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An Important Lesson Learned While responding to Ranger's blog I was reminded of an important life lesson I learned by experience. I was around 40, single and dipped my feet back in the dating pool. My love life to this point included a couple of failed serious relationships and a failed marriage but little real dating experience (if this makes any sense). This time around I decided to just date for a while with no expectations of outcomes. I was having fun going out, meeting new people and doing things I hadn't done in years. As is the story of my life this did not last. After a few months of enjoying casual dating I met this guy. He was driving a truck at the time which was not an issue for me. However he felt compelled to explain to me he was not "an ordinary truck driver". His story was fascinating and unique but my initial reaction was "that is what they all say", which had been my experience at the time. I went out on a second date primarily becasue I gave him an A for original BS and wanted to hear more. The surprise was on me. All of his unique stories were true. He was indeed a professional who reverted back to a skill he had learned growing up on a ranch and perfected while serving in the army to escape a double hit of tragedy, misfortune and unhappiness. His life's story was just as unbelievable but true as mine was. It didn't take long until we both fell deeply in love. If I hadn't refrained from letting my quick judgement get in the way I would have missed the best 20 years of my life and experiencing the kind of knock your socks off love I had to that point only read about in romance novels. Adding a touch of realism here that meant allowing myself to be open to the intense and extreme pain I had to endure when he passed but that too taught me a lot. Two important life lessons I learned here, the hard way which is the usual for me. Most importantly hold off on passing judgement until you have all of the facts. Second live in the moment. Things are seldom what they seem on the surface. Grab every enjoyable moment. Squeeze every bit of love and happiness you can out of it. Let the unpleasant experiences go. Run fast enough that they can't catch you. Don't give up becasue you never know how things will turn out. As someone told me way back when you can't have pleasure without pain. Spiritwoman ^i^ |
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Some good advice, thanks. So glad you met the love of your life by remaining open despite initial doubt; of lessons learned.
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5/25/2016 11:45 am |
Hi Spirit: Beautiful blog. For those here who are actually going out on dates, a really important aspect of dating is not to judge a book by its cover. I met a man in the 70s who I thought was a drunken bum and the first time I saw him he was sprawled across the curb in front of a bar and there was blood on his forehead. There I was in a fox fur jacket, high heels, looking like Farrah Fawcett. The odd couple you would not believe, but this man turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me in my life, and oddly enough he said the same about me. We were together for 7 years and I left him which has been the biggest regret in my life.
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I enjoyed reading this wonderful love story, Spirit. You certainly have a way with words and I thank you for that, Alfie...
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I'm glad you had that wondeful 20 years. Not everyone is so fortunate. Nice read. Thanks for sharing something so personal. Judgment Day will be interesting - and all paths lead there.
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5/25/2016 10:06 pm |
Some good advice, thanks. So glad you met the love of your life by remaining open despite initial doubt; of lessons learned. Spiritwoman ^i^
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5/25/2016 10:07 pm |
Hi Spirit: Beautiful blog. For those here who are actually going out on dates, a really important aspect of dating is not to judge a book by its cover. I met a man in the 70s who I thought was a drunken bum and the first time I saw him he was sprawled across the curb in front of a bar and there was blood on his forehead. There I was in a fox fur jacket, high heels, looking like Farrah Fawcett. The odd couple you would not believe, but this man turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me in my life, and oddly enough he said the same about me. We were together for 7 years and I left him which has been the biggest regret in my life. Spiritwoman ^i^
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5/25/2016 10:09 pm |
I enjoyed reading this wonderful love story, Spirit. You certainly have a way with words and I thank you for that, Alfie... Spiritwoman ^i^
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5/25/2016 10:10 pm |
No one can take away what we have had and as long as we are satisfied with our now all is well. Spiritwoman ^i^
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5/25/2016 10:13 pm |
That seems accurate. Using the term "failed " reflects values from the past when marriage was suppose to work no matter what. This line of thinking was what kept me in my first marriage much longer than I should have stayed.. Spiritwoman ^i^
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5/25/2016 10:14 pm |
Thank you. Just a glimpse of what life is like for someone who dives into life full speed ahead. Spiritwoman ^i^
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5/25/2016 10:16 pm |
I'm glad you had that wondeful 20 years. Not everyone is so fortunate. Nice read. Thanks for sharing something so personal. Spiritwoman ^i^
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5/25/2016 10:19 pm |
You're welcome. We were both lucky. When we met it was a less than a good time in either of our lives. I often wonder if we would have found each other if things had been going well for either of us. Spiritwoman ^i^
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