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RESPONDING TO BLOGS HERE IN SFF.  

Robyn5
10/19/2009 7:48 am
I have always tried to respond to most of the blogs here in SFF since i arrived. I prefer to respond to some than others. Im not sure why I go into other peoples blogs that I hardly know at all and try to add something positive or helpful.
Over the years I have noticed that a huge number of participants here never come in to my blogs or make any comments.
It doesnt bother me, but as I have always made the effort to respond to most, I no longer am going to make the effort.
I never hear from them dont really know them from adam, and wonder why I feel its good manners to reply. Something to do with my upbringing I suppose.
Its not really good manners at all, except to me. It usually makes no difference to the person I respond to as they dont ever ever get in touch with me in any way.
What a relief this is to me. Now I just have a few people to comment on so my life will be easier, and my time here less frequent. I now feel I have other things to occupy my day. Sometimes this site can be very depressing, hurtful if you allow it to be, and thoroughly stupid, especially the blogs page.
I have never been a people pleaser but I do like to be a person with an open mind.
There are many here I have come to like in cyperworld. Sometimes I think Im good friends with an individual, and for some unknown reason they cease to get in touch with me and dont talk to me at all again, ever. Their loss I tell myself, but Im not very forgiving and dont go back there ever again.
It takes time to find your way around SFF. I has taken me around a yr and a half, A lot of members meet up in SFF bashes etc. I rarely get to meet people from this site. I did write to some Irish but they never replied. Ignorance is biss!!!!! I have been to the school of hard knocks before coming here, and now I am in the Finishing School which also can produce some hard knocks. As we get older we get wiser. Cheers folks.
Pieper
103 posts 

11/1/2009 8:34 pm

Hello Robyn,

Its probably best not to make assumptions or take it personally when people don't respond to our blogs or when others don't respond to comments we make on their blogs. I enjoy reading people's blogs and am more than thankful for comments on mine but often do not comment on their comments. Some people are just finding their way around,
some are new, others may not know what to say or how to say it. There could be a hundred reasons.


Robyn5 replies on 11/3/2009 10:08 am:
Hi Pieper, Im afraid I didnt see your response here and Im sorry. IWhat I was really trying to explain is that I dont have to comment on everyones blogs any more, I have tried to be sociable and welcoming, and have a positive input, but I dont get any responses from them and I often wonder if I should bother. I have decided I shouldnt.

kojo48
31 posts 

10/31/2009 1:37 am

Robyn, l appreciate your desire for a feedback to your blogs. But, it is not everyone who might respond. Others like reading what others write. Sometimes l get into the chat room and simply follow what others are discussing and hardly contribute unless l meet friends.

Robyn, keep writing. Do not stop.


Robyn5 replies on 11/3/2009 10:10 am:
Hi kojo, Im afraid I dont always explain myself very well and this is proof. What I was doing really was to give myself an exemption from responding to everyones blogs. Sometimes I do it because of interest, other times because nobody else did, or sometimes because I feel its expected of me. Of course its not and I dont mind at all about the responses to my own blogs.

nutcracker123
10 posts 

10/30/2009 7:10 am

I do not come to SFF often, I read blogs but seldom comment,nevertheless I would like to tell you that your blogs are great


Robyn5 replies on 11/3/2009 10:12 am:
Hi nutcracker, I dont honestly mind if people dont respond to my blog. I do try to respond to as many as I can as I find its a great way of communication, and if a person goes to the trouble of writing an interesting blog, its nice to know someone is reading it!!!!!

sherti
167 posts 

10/29/2009 6:28 am

If I have nothing new to add to a blog, I don't respond. Is that being rude? If so, I need to change my ways. I read a lot of blogs and respond to very few.


Robyn5 replies on 11/3/2009 10:13 am:
Hi sherti, I do respond to a lot of blogs but no realize I dont have to. A lot of my responses are not really needed so I have cut back a bit.

Soledad911
1457 posts 

10/26/2009 6:39 pm

I often read blogs without commenting. I might vehemently disagree with the blog but not want to initiate a feud. I might see that someone has already said what I would have said, but in a better way. I might want to think about what was said before deciding whether I might have anything to add worth reading. I might be too tired to draft anything cogent. Often I don't have time to read all the blogs I would like to read.


Robyn5 replies on 11/3/2009 10:14 am:
Hi Soledad, I know what you mean and I think I have b een responding to blogs that I dont really need to, almost compulsively. Thats why I am excusing myself from responding so much from now on. Nobody notices anyway.

sleepwalk1959
1030 posts

10/22/2009 7:44 am

Rob, it's a rule of thumb that for every comment you get ten people think equally as positively about what you've written and want to write something, but don't or can't for all kinds of reasons. Everyone knows you're a sweetie - we just assumed you knew how we felt by osmosis


Robyn5 replies on 10/22/2009 9:33 am:
Hi sleepwalk, You're right. Sometimes I cant think of a thing to say so I say nothing at all!!!! I didnt think I was considered a sweetie but maybe i am and dont know it. Thanks for your response. I'll keep going on anyway. I have just excused myself from responding to everyone.

Gympian2

10/21/2009 4:49 pm

Robyn, I was referring to your blog HAS SFF LOST ITS FOLLOWERS, posted by you on 5 August. My comments, posted 6th August, were the last comments I posted anywhere but for two others on 2nd Sept elsewhere.
I just checked again and I do not see any reply by you.
It doesn't matter. I'll be gone from SFF in a week anyway.
Good luck.


