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As most people here know, i am fast coming up on the first anniversary of my wife's passing. I have already made plans, to spend July 24th-26th with my beloved step-daughters. I couldnt have better kids if they were my own. I know that if I werent with them, I wouold probably spend that time, just curled up in the fetal postion. As it already is, I cant stand, to think, that she has been out of my life, for almost a year. As most people will say, what my wife and I had was very rare. I miss her more than ever, every day. Sometimes, i dont know how I able to wake up without her day after day. She brought true meaning to the word Love...when she came into my life. I just want this annivesary to go by quickly, as I dont know if I can take it. | ||
 7/14/2008 5:46 pm |
Our prayers are with you all...
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7/14/2008 5:57 pm |
Elvis, I went into sort of a catatonic state for about two months---and am coming out of it now. The first is the most difficult, I must believe, Elvis. We had gifts from God. We can be thankful they were in our lives, but the pain of their absence is sometimes almost impossible to bear. But....it is actually getting better....hard to believe I can laugh now, and actually went to a bash last Saturday. I wish the best for you, Elvis.
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 7/14/2008 6:03 pm |
A really BIG hug and a tiny kiss on the cheek..Think of all the friends and family that are still here that need and love you. **I know I am in my own little world, but it is okay, they know me here**
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7/14/2008 6:06 pm |
hi Elvis I truly wish you would be able to get out of this rut that you seem to be in. hope is always there...never give up in what you know that life may bring to you dear friend. {{HUGZ}} take care.  ~~~~~~~~~~~ "What love we've given, we'll have forever. What love we fail to give, will be lost for all eternity". ~Leo Buscaglia
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7/14/2008 6:08 pm |
Elvis, You ae a lucky man to have had a love that wonderful, something I have never had the peasure of knowing. Please accept my condolences. Be with your family, that will helpsome. Hugs to you. I have missed seeing you in the chatroom
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7/14/2008 6:20 pm |
Elvis....it has been 4 yrs since my husband passed. He was my 2nd husband and we were married 22 yrs. The first two years were really bad, and many a tear was shed. As time goes by, you will find it easier, and you will always have the wonderful memories, as I have. I too, have step-daughters, and I love them as my own. They have stayed in contact and still call me 'mom', and we all have family gatherings. She will always be in your heart, no one can take that away from you or replace her. But I promise, it does get better. Good luck
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7/14/2008 6:21 pm |
You are in my thoughts and prayers daily, Rick. You describe a love that you and your wife had that I have never known....and it's a blessing for you to have had that. Yes, this first anniversary will be difficult and so very sad, so do spend it with your step-daughters. And remember, God loves you and is keeping you strong....and we love you here at SFF, too. "Wisdom doesn't necessarily come with age. Sometimes age just shows up all by itself."
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7/14/2008 6:28 pm |
Elvis, those of us who were fortunate to know a love so deep will never be the same. They spoiled us and loved doing it.  The first year anniversary and all the firsts are horrible. But you will go on.... and the second anniversary won't be as hard, nor will the third. Let the tears flow, my friend. They are cleansing. We all will be thinking of you....
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7/14/2008 6:44 pm |
Elvis, I can understand what you're going through...I've been there. The first anniversary was the hardest but time seems to heal the pain as the years come and go. It has been 10 1/2 years for me (after 31 years of marriage) and the good memories will always remain with me... You can do something in memory of your wife...write a journal, donate something in honor of your wife, write a poem, or spend time with other widowed people in a support group for your area ... there are so many ways to share your love and caring with others who have been through what you're going through... Be Blessed with having known such a wonderful woman...your strength will help you endure ... Hugs, nab
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7/14/2008 6:46 pm |
God Bless you Elvis. Its a rough road ahead and the first year is the hardest to bear. I just passed my first anniversary of Dave's passing last month. The whole week I felt as though my life was sliding backwards and then the day arrived. I kept myself busy and went out to dinner by myself actually. I had and still have my memories of that deep love we had and knowing Dave is watching over me and waiting for me. And so shall it be for you. Take your time healing and know you have many friends here at SFF waiting for you and praying for you. Take care.
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7/14/2008 6:51 pm |
Rick, just keep youself busy. Having your step-children with you will help. I will be thinking of you and I will say a prayer for you. D.
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7/14/2008 7:05 pm |
Hiya elvis, (((((((HUGS)))))) You will honour your wife's memory by recalling the good times & the precious and funny moments, I think!! Take care of yourself!!!
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7/14/2008 7:34 pm |
God is the strength to endure all pain....after 43 year of marriage I thought my life was ended....that was 8 year ago...now I am happily married to another wonderful guy who I love very much...the love shared with your wife will never end but life will go on and you can love again ....
