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Blogging questions - HELP!!! I'm confused about proper blogging etiquette. I was under the impression, which I am now wondering if it is false, that when someone reads a blog, as long as they don't get rude or nasty, it's fine to disagree and to voice that disagreement on that blog. In other words, if I put up a blog post and you totally disagree with my point of view, you can make your position known on MY blog. I also thought that if someone else writes a comment on my post, it's fine for anyone reading my post, to respond on MY post. Am I wrong? Based on somethings that have happened since I've started blogging here, I am now wondering what is considered offensive to some. The reason I am questioning my understanding is for 2 reasons. One, someone that I disagreed with has stated that they never say anything on someone else's blog if they disagree. That was the implication. Secondly, someone else answered what someone wrote on my blog and apologized. I don't get why the need to apologize. To me, if I write something and someone disagrees, great!!! I invite anyone to give their opinions and perhaps I will see the error of my ways. If I firmly believe I am right, as do they, not an issue. EVERYONE is free to say anything in answer to what I write or what anyone writes on my blog, as long as hatred isn't being promoted (I'm going to clarify that I don't want hatred promoted, even as a joke. That's for you rentier1.). I need to know what the rules are if I am to follow them. My aim is not to offend anyone but to write what I feel regarding something I read. In my view, there is no point in blogging if readers can't say what they really think. Elaine Shuel |
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Thanks Dan but if there are no rules, why was someone so angry that I responded to what was said on their blog? I thought perhaps that there is something I am unaware of. Elaine Shuel
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Thanks for coming to my blog, Ya_Ya.  Yes, that's the way I think. I give my opinion and they give theirs. I don't consider it disrespectful to have someone disagree with me. That's part of life. I'm relieved to see that I haven't offended everyone, when I replied with my opinion on matters. It certainly is never my intention. Elaine Shuel
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Your first paragraph is the way I approach it. Feel free to disagree with me as much as you wish. I will say that I am very open with respect to opposing comments, but, there have been a few people I had no choice but to ultimately ban. The decision is up to you on what you find out of line, and how you choose to handle it. For me, a person who disagrees with me must leave my family out of their remarks. They can't imply violence on a personal level either. It is way too hard, and too dangerous, to trust in your own capacity to discern true intent. It is very unwise to ignore threats. I won't make that mistake again. Also, it isn't necessary to use vulgar language in expressing disagreement with me. This has offended some of my readers, and perpetual abusers, after I have asked them politiely to refrain from the ugly expressions, I ultimately ban if they persist because some of my users do not like abusive language. I have also banned a few people who follow me to other blogs for the expressed purpose of carrying on their dislike, filthy language and all. It is only the extreme cases that are problematic - perhaps 2 or 3 people in several years. And lastly, there are a few who make clearly racist comments and this offends some of my readers so I choose to eliminate those posts if and when I see them. I welcome people to engage, and they can carry on a conversation with others on my blog as long as they wish. I really enjoy your blogs, and I enjoyed your story as well. Blog as often as you want. The more posts the better. I would love to see the blog here move much more rapidly than it does. Elaine Shuel
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I'll start by saying that if you try too hard to avoid offending anyone, you will be tiptoeing on eggshells and that's never any fun. Everyone needs to take responsibility for their own feelings.....that includes feelings of offense .......No one has a right not to be offended.........I don't think there are any rules per se.......Though some may think so.......a couple of days ago someone posted a blog that was not only an outright lie, but it was religious bigotry, racism and fear-mongering..........and the blogger just conveniently deleted the comments that spoke against it.........Interesting dynamic isn't it? Others choose not to use the blocking, believing that a free-for-all is ethically superior....possibly linked to the idea that the US Constitution was written by God.........LOL.......They think that a public display of their personal vendettas is entertaining.........dismissing all pleadings to stop the feuding......And on and on.....Humans let out of their cages and given the freedom of anonymity. I often find it a fascinating study in Human dynamics and social interaction........ What you wrote afterwards in your comment, sounds like it is in regards to a blog I read today. I didn't read the whole issue back and forth but this is exactly what I meant. You are free to post this on my blog and they are free to address anything you wrote that they don't like. That said, I wouldn't be happy for it to get out of hand on my blog, as I am not involved in the issue. Elaine Shuel
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Thanks for your support as always, RosesLady. I definitely don't want to offend anyone. I feel like I'm your 2nd kind of responder. At least, that's what I try to be. I'm sure if I'm not, someone will rein me in. lol Elaine Shuel
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Sometimes you're damned if you do, and damned if you don't. As long as you're having FUN, take everyone else with a grain of salt....and a splash of tequila!!! 