Robyn5 replies on 10/22/2009 6:06 am:
I'll go back again and have a look Gympian.

Robyn5 replies on 10/22/2009 6:16 am:
Hi Gympian, I responded to your comment on 5th August, on the blog has SFF lost its followers. I dont see any further comment from you. I congratulated you on your forthcoming marriage etc. I always reply to any comments made if I can. i cant see any further comments from you.

Veita
1536 posts 

10/20/2009 9:01 pm

Hi Robyn, lately I feel "zapped of energy" and do not seem to find the energy or interest to read or respond to all the blogs. It has nothing to do with the contents of the blog so I would suggest to you not to concern yourself.
Cheers


Robyn5 replies on 10/21/2009 4:14 am:
Hi Veita, My energy levels seem to be ok at the moment, but I find my interest here just comes and goes, I do enjoy it tho'.

Meek522
3493 posts 

10/20/2009 6:36 pm

Gosh Robyn I feel guilty. Just been so busy the past month or so that I have not really had time to open Sff and get time to read and make comments. Sorry for that. But you know when I get the chance I always get into yours. Just blog on my friend and I will always let you know my presence hehe. Take care and Hugs.


Robyn5 replies on 10/21/2009 4:11 am:
Goodness Meek, where have you been? Isnt it great to be so busy that you havent time to come in to SFF. Thats the way to go girl. I have found myself being busier lately, maybe because we're into the winter and the evenings are short, the day is almost cut in half!!!!! Great to see you there.

lovequest4u

10/20/2009 6:11 pm

I just finished reading and responding to comments in my blogs. I am really inspired when people read them more so of the fact that they also post comments. But whether my readers post comments or not, their reading is already enough for me.
My purpose in blogging is not to be famous nor be on top of the list of bloggers, but to inform, to share some funny thoughts and jokes, express myself through poems or whatever comes to my mind when i`m in the mood to write.
Imagine in one of my blogs, i had 350 readers and only 18 people have commented. But i don`t complain because i know that people are reading my blogs. That`s all.
Oh by the way, i do enjoy reading your very informative blogs and i sometimes leave a comment. Hope it`s ok with you lol.
Thank you for your visits and comments in my blogs. All well appreciated.


Robyn5 replies on 10/21/2009 4:08 am:
Hi lovequest, I dont want to be famous or anything like thatI have just absolved myself from commenting on all the blogs which I used to do endlessly every day. It was great to read all the different responses here and to get peoples opinions and to know what they do. Its a bit time consuming. I will always respond to people who comment on my own blogs.Hugs.

winkay68
2148 posts 

10/20/2009 4:38 pm

I often don't comment because I can't think of a intelligent thing to add! Often I am reading at night and am tired. I don't expect responses to my Babblings - and am surprised when I receive them. It is after all, just another way we express ourselves at any given moment and sometimes silence is golden.

For me the biggest compliment is to have "watchers". I need to add quite a few as I do not have the time to scroll through all the blogs to find the ones I know I will enjoy. The listing of visits to a blog is often incomplete I find. When one sees over 150 views at least you know you were heard, for better or worse, but unless there is a comment or their handle appears as a recent visitor, one never knows who enjoyed or was totally disgusted - LOL. If someone has a distaste for something I post, and can comment constructively, it would be welcomed. If it is just harping, I would just as soon not see it.

Head in Clouds Feet on Ground


Robyn5 replies on 10/21/2009 4:10 am:
Hi winkay, Well, believe it or not I used to try and comment on every blog, except the ones that I didnt understand or didnt find interesting, and lately the political and religious ones It certainly is a bit time consuming.

Robyn5
11388 posts

10/20/2009 1:00 pm

Hi RRH, Theres no room on the reply text to answer you. dont know why. It wont post. Anyway, dont you worry, Im not. I air my views here but I just clear my head and now I have cleared my head on this topic. thanks for your good wishes. I feel my sister will pull through this and will come out smiling the other side. Its just a long time, 6 months. I will practice my one day at a time

earthytaurus3
7094 posts 

10/20/2009 11:15 am

    Quoting karinpepita:
    That is really an unkind thing to say, not everybody has the gift of the pen or the intelligence that you seam to think you posses, we all try to express our self the best way we can....four days ago it was about photo friday, today this...maybe you should read my last blog, it might surprise you , and who knows, you may even learn something.
Karin .... in addition, I have never been one to brag that I have a "gift" of any such liking, though there are many here that shout their own praises. I pretty much shoot from the hip. There are those that accept that .... and then those, like yourself, that will find criticism in it. Over that, I have no control. I'm certain I will continue to be ME as I am not into feigning a persona that might be acceptable to every man/woman at large.

I have never visited your blog, but at your proposal, I will. I would be the last person in the world to think there is nothing left to be learned.

earthytaurus3
7094 posts 

10/20/2009 11:07 am

Robyn .... I do comment on your postings as frequently as I comment on any. I was not suggesting that your postings are lame, although I might add, there has been many a time I have posted hoping for more responses myself and never got them. I have to conclude they weren't stimulating a response.