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7/14/2008 7:45 pm |
Take care my friend. My prayers are with you.
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7/14/2008 7:58 pm |
Elvis, My prayers and thought are with you. Your darling wife is in a better place, she will always be in your heart and memories. Thanks so much for sharing!!  1_SweetAngelNM 
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7/14/2008 8:09 pm |
My Sweet Friend ........ Just keep doing what you are doing ..... Taking one step at a time one day at a time ..... Sending you my understanding heart and I say cry if you want to and if you think of happy moments you also shared then laugh also ..... the combination is also a healer ....... You are doing just fine and we all loves ya my friend ...... Blessings and Hugssssssssssssssssssssss ........ Pattie
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7/14/2008 8:18 pm |
Hi Elvis You have so much in the way of memories, you are one of the lucky ones in a way. My thoughts are with you. Cheers Sparkles11 
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7/14/2008 8:21 pm |
Elvis, I do not know if you are familiar with Southern Gospel Music. My parents gave me one of Life's biggest blessing by having Vestal Goodman as my GodMother. I do not know, if you know her, but she was a beautiful and wonderful woman. She sung a special song that I play a lot when I am sad or feeling down. It might help you by lifting your spirits. If you care to listen, go to youtube and key in "Till The Storm Passes By" by Vestal Goodman. I hope it blesses you as much as it does me.
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7/14/2008 8:30 pm |
Oh how well I remember those "firsts"... being with family helps a lot. I spent that anniversary with a daughter in another state... anything to be away from home and not alone at that time. Take one day at a time.... even if you have to take each hour at a time some days. God bless. "One love, one lifetime, that's all I ask of you" from The Phantom of the Opera
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7/14/2008 8:33 pm |
What wonderful thoughts from these people. You are blessed indeed. You have many friends all rooting for you myself as well. It has been 6 years since my second husband passed. It does get easier but you never forget. It has been 8 months since my special friend passed. I think of him every day and wish to God I didn't. Why do we have to bear this kind of burden? I guess we are fated to do that. Anyway my thoughts are with you and may God make it easier for you to bear. To tell you the truth I have holed up since he passed I'm kind of in hibernation. Thank Heavens you have the children to kind of go through this with you. You will overcome. Casey
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7/14/2008 8:41 pm |
elvis honey good to see you. I know this is going to be a very hard time for you. My heart goes out to you, and you will be in my prayers bud.
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7/14/2008 8:54 pm |
Rick, HUGs and more hugs, and prayers of strength and endurance coming your way. No words to make you feel better, I wish there were. Grieving is slow process, I hope being with family will help. Remember your friends are also here for you. Hugs and Prayers Peace and happiness+Positive attitude Treasure what you Have.
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7/14/2008 8:55 pm |
Anniversaries,Birthdays,Special occasions,are the toughest to go through,when we lose someone we love.Sometimes we cope well,Sometimes we fall apart. Three years this past May,and I found myself shutting down.I call it my down time,it doesn't last long,its just a time for me to reflect on life. Your not alone Elvis. Special thoughts go to you,as you travel with your memories. Snooks
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7/14/2008 9:52 pm |
I pray that you will find strength and endurance in the days, months and years ahead. Joy is all around you. Let it in. Baby steps, my dear....baby steps. Blessings "Every woman should know how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it... [Maya Angelou]
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7/14/2008 10:07 pm |
I understand your feelings, I was only 27 years old when I lost my husband, and it's hard to let it go. But I am sure you can make it. I always think of him as if it was only yesterday and it was already 32 years that he passed away. Sometimes I asked myself "why do the good ones died first" but it's the will of God. God Bless You! Betty
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7/14/2008 11:34 pm |
Dear Rick,, please know that we are praying for you.. and holding you up. Love you my dear friend..
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7/14/2008 11:54 pm |
Prayers for you Elvis. God Bless you. Barbe
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7/15/2008 6:22 am |
and prayers, Elvis
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7/15/2008 1:53 pm |
Hi Elvis, sweet memories. Just take things one day at a time. gracie
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7/16/2008 10:52 am |
Rick, First, I would like to hold you in my heart with prayer and love. I, too, have a vacant space in my life from being widowed. But God promises eternal life to all believers. Don't let go of that promise. Remember, The Apostle Paul's comforting word to the church (The believers) in Thessalonica (1st Thessalonians 4:13-1  . And for all that need the comfort of knowing, read my blog on The Revelation of the Translation Of The Church. It's there. Anamh
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7/28/2008 2:11 pm |
Thank you all for your kind words. They mean a great deal to me.
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