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THE EFFECTS OF JEALOUSY Jealousy is a typical experience in human relationships. A painful apprehension of rival-ship in cases affecting one's happiness, painful suspicion of the faithfulness of the partner. Jealousy often consists of a combination of emotions such as anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness and disgust. Jealousy is an emotion that can manifest itself in a number of interpersonal relationships---romantic or not. It originates in a feeling that someone else has an advantage that you don't or that a person dear to you, favors someone else over you. Both actions and people themselves can be described as jealous. Jealousy can be a burning pain, an animosity, enmity, hatred, ill will; a tirade of abuse and of criticism, Or a dull lifetime ache of comparison to everything and everyone, it is unattractive, ridiculous and possibly a dangerous sign of delusions and possessiveness. Jealousy is a disorder/disease but love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy.... In fact, they are almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other. Jealousy is triggered by the threat of separation from or loss of a romantic partner. * Is your jealousy tearing your relationship apart? Are you jealous of every person in your partner's life?.Do you have a hard time trusting, believing or doubting your partner?. Ask yourself why you are choosing this behavior. Is your way being jealous, accusatory, highly monitoring and smothering? Why are you choosing that?. * There's an expression: "What I fear, I create." Are you testing your partner until she just finally fails? If you fear that she is going to cheat on you, you may just push her to a point where someone else may grab her attention. Imagine if someone else treated your partner with dignity and respect, didn't challenge her integrity every minute of every hour, but was in fact thoughtful, peaceful, harmonious and respectful. These are things that really matter. You need to worry about what you're creating. Did you ask yourself if with your jealous behavior, it would drive off your partner?. Jealousy is a poorly disguised need for power and control. Jealous people are tyrannical, controlling, domineering and completely insensitive to the impact of their actions on their partner. Are you getting a power trip off of this? Is the payoff that you keep your partner on a short leash and completely under your control?. * Choose to respect your partner and make some different choices. You have more power in your love, respect, personality and magnetism than you do in control and obsession. "People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing". Respect your partner enough to let her know about your love, your trust and your tenderness. These will attract her/him more closer to you. * Why are you so obsessed?, But why are you dragging that into your relationship?, How dumb would you feel if you spent all the time worrying that she's going to cheat on you? And then it never happens? You're missing out on enjoying each other. Though a little jealousy in a relationship is healthy, it's nice to know someone's afraid it loose you. *The only way you'll ever get peace is, if you come to the realization that you can't control others. Find out how to control these emotions before they tear you and your relationships apart. EXTREME JEALOUSY IS THE WORST ENEMY OF A PEACEFUL AND HARMONIOUS RELATIONSHIP. RATHER BE CONFIDENT, UN-RESENTFUL, TRUSTFUL AND OPTIMISTIC FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Thanks for reading this blog of mine, I wish each of you, All my very best. Sincerely Lisa.         |
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I'm jealous I didnt write this great blog first  Judgment Day will be interesting - and all paths lead there.
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Hermitin, It doesn't matter who wrote it first. But what really matters is its content and the truth in it. To ponder upon the effects of too much jealousy in a relationship. Fierce jealousy then, destroys and drift apart a happy couple. Those who survive it, can confirm it. Thanks for your kind visit and for your nice comments as well. I do appreciate them. Have a good day. Lisa.
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