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 12:44 pm:
Hi ET. I actually wasnt talking about the lack of responses or otherwise to my blogs. I was really chiding myself for thinking I have to reply to every blog. I was thinking about this recently, especially after a photofriday session, and I realized just how many people I comment on who dont ever come into mine. I feel its a waste of my time. This is a Friendfinder site. If I comment on a blog its being friendly, I make contact with that person, if after 2 or more yrs I never get anything back, well, Im the fool not them. I have actually given myself a new lease of life. Most people here have probably come to this decision many years ago.

Robyn5
11388 posts

10/20/2009 10:58 am

    Quoting DaydreamBelievr2:
    Hello, dear Robyn....

    I am ever so sorry to hear of your sister's diagnosis..all of my positive mind energy is coming your way and may you and your family gain strength, step by baby step.....

    Robyn, I do read the blogs extensively as I am (and have always been I suppose) what is termed a voracious reader....or burrowing book worm!! My husband is also a bibliophile in extremis!!

    I do not comment very often nor do I blog; however, I admire those who contribute to our SFF community and I suppose I have always adhered to the maxim "Be silent unless what you have to say is better than silence".....this is a translation from the Latin to the English.

    Robyn, I suppose that I should make more of an effort to comment because even though I know that I do not learn anything by what I have to say, perhaps someone else may? benefit or be given some nutritious food for thought - please forgive me if I sound presumptuous in this regard!!

    All the best to you and those close to you at this time and always, Dianne xoxoxo
Hello dianne, I enjoy most of the blogs. I realize I dont have to respond to them all. I know what its like to get no response at all!!! You wonder why people bother. It certainly clears the head to blog. It doesnt really worry me if I get no response, it does worry me if I respond to people who never ever say anything back, and its a bit like being completely ignored. Now that I have this off my chest I really dont care at all.

earthytaurus3
7094 posts 

10/20/2009 10:39 am

    Quoting karinpepita:
    That is really an unkind thing to say, not everybody has the gift of the pen or the intelligence that you seam to think you posses, we all try to express our self the best way we can....four days ago it was about photo friday, today this...maybe you should read my last blog, it might surprise you , and who knows, you may even learn something.
Karin .... sorry to hear you are being upset by my comments. I can state things too harshly at times, I realize. I'm a pretty in-your-face kinda person. I guess I state my opinion same as everyone else .... not expecting to be attacked within someone else's blog. But .... *sigh* .... I will take your reprimand to heart. Thanks for your making an attempt to paint me with your brush.

Robyn5
11388 posts

10/20/2009 8:32 am

Hi RRH. Im not worried about the lack of responses to my blogs. My message is always picked up the wrong way. I was really patting myself on the back because now I have resolved this in my head I only have to reply to people I know and feel close to, and those I always respected since I came here. I had given myself a huge burden, my own fault

Gympian2

10/20/2009 6:44 am

I reiterate my last comments to a blog of yours on 6th August, to which you never bothered to reply either. I thought my news on an upcoming event in those comments would have warranted some kind of acknowldgement at least.
Since those comments I have only commented anywhere twice more, on 2nd September, and there won't be any more after this one.
So this blog has the distinction of carrying the last words in SFF by Gympian, formerly Greyfox.
Good luck.


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 8:29 am:
You're quite wrong Gympian. The blog was written on 4th August and I responded to you on 8th August and wished you and your future partner a very happy life together. If you go back you will see it. I do try to respond to everyone, Im not sure if people even check my response, but this goes to show that you didnt because I didnt have time to respond on the day. Im surprised you were able to carry a resentment for all this time..... I dont know you all that well, just remember your name. I dont know many people here. Its up to you if you want to write blogs, responses or comments. I replied and it was not long after your comment. Not being superwoman, minding a two and a half and three and a half every afternoon, my time is limited.

jimbob4293
5745 posts

10/20/2009 12:56 am

Hi Robyn.
What goes round, comes round. I do believe it is good manners to respond to a post, as a lot have said time is an issue and runs alng to fast and my typing is slow but i do try to answer those that visit the drivel that i post.


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 5:48 am:
Hi Jim, You give us a good laugh with your "funnies". Whats drivel anyway?? I do think its good manners to respond, but I think I sometimes try to respond to too many blogs, and wonder why I do!!!

FreshEmerald
6192 posts 

10/19/2009 8:56 pm

Agree with what MistyLace and others have said - don't take it personally or define your sense of worth by a paucity of comment.

Think of it this way: There is so much beauty in the world - in nature that we acknowledge silently.


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 5:49 am:
You're right FE. Sometimes we can become too immersed in SFF and especially the blogs. A lot of people have left. Maybe it runs its course in our lives and we move on to something else at a later stage.

F_O_R_D
95 posts 

10/19/2009 8:35 pm

Robyn....hello...
I quite often read blogs in here without making a comment. Mostly because I have a very sick sense of humor, and to comment on some of the blogs would be totally unfair. I do, however, not back away from certain issues that raise their ugly heads from time to time. Your blogs are always informative and some times entertaining. If I enjoy the blog..then there is no need for me to make any comment. Thanks.

Any day above ground is a good day......


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 5:53 am:
Hi Ford, I often air my feelings here, a sort of clearing out of my head!!!! I remember when FotoFriday started I tried to comment on every entry, and I know it sounds a bit far fetched at times, you know, the comments. How can one keep saying, "Beautiful" "Neat" "Lovely pic" etc.etc.etc. all day long!!! Not possible, not for longer than 3 weeks anyway, so Im giving myself some time off.

frenchsalsa2
938 posts 

10/19/2009 7:58 pm

Robyn, although I read most blogs, plus skim through a few and may even skip some, but I don't always comment on any of them. I agree with Lulu particularly and a few others here. Yes it is only polite or good manners to respond to anyone who comments on your own blog but I haven't always done that myself.

