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This morning I had 115 viewers, out of these 40 were faceless. Why are you faceless people afraid to show yourselves, are you ugly, hiding something, dont want anyone to know who you are, have a few different handles, or just secretive by nature. Well, Im not looking for any partner here as I already have one, but when I came here first, I felt the most important thing to do was to show my face!!! and then to write a decent profile that was honest. If I were any of the members here looking for a partner, serious relationship, or marriage, as most people say, I would never reply to a faceless wonder. I have been hotlisted by a ten members, at least 4 or 5 of them under 40!!!! Why do young men want a woman old enough to be his mother??? I remember simple days when things appeared to be normal, we all went out with our own age group and the only older people in our lives would have been our parents, relatives, etc. How things have changed. The world today is so mixed up and weird, gays and lesbians, young men looking for older women, older women wanting young men, cross dressers looking for ......men! women! Im totally confused. To finish, the only suitable match showing up on my front page for the past two weeks is a male member, who comes from Ireland, is happily married and probably doesnt even know he is there. You need to have a sense of humour here, and Im glad I have. 
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10/28/2009 8:51 am |
Prefer Not to Say goes hand in hand with a silhouette When someone writes to me, they get an automatic reply saying that he will get a response from me only if I receive a RECENT photo from them. When someone says Prefer not to say to Marital Status, isn't it obvious that he IS married. In general, I do not pay attention to those without a photo. Don't waste my time. And no, I'm not looking either. There are more important things in my life than to hook up with someone thousands of miles away  Men don't like women who read books, 'cos they know too much 
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10/26/2009 7:02 am |
I can think of a number of legitimate reasons for not posting a photo with one's profile: - Some people have high profiles in their community and prefer to stay anonymous - Some like their privacy and don't want the whole world to know they are looking (that would be me) - Some might not have access to digital photography When I was looking for someone, I left my photo off a couple of other sites with a note in the profile stating that one would be sent on request. Photos are important, but they were never the most important element for me. The manner in which a profile is written even more so.
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10/25/2009 8:30 pm |
Robyn, you are a dear-sweet thoroughly enjoyable lady! Some of us (at least, me - that's one 'someone', eh?) - do not wish to post a pic of ourselves online. Some day I might post a pic -OR- perhaps I will continue to wish to not want to post my pic online. The Internet is a BIG-VAST place. Robyn, I feel quite certain that you didn't want to question our various reasons, eh? At least not for unfriendly purposes. After all, what if I ever wish to be in competition for Mrs Senior-Age Universe, and then - a person who doesn't wish me well does what's called 'photo-shops' my pic in a very unflattering way - might cause me to give my crown back so that YOU COULD BE VOTED THE WINNER! Robyn - I'm joshing with ya', but seriously, let's not assign nefarious motives to any/all who don't post pix, OK?  ... /:> ...  ... ...  Robin, hugs ----->  to you!"Truth, wisdom, love, seek reasons, malice only seeks causes" Johann Kaspar Lavater
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10/25/2009 7:16 am |
What is scarey is when photos posted are not them in real.So we call them phonies. Some doesn't have photos for they do not know how to upload...some just preferred not to post theirs. I think everyone has their own preferences. But truth is I want to see photos lolololol If you are doubting something, doubt your limits
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 10/24/2009 11:42 pm |
could you please define "normal" for me?
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10/24/2009 9:34 pm |
Rob, sorry to clog your blog post like this but there was one other reason I just remembered. Some were really pretty, and so tired of people after them because of their looks that they just wanted to filter those people out of their lives - to be know for who they were inside. I have a suspicion that there are some people online who would surprise us at who they were, but just want to 'walk down the street' without being recognised  I'd hate to be famous.
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10/24/2009 9:22 pm |
Here's my list of reasons: 1. married 2. involved with someone 2. in the witness protection program. 3. ashamed of looking for friends on the internet 4. entirely too private 5. ugly...or perceives themselves as ugly. 6. in the CIA...and that branch of the gov't doesn't allow internet dating. 7. doesn't know how to use the photo feature, and is to proud to ask a neighborhood kindergartner. None of the above are anyone I would wish to go out with. Here's the optimist's view of your list  1. Married - At least someone wanted them 2. Involved - Maybe Brad is tired of Angelina 3. Witness protection - You could find out where Jimmy Hoffa's buried 4. Private - Most billionaires are 5. Ugly - So was Cyrano, but Roxanne still fell for him 6. CIA - You could know more about anyone without a pic than they do 7. Dumb and proud - A fool and his money, Belle ...
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10/24/2009 9:12 pm |
Hi Robyn I try to say hullo and thanks to anyone who views my profile, or at least send them a wave. I've corresponded with quite a few who didn't have a photo up at the beginning and there were all sorts of reasons for it. o Small localities, easily identified and didn't want at some locals knowing their personal business o Just plain shy o Previously involved in violent relationships and didn't want their ex seeing anything about them o Didn't have a recent pic and intended to have one taken and post it once they realised they actually liked being online o Taking a really big leap of faith into an unknown domain and wanted to take baby steps
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10/24/2009 8:54 pm |
I agree with Belle. I can't think of a good reason not to have a photo if you're honest about what you're doing.
