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Please Pass the Duct Tape - Again A timely message from the Divine? No, just something my ADD brain ran across. Just to show how this thought process goes I went to a website I refer to for holistic health information, got distracted by some articles about pets and ended up with this one on public speaking. Don’t ask me why. In my day job I did plenty of this, including presenting reports in court, the press and the state. These days the only “speaking” I do is as a spiritual practitioner. None the less this caught my attention. Yikes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If these standards were applied the blog page would be blank. 7 Deadly Sins of Speaking Do you ever feel like when you speak, folks don’t listen? Julian Treasure shares tips to make your words more powerful: 7 Deadly Sins of Speaking. What I like about these rules is that they’re so common sense. Treasure encourages you to choose your words wisely and put yourself into your listeners shoes. 1. Don’t gossip. When you talk to someone who gossips, do you wonder whether they’re talking behind your back? 2. Avoid judgement. This goes hand-in-hand with gossip, in my opinion. When you judge, you make your listener feel like you’re judging him. And maybe you are. 3. Ditch the negativity. Do you know someone who has something bad to say about everything? That’s no fun! 4. Quit complaining. Complaining is a lot like negativity, but it’s more unbidden. Someone who offers up a laundry list of complaints is exhausting to listen to. Treasure calls complaining “viral misery.” 5. Stop making excuses. Don’t be a “blamethrower!” People who complain (#4!) and don’t take responsibility for their part in how things are playing out are hard to listen to. 6. Don’t exaggerate. Treasure says that this habit – which he calls “embroidery” – demeans our language. Exaggeration is the worst. (See what I did there?) 7. Ditch the dogma. No one likes being bombarded with opinions, especially when those opinions are presented as fact So, this list seems like it’s a little bit guilty of sin numbers three and four, but he doesn’t leave it at that. So how should we speak? On top of the 7 Deadly Sins of Speaking, Treasure offers four cornerstones of good speaking: 1. Be honest. 2. Be authentic. 3. Have integrity. 4. Operate from a place of love. Spiritwoman ^i^ |
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I only wish that some of those bloggers who seem to break all of these rules, would take notice of them and then maybe the blogs would become a place of fun again, just like it used to be. Alfie...
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7/10/2014 5:33 pm |
It is really really hard to not react at times. Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/10/2014 5:34 pm |
that they do. Kind of like "I am going to get the last word in." Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/10/2014 5:35 pm |
Definitely. I'll send you a private message with my contact info. Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/10/2014 5:36 pm |
I only wish that some of those bloggers who seem to break all of these rules, would take notice of them and then maybe the blogs would become a place of fun again, just like it used to be. Alfie... Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/10/2014 5:38 pm |
That has always been my choice. Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/10/2014 5:40 pm |
In my case I still don't know anyone here well enough to even understand the gossip. Most of the time I get the message that people don't like each other for some reason or another but truly don't understand most of the details. Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/10/2014 5:43 pm |
Thank you. I'm not sure which tires me more - unsubstantiatable political stuff with the only agenda being aggravating those with the opposite views or petty fights that I can never figure out. Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/10/2014 5:46 pm |
We all do but unfortunately seeing ourselves is difficult. Somehow it is easier to see things in others. I have to do regular reality checks on myself. Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/10/2014 10:49 pm |
All the more fun. I am FB. Hard to tell me though becasue my pic is of my head in a mountain swimming hole. I'll see if I can find you. Matt is also on the FB group. Spiritwoman ^i^
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