Keep blogging and don't worry about the others!!


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 5:56 am:
Hi salsa, I dont mind commenting on the responses to my blogs, I love people and enjoy the comraderie. I dont really worry at all. We are all so different here, and whats important to some isnt to others. Thats what makes the site interesting.

funomenal
1434 posts

10/19/2009 7:43 pm

YO Robyn,, there are more intertesting things to do in life then sit on a computer all day , like so many do, ya think? I'd offer you a beer , but i know better so, how about some ice cream... ? and we can chat about your love life?


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 5:57 am:
Hi funomenal, Well now, an ice cream would be nice alright, and lets talk about your love life.... enough has been said about mine

Bearded
4 posts

10/19/2009 6:51 pm

Well, you caught a newby. While I have been on SFF since 2003 (sometimes a silver person and sometimes not) I was chatting at first and then just checked in from time to time. But in the last couple of days I began to look at the magazine, the polls, and the blogs ... and now my head is awhirl. I even logged in a couple of times at work today (that's gotta stop).

So, today's blog has been very helpful to me. Maybe with all of these fine comments and questions I can make a controlled descent into this new world.


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 6:00 am:
Hi Bearded, I think you might become addicted if you're not careful!!! Just joking. I remember when I came here first I found the blog page the most interesting. I keep forgetting about the Magazine so I must go in there. I dont go into chat. Give us a good blog to get to know you better

RedRidingHood10
3257 posts

10/19/2009 6:51 pm

    Quoting michianaredhead:
    Hi Robyn,
    I am just very relaxed about the whole thing I guess..I read what I want, comment when I want and respond when I want and if I don''t want to I just don't......to me they aren't like an e-mail....they don't require a reaction......I only react if I feel like it.....and sometimes......I don't commend on some blogs because as my Gram used to say.."if you can't say something nice ....just hum"......LOL
Red ~~~ Your Gram was one smart cookie!! I think from now on I am going to adapt her philosophy -- but since we have no humming smileys I'm using the following as humming smileys: !!

Robyn ~~ I'm sorry to hear of your sister's diagnosis. You have so much on your plate -- please don't worry 'bout SFF "this 'n thats". Don't let the hateful or naysayers interfere with your life and/or happiness. And if you're at all referencing our not being able to meet when Ben & I were in Ireland, please don't give it a second thought. We'll meet the next time Ben & I are there -- promise!

Kick back, relax, feel better...take in some sunshine!



The positive is there. Sometimes it's just hard to find.

Elle7123
246 posts 

10/19/2009 6:49 pm

Robyn, I forgot to translate '*IMNASHO*'.

Translation: In My Not-Always-So-Humble-Opinion.

... ... ...


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 8:33 am:
Hi Ellen Got it

Elle7123
246 posts 

10/19/2009 6:37 pm

Robyn, dear lady - I'm so very sorry to hear of your sister's serious-grave diagnosis. I'm sending along Many Best Wishes with this for her.

Robyn, not to worry if someone might write something that's Disagreeable (ooops, should I have said-written when someone 'disagrees'?) with your point of view or opinion(s).

Because - you see, *IMNASHO, varying viewpoints and opinions are what give 'texture' to our life/lives. EXCEPT - when the writer of a blog-reply writes a hateful message and/or seems to enjoy writing something that seems to be mean-spirited. However, that's a topic for some other time - or perhaps, might be a better topic for Never-Ever!

Then, additionally - I have strong beliefs that it is absolutely horrid when anyone here in sff blogland makes personal attacks on another - that's simply rude/crude and (most often) demonstrates their ignorance - as they make a useless attempt to 'elevate' themselves. (elevate themselves in whose eyes? most certainly, not mine!! -- hmmmm, it's a long way down from the pedestal where those who are mean-spirited look 'down' on other while it seems they feel justified in being mean-spirited toward others, eh?

Wouldn't our life/our lives be bland and/or uninteresting if we all agreed on all things? Would be similar to not being able to have just a wee bit of salt in our porridge or oatmeal, eh? Or no raisins, cinnamon or homemade (even store-bought) applesauce - nor never-ever any brown sugar, either.

Robyn, very often I do read (most) blogs - but feel I have nothing to say worth taking up space to write a reply-message. Then - I don't say (or write) anything. Please, don't ever take that personally - as much/most of the time, your blogs have given me a substantial **smile** - and to me, that's worth more than any USD's or Euro's!

I've been a member of several health-related groups/communities on the Internet for a very long time. In most of those, I like that there's the option to simply put an icon that indicates 'thumbs-up' - meaning we've been there, we've read the blog, but we don't have much of interest to others (or ourselves) to write in reply.

That thumbs-up icon would be similar to me saying-writing ...

... Robyn - Cheers!