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10/24/2009 8:16 pm |
Well Robyn, let me vent. Really tired of this assumption from women. I am not fat, ugly, hiding or "shacked up" with someone. I am a widow, live on a remote ranch alone and very selective. I am at least, 45 minutes from medical care or, police protection. I have a foreman on the property at all times and an up to date security system. If you open my gate and come to my house at night, or day, you will be met with a 40 cal in your face. I also have had high profile jobs and have had my life threatened. So.......next question. Their are some of us that have very good reason for remaining private. Please do not degrade us as being liars and deceivers.
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10/24/2009 7:12 pm |
You people are too Funny, I've been on thia blog for two months. All I get emails from China, I love it
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10/24/2009 5:23 pm |
Here's my list of reasons: 1. married 2. involved with someone 2. in the witness protection program. 3. ashamed of looking for friends on the internet 4. entirely too private 5. ugly...or perceives themselves as ugly. 6. in the CIA...and that branch of the gov't doesn't allow internet dating. 7. doesn't know how to use the photo feature, and is to proud to ask a neighborhood kindergartner. None of the above are anyone I would wish to go out with.  Belle
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10/24/2009 5:12 pm |
Robyn, why was the reply I wrote and posted here earlier today deleted?
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10/24/2009 4:55 pm |
Robyn, I agree too, in the most part. I dont respond to no pic, as there is nothing to repond "to" Would we repond to a line up of men with paper bags over their heads ? Same thing, I need to see character, which doesnt necesarily mean good looks. On the defence side. When i first joined, I had only just got a computer, and didnt have a clue what to do about photo down loading. I know our Mate here "Jimbob" was the same. We tried for ages between us, to work it out. So, In closing, I feel SOME may be in the same boat. And its not easy " to ask a friend/ family to do it. Not everyone wishes it known they use this site, I know i dont.  Hugs, Jan.
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10/24/2009 4:54 pm |
I used to have my photo on my profile .I wasn't looking for a guy then nor now. I took my photo off after many return photo's of pose's of men in ugly pose's. I have nothing to hide and have met some nice people on here so to each his/her's. lori3351
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10/24/2009 3:33 pm |
Hi Robyn. Think this cuts both ways, just had a list of 55 viewers 7 with pics rest without ranging in age from 25 to 80. This seems to happen about twice a week. I think these are not genuine but SFF computor generated to try and make us feel good.
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10/24/2009 2:14 pm |
My new matches are either in the 40'ts or 80'ts, out there only three have pics....Most of my views have no pics, as well as the flirts...I am with you, either they are married, or in a relationship, certainly shopping,...like you I do not pay attention to any of them.... "Truth, wisdom, love, seek reasons, malice only seeks causes" Johann Kaspar Lavater
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10/24/2009 2:05 pm |
Robyn, you are a dear-sweet thoroughly enjoyable lady! Some of us (at least, me - that's one 'someone', eh?) - do not wish to post a pic of ourselves online. Some day I might post a pic -OR- perhaps I will continue to wish to not want to post my pic online. The Internet is a BIG-VAST place. Robyn, I feel quite certain that you didn't want to question our various reasons, eh? At least not for unfriendly purposes. After all, what if I ever wish to be in competition for Mrs Senior-Age Universe, and then - a person who doesn't wish me well does what's called 'photo-shops' my pic in a very unflattering way - might cause me to give my crown back so that YOU COULD BE VOTED THE WINNER! Robyn - I'm joshing with ya', but seriously, let's not assign nefarious motives to any/all who don't post pix, OK? ...  ... ... ... Robin, hugs -----> to you!
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10/24/2009 1:38 pm |
Robyn, yours is a great question, indeed: "If you're looking for a partner, Why no photo?" I have a few answers and they are much like/akin to yours. I have always felt, first and foremost, that a man without a photo wishes not to be seen because he is either married, shacked up, or otherwise committed to someone else. He does not want people in his 'circle' to happen upon him in a place where he should not be. Second, he is hiding because he has behaved badly toward others and doesn't have the 'balls' to face his past. Third, well, I have no third. lol I've heard guys say they don't know how to post a pic. These same guys seem to find their way to the Chat room on a nightly basis. If he's serious about seeking a partner, he'd figure a way to post pics, such as ask someone in chat to walk him through the process, ask a friend to assist, or a relative, or the like. However, if he's not seeking a partner (and says so in his profile), then who cares what he looks like. lol Bottom line: When it comes to a man perching behind a dark curtain, no excuse is good enough for me. It's just too creepy. Blessings
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10/24/2009 1:25 pm |
I so agree with you Robyn. Faceless people do not get my attention. I try to keep an up to date pic of myself as I do not want to shock anyone when we meet. I have gained weight, not proud of it, but it is me and I cannot pretend to be someone I am not. Most responses I get are 50 and under. Oh well, it is still a fun site and I enjoy the blogs. Good writing on this blog Robyn. May you always have LOVE to share, HEALTH to spare & FRIENDS that care.
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Her husband just died and she's on the lookout again. But I did put in my photo, I like to see other peoples photos, but if I lived closer to some of the faceless men here, I probably would have to be more careful. Living on my little Island has its benefits. 
