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spiritwoman45
22314 posts
6/17/2014 9:30 am
Please Pass the Duct Tape

I have long agreed with the following sentiments but this is so hard to live up to without duct tape for my mouth or in our case here finger splints so we can't type.

As An ADD person I can be quick to react with a verbal volcano and either spew out a bunch of nonsense or say things I really don't mean,want to say or just come out wrong. I find it helpful to go to a word processing program and pound out my thoughts. I leave them alone for a day or so, go back and look them over and consider if my point is still worth making and if so how to best present it.



Spiritwoman ^i^


Rocketship 79F
18531 posts
6/17/2014 10:04 am

Well said Spirit !!!!


bijou624

6/17/2014 10:51 am

Hi Spirit: I really admire the way you express yourself in this group, even to someone who just insulted you. I hate confrontations of any kind, so I take as much as I possibly can from someone without comment, then I type something I usually regret later.


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 12:39 pm

    Quoting  :

Universal fix it too. Will be heading out for a couple of days off the grid the end of the week and duct tape is high on the list of mist haves.

Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 12:41 pm

    Quoting  :

Definitely tests the limits but also gives excellent insight to understand who some of the folks are.

Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 12:48 pm

    Quoting LeafTreat:
    God gave you a voice so why conclude that what you have to say would be a waste? It's about sharing the good news and persuasion, not about being a quitter. What I've discovered by being open in life is that so many people are hungry to participate, contribute, learn, and make a difference. So many are discouraged, in need of help, desire a sense of belonging and want to be heard. Can you hear me NOW?
Trust me, you are heard.

Being open is one thing and I am. Just doesn't mean I need to go on and on all of the time. if I were to go on and on after stating point no one would hear me when I have something important to say. I also like to make sire what I have to contribute is appropriate and relative instead of babble running through my mind. These are major challenges for us ADD people.


Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 12:55 pm

    Quoting bijou624:
    Hi Spirit: I really admire the way you express yourself in this group, even to someone who just insulted you. I hate confrontations of any kind, so I take as much as I possibly can from someone without comment, then I type something I usually regret later.
At the risk of sounding snooty I consider insulting a person a level of functioning I have worked hard to rise above. I refuse to allow anyone to bring me back down to that level. Now ideas are another thing. I have no difficulty disagreeing as long as it is not a personal insult.

Spiritwoman ^i^


traveler56 77F
9560 posts
6/17/2014 12:59 pm

Duct tape? I was just in the hardware store and saw many lovely colors of it. You want turquoise, gold, silver, leopard, tie-dye or hot pink?


Simpleladyb2 74F
14822 posts
6/17/2014 1:00 pm

I got the duck tape already Spirit! I used this time for me!

Have a good day!


"The only way to have a friend is to be one."


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 1:00 pm

    Quoting  :

It is but it helps to consider the fact that if someone chooses to make me a target it means that deny it as they might they put some value in what I have to say. If they didn't they wouldn't even acknowledged me as I would not be worth the time.

Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 1:01 pm

    Quoting  :

We all do. That is why I need duct tape at times.

Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 1:05 pm

    Quoting  :

Best way to deal with. Years ago I attended a workshop called "who owns the problem?". It was all about analyzing the situation and mot taking responsibility for another persons issues. I still use the methods presented to analyze things rather than react emotionally.

Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 1:07 pm

Haven't heard from you before. Welcome.

Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 1:10 pm

    Quoting  :

One of Chuck's favorite sayings. "you can't fix stupid." I concur but try not to use the word stupid. I am around my young grandchildren a lot and stupid is a word they are not allowed to use at school. More duct tape please. Grandma needs it.

Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 1:12 pm

    Quoting Simpleladyb2:
    I got the duck tape already Spirit! I used this time for me!

    Have a good day!

We all need it for ourselves recently. Want to split a Costco pack with me?