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Yes I apologised as an afterthought (answering another on your blog) on the off chance I may have offended. Just covering my bases as some people can take offense where none intended. I personally don't have a problem with folk doing same on my blogs :- )
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3/1/2015 8:55 pm |
Roses said it perfectly and Lulu gives a gives a good perspective. There aren't any rules You can't please all of the people all of the time, and there are some you can't please no matter what you do. A few people choose to offended simply because you exist. That's life. Some people simply don't like each other. However it is up to you to set limits, if you choose, on what you will or will not be part of. Common sense tells us to gravitate towards like minded people and stay away from the ones who do not resonate. Personally I apply the same standards here as I do in everything. They are what always worked for me. Spiritwoman ^i^
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Thanks Maisie. Everyone on this post is saying no rules. However, if those who think there are rules that I am breaking aren't responding here, I will continue as I have. I am doing my best to not ruffle any feathers, but on the other hand, I do want my opinions heard.  Elaine Shuel
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This is a prime example of where someone got upset with me. It is MY post and YOU responded to a comment made. Am I upset by that? Not in the least. Elaine Shuel
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Sometimes you're damned if you do, and damned if you don't. As long as you're having FUN, take everyone else with a grain of salt....and a splash of tequila!!!  Instead of the drink, I would turn to ice cream. lolElaine Shuel
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The only problem with that Pat is, how am I supposed to know what will bother someone on their blog? I don't read minds. I assumed I was going against what everyone here knew was wrong but clearly I didn't. That's why I asked what the rules are. Thanks for your response. I definitely agree about the good, the bad and the ugly. Elaine Shuel
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Thanks Liszt. Elaine Shuel
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I have found that writing has only one dimension. Sometimes we misread what people really mean. We can't hear the reflection in their voice or read their facial expressions. Perhaps they are making a joke and we take it as sarcasm. Then again maybe they are being hateful. I never will understand why people think they have to be hateful just because they don't share the same opinion? Debates should not be an argument but an open line to communicate? Take care friend and keep writing. I agree but then again, I've always liked intelligent debates.Elaine Shuel
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Yes I apologised as an afterthought (answering another on your blog) on the off chance I may have offended. Just covering my bases as some people can take offense where none intended. I personally don't have a problem with folk doing same on my blogs :- ) It wasn't necessary because like you, I have no issues with you answering someone else's comment on my blog. I was wondering afterwards if I was doing something wrong on other blogs, as I've done the same. That was part of the reason for this post. I wanted to ensure I am not stepping on toes without meaning to.Elaine Shuel
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Only 3 kinds of responders?.....Looks to me like there are as many kinds as there are responders....everyone unique......and often we respond differently on different days.........I can see you sitting at your computer trying to decide if a reply belongs in box 1, 2 or 3.......what criteria do you use to judge whether a response is polite or not.....do you ever find that you're not sure? ........Categories, categories, all is categories. Elaine Shuel
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I really wish that comments like these wouldn't be said on my blog posts. It's fine to disagree with someone but calling them names, is something I don't really appreciate here. Elaine Shuel
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Roses said it perfectly and Lulu gives a gives a good perspective. There aren't any rules You can't please all of the people all of the time, and there are some you can't please no matter what you do. A few people choose to offended simply because you exist. That's life. Some people simply don't like each other. However it is up to you to set limits, if you choose, on what you will or will not be part of. Common sense tells us to gravitate towards like minded people and stay away from the ones who do not resonate. Personally I apply the same standards here as I do in everything. They are what always worked for me. I just wanted to make sure there aren't rules I am unaware of. I thought perhaps that I'm not supposed to answer comments on someone else's blog. I offended someone who felt it was disrespectful and I didn't mean to disrespect anyone.Elaine Shuel
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That's where emoticons come into play. It is easy to have a misunderstanding over the internet, Bill. I know that from firsthand experience. The best you could do is hope it dies down. Good luck. Elaine Shuel
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3/1/2015 11:26 pm |
OMG now you've gone too far. This whole topic is totally offensive, racist, and unconstitutional.  Just joking around Elaine. But then again one day you might write what you consider a totally non-offensive blog then log in later and find a weird reply like that. In the beginning an unexpected insult like that would have me in tears, but SFF has really toughened me up and made me strong. Now I just don't care anymore. Keep up the good work. You have really been a great asset to our blogs. 
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There are no hard and fast rules as such.l It all depends on who's friendly with whom. 
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OMG now you've gone too far. This whole topic is totally offensive, racist, and unconstitutional. Just joking around Elaine. But then again one day you might write what you consider a totally non-offensive blog then log in later and find a weird reply like that. In the beginning an unexpected insult like that would have me in tears, but SFF has really toughened me up and made me strong. Now I just don't care anymore. Keep up the good work. You have really been a great asset to our blogs. The beginning of your message made my heart stop but other than that, I'm fine. lol It is true that sometimes a reply can be unexpected, but overall I've had great support and made some wonderful friends like you here.  Elaine Shuel
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There are no hard and fast rules as such.l It all depends on who's friendly with whom. Elaine Shuel
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Thanks Pat. There was absolutely NO ill intent. I responded to a comment on the person's blog. I like the person who I responded to. I was not trying to hurt anyone's feelings. I guess the lesson I learned is that it ISN'T being disrepectful, contrary to what she said. That's a relief. That has been confirmed here. Going forward, it means that unless someone else is offended and tells me, I will continue what I have been doing. I'll try to remember NOT to answer comments made on that one person's blog since it bothers her. Elaine Shuel
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Thanks for that interesting comment, earthtaurus3. I'm not sure I understood the part about your reference to looking "drunk.as a skunk". Anyhow, all I can do is blog about things that interest me, and not worry about how others perceive me or my blogs. Elaine Shuel
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