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 8:36 am:
Hi Elle, Just from my side of things, and because I have been brought up to be responsible, Im afraid I carried in into SFF. Im not sorry I responded to peoples blogs but at the moment I just dont seem to have time. I dount if I will have time to do photo-friday every week either. I dont honestly expect responses, maybe one or two, but its the overload I have put upon myself that came to mind and cleared my head. My training through the years meant I had to reply!!!!! I have to shake off all the things i picked up along the way, except the important ones. Dont worry Elle, I know you sometimes have a good laugh at my blogs and that lightens my heart.

karinpepita
3331 posts 

10/19/2009 5:44 pm

    Quoting earthytaurus3:
    I hate to be the naysayer here, but most blogs are so lame they don't warrant a response .... I don't feel a reaction. I have a lot of people visit my blog that never respond. It's no big deal. I do the same.
That is really an unkind thing to say, not everybody has the gift of the pen or the intelligence that you seam to think you posses, we all try to express our self the best way we can....four days ago it was about photo friday, today this...maybe you should read my last blog, it might surprise you , and who knows, you may even learn something.

"Truth, wisdom, love, seek reasons, malice only seeks causes"
Johann Kaspar Lavater

DenverColorado
3513 posts 

10/19/2009 4:47 pm


It seems that I seldom respond to political blogs.
I also avoid those that want advice that many others
have already covered. I might have an opinion on
computer problems and things that I have already have
handled.

I do like to leave a little comment on Friday Photos.
I would like to see them all but I only have a couple
of hours late at night, and then it's already Saturday
in some places in the world.

You can not expect all of the people on SFF to come to
your blog. You said that many don't come to the blogs.
Many only go to the Magazine and many are actually here
to read the profiles looking for love and contacts.

When I read a blog, if I like it I might leave a message.
If I don't like it I probably won't leave one. If it
is a dumb blog I will leave a ?. If it is about a loss
I will pray maybe. If it's just an update on a situation
I might just pass.

It actually also depends on the member If I like them.
I have 15 watched blogs that I keep track of.
Even those I might not always leave a note.

Wow. I forgot what my point was. What was your point?

Bye for now.

Snoopy loves everybody.


Bye for now! Thank you!
.♥. ♫ ♥ ♫ ♥ DENVER ♫¨♥ .♫ ♥ ♫


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 8:40 am:
Hi Denver, As usual my blog got lost along the way Im not worried about the responses, its just that I seem to response to people who hardly know Im here, and I sometimes feel its such a waste of time and energy. I could be doing other things. If I feel a blog is good I cant help but response. I dont have time to go through all photo-friday pics but yet I made myself do it. I cant do it any longer. Imagine, 3 yrs ago SFF was not part of my life.

michianaredhead
10126 posts 

10/19/2009 4:36 pm

Hi Robyn,
I am just very relaxed about the whole thing I guess..I read what I want, comment when I want and respond when I want and if I don''t want to I just don't......to me they aren't like an e-mail....they don't require a reaction......I only react if I feel like it.....and sometimes......I don't commend on some blogs because as my Gram used to say.."if you can't say something nice ....just hum"......LOL

Living my life for the memories I will have....... not the regrets of what never was......


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 8:43 am:
Thats the attitude Red. Sometimes I respond just to make the person feel better!!!! It probably comes across as someone who doesnt really care all that much, just feeling I should do it. What am i like, Im learning, I was always a slow learner. I enjoy people totally and we have such variety of people here. I know its just on PC and we are billions of miles away, but we never know when we might meet and we sure would have a lot in commin.

jiminycricket1
671 posts 

10/19/2009 3:51 pm

Robyn there is no obligation to respond to responses, however that being said...you are a breathe of fresh air, in that you consider the feeling of all who take the time to respond. Whether you feel it's your obligation or just being you, doesn't matter. What matters is that some of us notice, and as such believe you to be a wonderful, gracious, and considerate lady.


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 8:46 am:
Gosh jiminy, I think Im blushing I do like to respond to people who have taken the time and thoughtfullness to comment on my blog. I enjoy it too. At times I dont have all that much time. Two grandkids do take up time and my mind seems a bit overladen at the moment. I love your blogs, genuinely, jiminy and especially your inspired poetry

JANO48
2971 posts

10/19/2009 3:33 pm

Robyn, I always read your blogs.
And i do respond usually.If i miss any, Its because im working.
My blogs dont attract much comment either, and thats ok too. But i always respond to my comments.I work, so i cant possibly comment on all the blogs.
We all have certain people and topics we do or dont want to partake in.
I was thinking similar to you myself.
People, both sexes, invite me to their network as they want to get to know me, then i hear nothing back.
I never ignore an email, unless its repulsive, which is rare.
Feel my time here is really wasted, And its getting worse .



Hugs, Jan.


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 8:48 am:
Hi Jan, I certainly know you read my blogs and I never pass over yours. I love to see the pics of the poodles and to hear about your life, including your love life!!!!! Dont think your time here is wasted, you add a lot to the site, and if you cant respond to the blogs, dont. I have discovered people dont really notice, and a blog written today is forgotten tomorrow.

earthytaurus3
7094 posts 

10/19/2009 2:17 pm

I hate to be the naysayer here, but most blogs are so lame they don't warrant a response .... I don't feel a reaction. I have a lot of people visit my blog that never respond. It's no big deal. I do the same.


