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Greetings fellow communicators & flirtatious types! I noticed these tips on the Y site and thought they might be informative in this e-mail driven place, called SFF. Apparently there are certain behaviors in flirting with texts, calls and e-mails that supposedly have hidden meaning. Not anymore!  The following tips may help you find the right words and nuances to send the right message to your on line crush or person of interest. Opening up the conversation If you are the first to initiate an on line flirt, keep your message relatively short and simple, but always include an intriguing fact about yourself to elicit curiosity (and inspire a response). ?Example: Hello! I love the fact that you're a world traveler. Have you ever been to Timbuktu? (Even if you've never been, you can follow up with subsequent messages about wanting to visit.) The "Open Loop/Closed Loop" email If you are not interested in pursuing a dialog with your flirtee, you can send the right message without being completely rude -- this is the art of the "open- and closed-loop email." The open-looped email always ends with a question; the closed-looped email does not. The open-looped email indicates you are interested while the closed-looped hopefully lets the person know to stop emailing you. Open-looped: It sounds like you are quite a mountain biker -- where do you like to ride? What kind of bike do you have? Closed-looped: That's cool that you like to bike. Take it easy. Timing is everything Similar to the offline world, timing is everything, but the rules on email are different. You do not need to wait three days to return an email, but you do need to wait more than three minutes. It's a smart idea to vary your response time, and be aware of how long he/she is taking to respond to you. Also, responding to emails at 10 p.m. on a Saturday night may not send the right message (and people, especially women, do notice these things). Spelling and grammar People have very different standards for spelling and grammar in the email world. In the beginning, try to err on the grammatically correct side of things (this way they know you are capable of writing a complete sentence). It never hurts to run a spell-check or take time to proofread. After you have established a rapport, you can take more liberty using lower case, slang terms and more casual communication. Search for someone to flirt with now.  Make a new friend or just send a nice comment on something you enjoyed reading in a profile, etc. It isn't rocket science! I have experienced these quick contacts and some of the senders have become friends. Likewise, I have initiated same with good result.  On that note just one thing that I have wanted to say for awhile: Hey guys, if you repeatedly view a lady and haven't done anything more, these tips might be just what you need. More so called rules? I'll leave that for another post! So y'all, have you been to Timbuktu? Nice smile. Take care. How did you get here? Great Blog, are you writing another? HA HA `authoress  Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. ~ George Washington ~ |
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 8/21/2009 8:37 pm |
Very good blog authoress ! All common sense stuff, but not practised properly at times. Im with you on the the final point . Guys, Dont just view, Flirt, email , or something. After ive viewed someoer more than once, I either do something, or back away. You mustnt tease. !  Hugs, Jan.
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8/21/2009 8:54 pm |
There is a man who lives relatively close by, who has viewed my profile several times a week for months......He is a gold member, so he can contact me.......It makes me wonder........I mean, there is'nt much info on my profile.....a couple of bad photos of my face that I took myself by pointing my camera at me with my arms stretched out......a couple of silly paragraphs........I never change it.........why would anyone go there more than once.....or twice????????? I even sent him a little wave with the flirt thingie......no response.....but he still views my profile almost every day......chooses not to hide the fact.........To tell the truth, it's a pretty big put-off.....I mean, you've gotta be a bit creepy to do that, don't you think?
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 8/22/2009 6:14 am |
Hi Authoress, Loved your post, very informative and so very true! Although I don't worry too much about timing anymore ***. I noticed you have several smilies strategically positioned in your post. Do they have some significance in the rules of engagement? Just wondering   wishes4uBlessed is the heart whose burden is love . -- Cariad1960
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8/22/2009 9:57 am |
Hi Authoress. Great Blog, are you writing another? HA HA I've not been to Timbuktu. Have you? Great Blog, are you writing another? HA HA Regards, classic_48 - There's a Truth out there somewhere!
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8/22/2009 12:50 pm |
There is a man who lives relatively close by, who has viewed my profile several times a week for months......He is a gold member, so he can contact me.......It makes me wonder........I mean, there is'nt much info on my profile.....a couple of bad photos of my face that I took myself by pointing my camera at me with my arms stretched out......a couple of silly paragraphs........I never change it.........why would anyone go there more than once.....or twice????????? I even sent him a little wave with the flirt thingie......no response.....but he still views my profile almost every day......chooses not to hide the fact.........To tell the truth, it's a pretty big put-off.....I mean, you've gotta be a bit creepy to do that, don't you think?
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8/22/2009 1:53 pm |
flirty............I'm a standard member so I can't contact him.........I rarely look at who's viewed me ......but I just noticed that he was there again and so I scrolled back......I don't feel stalked......he hasn't contacted me, but maybe I'll go figure out how to block him....... There was a member on the Magazine, a married man who disagreed with me on everything.......who did that....several months ago......just kept showing up on my viewed list.......I felt kinda creeped out by it.....I mean, he could have hidden it......I thought it was maybe an intimidation tactic.....why else?.....I mentioned it in the Magazine and the women's auxiliary jumped down my throat and said I was a creep for noticing.....that normal, good people would never notice such a thing.......he didn't come back after that though.
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8/24/2009 10:10 am |
worth noting: I often click on a profile I never meant to view because my optical mouse is awful jumpy and will often click on the person instead of the blog name.
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