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most of the people, that I have meet here in SFF have been very nice to me. I was a memebr here 3 years ago, before I met and married my wife. She recently passed away, on July 24th 2oo7, just 2 months shy of our second wedding anniversary. Like I said, most members have been very kind, and I have received some good words of advice, from members who have gone through, what I currently am. My return to SFF was mainly to seek new frienships, to help me through my current ordel. So, this is what confuses me. There are members who claimthey seek pen pals and friendship. However, when I say, that I would be proud to be their pen pal, I am told that they are to old for me. Now my question is this, what does age have to do with friendship? |
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9/10/2007 2:31 pm |
All I have to say is apparently the members who would make such a ridiculous statement, clearly do not know the meaning of friendship. Gwyn
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9/10/2007 3:05 pm |
Good question! I think the answer is it should never be an issue...not for real friendship anyway. I'm sorry for your loss and have been through a similar situation and if you need a friendly ear I would be honored.
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9/10/2007 3:17 pm |
Elvis, I know what it is like to lose someone.I lost a son 19 hrs after giving birth to him 35yrs ago, 2002 I lost my father,2005 I lost my step dad and last fall after taking care of my mother for a yr battling cancer I lost her. The grief process is different for everyone. I took Moms death alot harder than the rest.I still have my moments when something brings me to remember what it was like having here here. Age has nothing to do with friendship,at least in my opinion.Friendship comes in all ages
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9/10/2007 3:40 pm |
nothing I have friends of all ages.It would be a sad world if people only wanted friends of their own age.Sorry to hear of your loss. kim.x who dares wins/ 
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9/10/2007 7:44 pm |
hi elvis so sorry to hear about your recent bereavement {{HUGZ}} am a widow too and it sure doesnt help that most shy away from being real friends. for women it is more difficult specially if the men have ulterior motives and here in sff some can be quite wily utilizing your vulnerability as source for their own cyber pleasure and satisfaction. so I can understand the anxiety of some women. but also be glad you have not fallen into the hands of some unscrupulous women who I've heard ask for monetary considerations for the "privilege" of being their friend. if you need people to help you we are always here to lend an ear or two. I've found some good friends through chat but blogging has more of an intimate nature as we can freely express our thoughts and feelings on here unhampered. dont let some bad comments deter you from continuing as you can never please everyone! welcome to SFF bloglandia! {{HUGZ}} from Maynila!   ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." ~Leo Buscaglia
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 9/10/2007 8:15 pm |
I would say that those who say you are too young for them consider every friend a potential love, and quite possibly they are protecting their hearts. Either that, or they are idiots, and don't like younger people. Or, they are liars, and don't really want friends after all..it is just a ploy to get guys to date them... Or...I don't know what else. People are weird Elvis, just when they say that, move on, and make friends with those that truly want friends.  Belle
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9/10/2007 8:42 pm |
Age has nothing to do with friendship, sorry for your loss, I am also a widow and know how hard it is, I will be more than happy to e-mail with you, talking does help bailey1275
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9/10/2007 8:56 pm |
Elvis, Very sorry to hear of your loss. Some of my best friends are several years younger and some several years older. Age is not an issue in friendship. Friendship comes from the heart...and some of us have a young heart!!! God's peace to you.
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9/10/2007 9:43 pm |
Some may just be cautious. If they don't know you well enough yet they may not trust your motives. You say you are just looking for friends, but keep in mind that the internet breeds a lot of shady characters that are not trustworthy. Until people get to know you better, and learn that you say what you mean, and mean what you say .... they may then be open to your friendship. I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope that you do find some comfort here on SFF making new friends. I was in the room the other night when you mentioned the passing of your wife and there were so many who had lost spouses and were able to give you some comforting words. I'm glad to see you branching out into our community of Bloggers. As Maynibelle commented, its a way to express yourself and have interaction with other SFF'rs that is an extension of the chat rooms. All of the close friends I have made on SFF are ones I have met through blogging. Welcome to Blogland Elvis! ~Karen  "The happiness of my life depends on the quality of my thoughts"
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9/10/2007 9:49 pm |
Elvis Hon you know you and I have always been friends and always will be. Hugs to you Linda PS...just call on the right people and we will be here. I'm looking to the future and it's out of sight, only in the end shall I take flight.