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 8:50 am:
Its no big deal ET, I know that too. I have just felt that I should respond with the result that I feel a bit disheartened when nobody comes back to me. However ET. Thats my problem, I always expected too much from myself and everyone else. An impossible task.

spotheaussie
2005 posts 

10/19/2009 1:40 pm

TIME............You obviously have a lot more than me.............I dont blog much these days because it seems to have become the custom that if someone comments on your BLOG YOU should comment back.............Believe me this is a new thing in the last yr or so .
I dont have that kind of time and I think the chatroom is the place for ongoing comment after comment

I rarely reply to people that comment on my blogs unless they ask a question simply because I dont have half a day to write comments ...........I dont even always participate in FotoFriday which I love because I know I wont have time to comment much that is something else has grown

Take note f what Belle says a blog should be for yourself something YOU want to say or share........There are weeks I dont come to blogs or even SFF for weeks

It is all a personal choice .......I have met many from this site some I stay in touch with some I dont and some we exchange a few emails too keep in touch.....
Like the others have said its not a personal thing it is just we have other things in our lives that demand priority


Robyn5 replies on 10/20/2009 10:51 am:
Hi spot, I do like to write and I find that if someone takes the trouble to respond to my blog, well then its up to me to reply. It only takes a few minutes. I used to go into blogs and comment, even if I didnt know the person at all. My time is becoming more limited but that can only be good!!!!

DaydreamBelievr2
471 posts

10/19/2009 1:31 pm

Hello, dear Robyn....

I am ever so sorry to hear of your sister's diagnosis..all of my positive mind energy is coming your way and may you and your family gain strength, step by baby step.....

Robyn, I do read the blogs extensively as I am (and have always been I suppose) what is termed a voracious reader....or burrowing book worm!! My husband is also a bibliophile in extremis!!

I do not comment very often nor do I blog; however, I admire those who contribute to our SFF community and I suppose I have always adhered to the maxim "Be silent unless what you have to say is better than silence".....this is a translation from the Latin to the English.

Robyn, I suppose that I should make more of an effort to comment because even though I know that I do not learn anything by what I have to say, perhaps someone else may? benefit or be given some nutritious food for thought - please forgive me if I sound presumptuous in this regard!!

All the best to you and those close to you at this time and always, Dianne xoxoxo

Roxy1946
5403 posts 

10/19/2009 1:18 pm

I read some of your blogs when I'm online and sometimes I even comment, it depends on your blog content.


Robyn5 replies on 10/21/2009 10:19 am:
Hi Eoxy, I dont know how I missed your response here. Its nice to see you back again, even if its just now and again. Hope you are well.

Lulu99
2161 posts

10/19/2009 10:09 am

Hi Robyn

I guess I will echo others who say "don't take it personally" ... I read a lot of the blogs but don't comment unless I have something to say that might be a little different from what others have already said. I don't blog on a regular basis but when I do, I like to read the few comments that I DO get. I enjoy your blogs and if you have the time .... keep on blogging, there will always be some who will comment and hopefully, the nasty ones will abstain.


Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 11:17 am:
Hi Lulu, How are you? Still smiling! No, Im not worried about any responses to my blogs, just about the length of time I respond to others blogs who very rarely come into mine and probably dont even know who I am. Its a fruitless occupation really, and probably stems from a sense of duty I picked up in the childhood. My load will be lighter now Lulu

Teresa265
3519 posts

10/19/2009 10:09 am

    Quoting belle_la_donna:
    So many of the things you say Robyn are the same things so many of us have thought, and dealt with before.

    It is NOT rude to not make a comment on blogs..you are putting tooooo much pressure on yourself. The term blog is short for Web log...a log does not require an answer.

    While most of us who blog live for the comments, and haunt the blogs we write for positive feedback...(or in the case of a select few, ANY feed back..good or bad) we understand that every word we write is not a personal epiphany for others, and sometimes, it is simply an observation that requires no comment. "The sky is blue today" ok.

    Sometimes, it is redundant to even comment..sometimes there is simply nothing to add..the blog is so perfect. Sometimes, the best thing to say is nothing at all. Sometimes, we don't even read them, for many reasons. Lack of interest in the subject matter for one...

    Bottom line:

    Don't worry yourself over it.
Gosh, Robyn,
I hope I'm not who you're referring to!!!

I don't get on as often as I want to and sometimes I'm nodding my head sagely to myself while reading your blog, but when it comes down to putting the thoughts on the computer, I can't think clearly.

But rest assured, I read many of our bloggers, and enjoy many many of them but don't necessarily comment. I qouted Bell up above because I agree with what she commented.

Teresa


Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 11:15 am:
Hi Teresa, I agree with belle too. Im not really worried about the people who come into my blog and respond, Im just sorting out my head as regards me feeling I must respond to most of the blogs, not all of them, because I thought it was expected. I will have a lot more time to spare. I cut it down a lot today and had a great time making snakes with plastiscine, painting beach stones, and watching DVDs with my grandchildren. Quite intertaining.

60minman
4497 posts 

10/19/2009 10:06 am

I am not one for reading and responding to relationship blogs or silly ones or those types of blogs. Not to say they are inappropiate but I prefer thought provoking ones to comment on. I have also personally met some bloggers and tend to read and comment on those. I have always tried to respect other views but sometimes its hard to do when they are so oppossed to the values I have. You and I have disagreed on issues but I sincerely hope that I have treated you with respect. Like most things I am positive we agree on more things than we disagree on. After all each one of us are different......