Spiritwoman ^i^


Simpleladyb2 74F
14822 posts
6/17/2014 1:27 pm

    Quoting spiritwoman45:
    We all need it for ourselves recently. Want to split a Costco pack with me?
Please, I need some more!

Have a good day!


"The only way to have a friend is to be one."


hobsonschoice 75F
3600 posts
6/17/2014 4:24 pm

    Quoting PiperRose1949:
    Spirit --it's Grace -- mighty got me blocked but I talked to the powers that be and they will let me return if I behave and seriously they said block everyone that you simply can't deal with and blog away -- basically stay away from conflict -- so I will take their very good advice!!
I didn't think they would provide the person who was banned with the name(s) of the people who made complaints. Good luck with staying away from the conflict, considering you couldn't even post to this blog without having to mention his name.....lol


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 5:15 pm

    Quoting traveler56:
    Duct tape? I was just in the hardware store and saw many lovely colors of it. You want turquoise, gold, silver, leopard, tie-dye or hot pink?
My granddaughter has boxes of the stuff. She makes all sorts of things out of it and sells them to her friends. There was even an entire store of it when I was n NYC last year. We could all get together and have a duct tape fashion show..

Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 5:18 pm

    Quoting  :

When I worked for DCFS we loved it when clients wanted to argue their case on court. That usually won the case for us.

Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 5:20 pm

    Quoting  :

You are a legend in your own time.

Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 10:53 pm

    Quoting miteehigh3:
    I think that it is appropriate that the record be set straight. Piper/Grace made a comment that is not true. As Hobson said SFF will not give the names of people that complain and more importantly I have not reported her to SFF. I have blocked her and her other screen names to effectively shut the door to her stage. I will continue to do that when people come to my blog under false pretenses.

    Coach, I hate to bust your bubble, bud, but you are inconsequential to me...other than your crude comment that you posted to my wife's blog. That was posted under your attempt to gain access to my blog by creating an alias under the name of iggy. Clean up your language around my wife and stay the hell away from me, my wife and our blogs. Got it?
Wow - a day away and I missed a lot. I am planning on being off the grid for a few days and wonder if I will recognize anyone when I get back.

Sorry to hear about all of the discord. As you know I base how I see and respond to people as individuals based on how they treat me. You have always been respectful and pleasant with me and I hope we can continue


Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 10:58 pm

    Quoting PiperRose1949:
    Spirit --it's Grace -- mighty got me blocked but I talked to the powers that be and they will let me return if I behave and seriously they said block everyone that you simply can't deal with and blog away -- basically stay away from conflict -- so I will take their very good advice!!
well, you're still welcome as long as you understand that I treat everyone the same unless they attack me. Avoiding conflict is easy - just remember what I posted a few days ago. Stick to talking about things and ideas, not people.

Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 11:01 pm

    Quoting hobsonschoice:
    I didn't think they would provide the person who was banned with the name(s) of the people who made complaints. Good luck with staying away from the conflict, considering you couldn't even post to this blog without having to mention his name.....lol
I wouldn't think SFF would give out names of complainants. If doing so didn't violate some law it would definitely not be professional. Seriously though, since SFF is such a small portion of their business I always feel like they keep us around to entertain them.

Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/17/2014 11:03 pm

    Quoting SpunkyLady61:
    It is one of the hardest things for most people to do. Good blog! (as usual)
Thank you. It is hard.

Spiritwoman ^i^


spiritwoman45

6/18/2014 8:23 am

    Quoting miteehigh3:
    Of course we can continue. We respect each other in spite of differences that we may have on how we evaluate things. I extend respect until someone begins to address me as several here seem to be inclined to do.

    I have expressed myself to those that broached that boundary of respect and that is all that I intended to do.
Good. I know I miss a lot becasue I am tend to skip through stuff not to look that closely at many things and I don't go to chat but in my limited observation I have not seen you take the first swing so to speak. It seems that you comment on thoughts and ideas that are controversial and some have to turn it into a personal conflict.

Spiritwoman ^i^