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9/11/2007 12:37 am |
Elvis, Welcome back to SFF.Many people here have experienced the lose of a love one.We will be happy to help you though your grieve.During this time just take each day as it comes.grievibg process is different for each person.You are welcome to be my friend, a pen pal. Hugs friend,"J" Peace and happiness+Positive attitude Treasure what you Have.
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 9/11/2007 2:03 pm |
Elvis as you know I have also been bereaved by the death of two wonderful husband and a terrific, talented son. I loved these men beyond recall. It is hard to come back from that but I found that God helps those who help themselves. I joined SFF and met a man who was just great. He taught me the puter and let me into his life. I am still his friend. He lives In Hawaii. He taught me about Brain Sync a process to enhance ones mind and built websites for us as a team. I have recovered as best as anyone can who has experienced what I have. My memories of my loved ones is in my heart always. I moved on as there was nothing else I could do. I feel healed. You too will be healed. Time is a great factor in this. Should you need to talk you can always send me a message. I as well as these other wonderful people are here for you. Casey (kaycee4)
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9/11/2007 10:15 pm |
Elvis, I really can't add to all the wonderful things that others have said to you, so I'll just say welcome to Blogland.  Carma  's &  'sCarMa Breathe life in... and live it with passion!
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9/12/2007 1:46 am |
Elvis, I do agree with Olga, but on the other hand it seems to me that you do have friends and quite a few. Some times it just takes time ..for some people to warm up, it's getting to know each other.,There is no rush, for a friend to know you better. Your Pen Pal and friend, Banjo J
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9/12/2007 12:42 pm |
hi elvis, im sorry for your loss and sorry for everyone elses loss that have put a post in here to you, huggsss to you all, i will gladly be your pen pal , have alot of friends all ages here
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9/14/2007 5:17 am |
Hi Elvis I dont care that I'm 10 years older. We're happy to be each other's friend and penpal. I've not been a longtime member in here and I am building friendships with any age groups, male or female ie: grassier, she & I chat too. It's never been suggested I may be too old or too young. You're very popular and will gain many more friendships. As for your bereavement I've sent my wishes to you previously however I reiterate my sympathy and awareness of how you'd be feeling. Take care friend. Reenie(post 63925)
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9/19/2007 12:17 am |
Hi, BIG E, Well, sweetheart you know that those with a pure heart will reach out and touch without an agenda. We have spoken before and I know your pain. However, life is to be lived and a good way to begin is through communication. Keep reaching out to those on here who are your friends. If someone says they are to old or to young for you, then just go on to the next person. Your friends will outweigh all those negative responses. Dotty
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9/27/2007 4:36 pm |
Hi Elvis, I just connected with you today, and I was surprised that you wanted to communicate with me. I even asked if you knew how old I am, as you are 25 years my junior. Believe me, I know what you are going through. After more than 47 years of marriage, my husband passed away two years ago in June. We would have been married for 50 years in November, and I have never been so lonesome in my life. It hits me the hardest at meal time and when I get together with family. I hope we can be friends, and my prayers are for your peace and comfort. If I can be of any help to you, please let me know. Amandasue
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10/3/2007 9:10 am |
Hi Elvis, I am trying to contact you, but I am having no success today. Write when you can. I am anxious to hear from you. Amandasue
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10/6/2007 4:18 am |
nothing friends come in all ages i have young and yes..older than me lol globug4
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10/23/2007 1:00 pm |
Hi Elvis, Friends are friends, no matter what age, as far as I am concerned. All my life I have had friends of all ages. Each and every one of them have/had things to teach me, even from the little 2 yr. old girl that I was a nanny for, starting at 4 weeks old. I was her best friend because we spent so much time together and I loved her dearly. I lost my Mother in May of this year and it has been hard, but other people helped and supported me which made it more bearable. I would like to be your friend and I believe that we probably have some things in common. I am from Memphis, lived in Whitehaven not far from Graceland. And, I had an Idol....... It sure seems that you have a lot of friends and others that want to be.    He who laughs.....lasts 
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4/28/2008 9:11 pm |
I too am sorry for your loss..and offer my friendship to you. Should you ever need to talk..I'm here, okay? Take care~Grace
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