" If guns kill people then pencils misspell words"


Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 10:38 am:
Hi 60min. I come into your blog when its not political as I promised not to partake in US politics again. I have always enjoyed your blogs, I have to admit I agree with a lot of your opinions and ideals, (Im not going to mention them here but you may know what they are) but they are controversial topics. Im inclined to be old fashioned in these cases. I know we agree on more things than we disagree on, but when it comes to 2 topics Im inclined to hold back as I can get a bit hot under the collar

mrsjoe1936
4451 posts 

10/19/2009 9:59 am

Hi Robyn,
I don't even notice who looks at my blogs, but I do read the responses to them. Sometimes I try to respond to the responses, and other times, I don't.
I do not expect a reply to a response that I make on another persons blog either, but I usually look back to see if one was given, and to read other responses.
Some blogs I read just because I always read that person's, and others I read because the title catches my attention.
Like you, when I first wandered into blogland, I tried to read them all, and then realized that I didn't have the time nor the interest to do that, and wasn't really expected to do it.
Relax, and just do as much or as little as you WANT to do.

"One love - one life time" from the Phantom of the Opera


Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 10:41 am:
Hi mrsjoe, A lot of people have never come into my blog and i dont go into theirs now. Its not small minded, just that I dont have to do so, and will not be missed. Most people who responded here, well, I have responded and got responses back from you all. I know its impossible to respond to all. On photofriday I try to get to as many as i can, but Im not going to do that now either, just the ones I really like. Relax, well, Im not too relaxed today with my sister going through her chemo but I have turned it all over to God.

MistyLace54
2902 posts

10/19/2009 9:37 am

    Quoting SingToMySoul:
    When I first joined this site, I tried to respond to each and every blog I read. And, I read all of them, religiously. It got to be so time-consuming, and I'd spend more than a "healthy" amount of time on my computer writing responses. One day, I realized just how much of my free time I was spending doing so...and I made a judgment call. Now, I don't respond to all of them nor do I read each and every one. Maybe that's where a lot of others stand, too. Hugs, Robyn. You've got a lot on your plate, at the moment.
Robyn, when i first joined I was that same, read every one and responded too. Got my feelings hurt, write only when I feel I have something creative to put forward. i realized I've been spending way too much time i don't have on the computer. Please don't take it personal. Lately I find myself reading and not responding.


Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 10:46 am:
Hi Misty, That seems to be where Im at now, I only read the ones I feel interested in. Some of the responses can be so short and sweet and I often wonder why they bother to reply or do they put any thought into it at all. When I respond I honestly think before saying anything at all. It all takes too much time, especially Fotofriday. Cant respond to all with just "Beautiful" "Neat pic" "I like that" I feel a bit stupid at times. Laugh and the world laughs with you

belle_la_donna
12333 posts 

10/19/2009 9:36 am

So many of the things you say Robyn are the same things so many of us have thought, and dealt with before.

It is NOT rude to not make a comment on blogs..you are putting tooooo much pressure on yourself. The term blog is short for Web log...a log does not require an answer.

While most of us who blog live for the comments, and haunt the blogs we write for positive feedback...(or in the case of a select few, ANY feed back..good or bad) we understand that every word we write is not a personal epiphany for others, and sometimes, it is simply an observation that requires no comment. "The sky is blue today" ok.

Sometimes, it is redundant to even comment..sometimes there is simply nothing to add..the blog is so perfect. Sometimes, the best thing to say is nothing at all. Sometimes, we don't even read them, for many reasons. Lack of interest in the subject matter for one...

Bottom line:

Don't worry yourself over it.

Belle


Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 10:48 am:
Hi belle, You're right. Between tending to my crops on Farmville, my new apt in Yoville, my new Aquarium, and now my feelings of having to respond to all the blogs, which I know I cant do and it is utterly stupid to think so, I feel a sense of relief. Let my crops on the farm wither for awhile, let my apt in Yoville get dusty and neglected, and read just a few favourites blogs. Whew, Im a new woman already.

AneMac
6568 posts

10/19/2009 9:16 am

Hey Girlfriend, I'm making up a huge batch of hamburger stroganoff. I friend of mine is getting back surgery tomorrow and I'm FedEx'g single, frozen servings one can just pop in the microwave. Send me your addy and I'll overnight you some strogy smiles-in-a-bag. Hugs, Ane

"He who knows not the world, knows not his own place in it."
Marcus Aurelius


Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 10:51 am:
Hi Ane, Will do. I write about everything I feel, and sort out my head that way!!!! Im extremely hard on myself, and when I saw your note about the state of my farmville, well, I got over there straight away and now I have so many pigs, cows, rabbits, trees, fences, ducks, etc. that there is not room for them to peeeeeeeeee
so I have to go now and sell some. I need a new barn, an extension, and other things, but to expand i need more money. Im damned if they are getting my Credit Card the thieves

karinpepita
3331 posts 

10/19/2009 8:58 am

I respond to every person that took the time to respond and add a remark on the blog I have written, if they had the time to add a comment I have the good manners to send an answer, simple as that....
I read quite a few blogs a day, most of them I find enlightening and funny, some are very well written and some... well... like my own, just silly, but again, there is place for us too....I have learned to overlook the people that get their jollies by hurting others in the disguise of the cybernet, they have to live with themselves, maybe it would help if they read my last blog Desiderata....Some members just don't like to write, but for the amount of people that read your blogs, your message does come across..then of course like on the tv remote, there is the button mute, our ability to blog some members works just as well..
Wishing a great start to this weeks, your friend ...Karin

"Truth, wisdom, love, seek reasons, malice only seeks causes"
Johann Kaspar Lavater


Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 10:55 am:
Hi karin, maybe it has to do with good manners Some blogs are absolutely funny and interesting. I saw your last blog on Desiderata, I had read it before but its good. We are all so different. I dont know how many times I said to Len Im not going to do any more blogs, but its like an addiction, I cant stop. Im learning, a bit of a slow learner always. Thanks karin, hope your week is good too.

