ended close to 3 am. So, I had to check SFF of course, my new ritual. That led to my new post.Elaine Shuel
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Yes, I love myself and I love the way my life is headed. Everything seems to be currently headed in the right direction. But most of all, I love Ann, the lady who shares my life. Alfie...
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Love me? Well, yes I do, I have to, who else is going to love me for me, or put up with my stuff?
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Thanks for writing on my blog, classy_baglady. Welcome!!! I know that expression but the truth of it is, the people who I know that say it, often do have someone who loves them, even though they don't love themselves. Elaine Shuel
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Yes, I love myself and I love the way my life is headed. Everything seems to be currently headed in the right direction. But most of all, I love Ann, the lady who shares my life. Alfie... I'm sure Ann liked it too. Thank you.Elaine Shuel
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Love me? Well, yes I do, I have to, who else is going to love me for me, or put up with my stuff? Thanks for your reply.Elaine Shuel
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You did bring up some great points, Pat. Thank you. I don't love my weight but I do love myself. I can separate the two. I know some people who can't. They are convinced that if they weigh too much, they are not worthy of love. That's very sad. Elaine Shuel
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The best way to answer this one is to share with you that I am a person of strong religious faith. I am not afraid to proclaim that faith, nor am I afraid to make a point in unconventional ways. There are plenty of people who can make a point in conventional ways. But the answer to you question is yes, and no. I was fascinated to learn, through my faith, about spiritual gifts. More times than I can count I've seen these gifts in full bloom for all to see...numerous times here on the blogs as well. I do think some recognize their gifts and use them, others appear less informed (about their gifts). To be fair this isn't completely knowable because some gifts wouldn't be revealed in this forum. However, my own gift puts this in perspective and nevertheless the odds are that too many people are indeed ignorant of just what those gifts actually are. It's a shame because realizing that capacity is more than a ticket to happiness, it is an enabler for purpose, and all of us depend upon that. So I have come to find great satisfaction knowing how, and when, I fulfill that unique purpose in devotion to the God I love. In that respect, I do love myself. On the other hand it does frustrate me at times reflecting on those situations in my life that didn't come out like I wish they had. Again, being fair to myself, many of those situations were not situations where I was aware of my spiritual gifts, and therefore lacked judgment that might have led to a different outcome. Lesson learned? Become aware of all the spiritual gifts...so then you will be able to see them in the lives of others...and purpose will mean so much to you. You're a very spiritual person and that's great. I wish I were more so. I think that good and bad things happen to each of us. We shouldn't let the bad things affect our love for ourselves.Elaine Shuel
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I'm not surprised, rainier. You're a very positive person. It's one of the things I like about you. Elaine Shuel
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Thanks Maisie. When I was younger, the marks I got in school affected my self esteem. I had to keep doing well because if I got a bad mark, I scolded myself. I am no longer like that. With age, I've accepted my good points and my bad points. I'd like to improve on my weaknesses but they don't affect my feelings of self worth. Elaine Shuel
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It's good you love yourself, MySeek2day. Everyone should, in my opinion. Unconditional love is generally reserved for those special people in our lives, including our immediate families. Elaine Shuel
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I think I can finally say with assurance that I do love myself, though getting here has been a lot of hard work......I was abused pretty much my whole childhood, so it took many years to heal.......It took a lot of inner-delving and scrupulous emotional honesty, with a lot of help........I once thought that self-esteem came from others. I had no idea what role shame had played in my life..... Then, when I had done so much grieving I thought the pain in my heart was a permanent condition...........I suddenly was released and I bobbed like a cork to the surface in a sea of gratitude..........Only then did I recognize the difference between ego and self-love....... I'm still weeding that garden........my intent is to feel confident enough to allow that garden to grow freely..........I make my heart a wilderness, that the wildflowers of my love will blossom there. I'm glad that you can finally say that you love yourself. That's very important.Elaine Shuel
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Elaine I must have missed this bog somewhere along the way. This is a good question to ask one's self. Love comes in many forms and I haven't ever said I love myself but certainly like me. I think if you like or love yourself it comes across to others. But I also think one can get really caught up in it and become very self opinionated. There were some good replies to your blog Elaine.
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Yes, I do. Times ago I learned to love myself as I am, with my successes and mistakes, my imperfections and talents. At this time, when I look at myself in the mirror, I usually say to my image: "good, Lucy, you're aging very well" (I am one of the oldest here). I've read your other blogs, Elaine. all are interesting. Thank you.  Trust in dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.(Khalil Gibran)
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Elaine I must have missed this bog somewhere along the way. This is a good question to ask one's self. Love comes in many forms and I haven't ever said I love myself but certainly like me. I think if you like or love yourself it comes across to others. But I also think one can get really caught up in it and become very self opinionated. There were some good replies to your blog Elaine. Hopefully given you like yourself, you also love yourself. I think a positive attitude is more attractive to people than dealing with someone who is always negative. Elaine Shuel
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Yes, I do. Times ago I learned to love myself as I am, with my successes and mistakes, my imperfections and talents. At this time, when I look at myself in the mirror, I usually say to my image: "good, Lucy, you're aging very well" (I am one of the oldest here). I've read your other blogs, Elaine. all are interesting. Thank you. I'm pleased that you've enjoyed my blogs. Thanks for letting me know.I'm glad that you love yourself. I really feel bad that everyone doesn't feel that way. I saw a message from someone on FB months ago. The woman said she hated herself because of her weight. She said as long as she was overweight, she couldn't feel differently. I wrote her, a total stranger to me, and I hope in some small way it helped her to begin accepting herself. She said she was happy I wrote. Most likely it didn't help, because it has to come from within. Elaine Shuel
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