RosieRosieRosie
1957 posts 

10/19/2009 8:48 am

Hiya my darling girlfriend Robyn, LOL cheer up gf, it's just Monday blues!!! Seriously, I was just like you at the beginning, reading and commenting on almost every posting... but a lot of bloggers didn't seem to care because they never read or comment in my postings... some hate me just because. So we live and learn. Now they ignore me, I ignore them back. You and I are friends and, we have many wonderful friends here, so Robyn darling... it's a good time to say to those ignoramous "I DON'T GIVE A RATZ AZZ!!!!!!!"

Take care & hugs

Luv ya




Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 10:59 am:
Ok then Rosie g/f I really dont give a RATZ ASS!!! honestly,
Monday morning blues do happen, especially when someone in your life is quite ill. I have always taken my "duties" far too seriously. we have absolutely NO DUTIES ON THIS SITE. I put in a nice blog today about a FINE THING IN WOMENS BRIEFS and hope you might be able to trace him. He has a CHEEKY AZZZZZZZ, THE CHEEKS OF HIS AZZZZZZ JUTTING OUT FROM UNDER THE BRIEFS WHICH ARE PINK

lovethecoast
2209 posts 

10/19/2009 8:41 am

when i post, it's nice to hear what people think, but i don't feel slighted if there's not much activity on my blog. i read and comment on blogs occasionally, but don't feel a comment is required.

i've written to several people here, and perhaps corresponded once or twice, but no more. i don't take it personally, and figure that we have busy lives and have to choose how and where we spend our time.

i do remember writing to you some time back, but never receiving a reply.


Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 11:02 am:
Hi lovethecoast, Gosh, where did you write to me, was it in SFF? Sometimes the mail goes into filter. I always reply to anyone who writes to me. Im sorry I missed that. I have found that if I write an email to someone I either dont get a reply or I do weeks later, as it has gone into the filtered post. I dont mind people not coming into my blogs, ever, I just feel Im a bit of an idiot by going into everyone elses. The best lesson is the hard earned one. Write to me again if you like I would love to get one.

Simpleladyb2
1346 posts 

10/19/2009 8:40 am

Robyn,
I read your post but rarely I commented because I do not know what to say. I could not express myself the way I would so instead of just saying "Nice blog" I prefer not to commet.

I like your blogs!

Take care!

Betty

From Milan With Love!


Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 11:04 am:
Hi Betty, I know what you mean and I havent made up a list of people who dont come into my blogs not at all. I have just given myself an easier life by copping on to the fact that I dont have to respond to that many at all. My days are pretty full with the grandkids, and they are certainly a handful.

SingToMySoul
5235 posts

10/19/2009 8:39 am

When I first joined this site, I tried to respond to each and every blog I read. And, I read all of them, religiously. It got to be so time-consuming, and I'd spend more than a "healthy" amount of time on my computer writing responses. One day, I realized just how much of my free time I was spending doing so...and I made a judgment call. Now, I don't respond to all of them nor do I read each and every one. Maybe that's where a lot of others stand, too. Hugs, Robyn. You've got a lot on your plate, at the moment.


Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 11:06 am:
Hi Sing, I think like you, I have tried to put too much into the site. Some people just come in and read what they want to. I feel a certain amount of relief now that I have made up my mind to cut down on my reading and responses. I have a few serious things to deal with just now but Im hopeful. Being positive is important. Thanks sing.

flirty4u
2174 posts 

10/19/2009 8:33 am

I think that if you have found your way around in a year and a half, you are doing a remarkable job. I have yet to figure out who is who and who is several whos. I always enjoy your posts but don't always comment. I doubt that everyone who posts a blog expects a comment--for some it is just a venue to ventilate, for some it is their bully pulpit, for others it is a form of therapy, etc.

By the way, Lady Molly loves her picture of Gregor, which I printed out. She's quite the romantic but tends to be fickle with her devotion.


Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 11:09 am:
Hi flirty, I think I have found my way around a good bit by now. I used to put my foot in it a lot in the early days. Part of learning experience!!! Im glad Lady Molly loves the pic of Gregor, he is a very handsome scottie, but being the middle child (dog) I identify with him and give him extra treats and extra attention, which he is beginning to enjoy.

dogman01
251 posts

10/19/2009 8:31 am

Hey Robyn;

I read most of your blogs. However there are many times that I choose not to respond to a blog you have written or many other bloggers. Often anything I would comment on is being expressed by others so there is no need for me to add my two cents worth. In many cases I may disagree with the blog but feel any negative comment would not be constructive. There are cases where the subject of the blog just doesn't interest me so why comment.

I guess what I am trying to say here is not to take lack of response personally. There are so many reasons for it.


Robyn5 replies on 10/19/2009 11:11 am:
Hi dogman, I dont expect anyone to come in and respond to my blog if they dont want to and I certainly understand what you are saying. Im just giving myself a hard time, and an extra little bit of leeway now by not feeling I have to come in to every blog I read and comment. Im not that important, that I expect pages of responses. sometimes if I see someone who has no response at all, I come in and make a comment to help them along.

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