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shuel2002 65F
5537 posts
1/31/2015 7:12 pm

 You are absolutely correct. Someone is sexy if they feel sexy. It took me a long time to realize that and once I did, it made me sexier to men.
Elaine Shuel


frenchsalsa2 77F
7809 posts
2/1/2015 5:09 pm

 While I'm not a 'plus size' woman (petite is more like it), I do have a comment and that is: while some men may reiterate your feelings, why do other men who are over-sized, expect to find a woman who's tiny yet curvaceous etc etc? Don't they realize that women too have preferences when it comes to men. As you know, some of those men, especially in chat, don't post pics profile pics, yet they don't hesitate to comment on women who do have profile pics!!


shuel2002 65F
5537 posts
2/1/2015 5:48 pm

 DanDee that's a misconception (your answer to Bonnie). Women are just as superficial as men. I used to own a dating service for plus sized men and women and both sexes care about how the other looks and have their preferences. There is nothing wrong with that.
Elaine Shuel


shuel2002 65F
5537 posts
2/1/2015 7:04 pm

 That's exactly right, DanDee1952. We all have our preferences,
Elaine Shuel


frenchsalsa2 77F
7809 posts
2/2/2015 4:25 pm
    Quoting shuel2002:
    DanDee that's a misconception (your answer to Bonnie). Women are just as superficial as men. I used to own a dating service for plus sized men and women and both sexes care about how the other looks and have their preferences. There is nothing wrong with that.
That's so true, Elaine...exactly what I was alluding to. I once met someone that a friend recommended so it was sort of a blind ate, although I knew of him. Well when we met for lunch at a lovely local restaurant, he kept telling me I was just like my picture our mutual friend showed him. However, unknown to me, she hadn't seen him in about 10 years (they taught at the same school). So she wouldn't have been aware that he had gained about 80 lbs or more. I was very courteous and friendly but that was it. He appeared enthralled with me and wanted to meet again; he called me 2 days later. I had to tell that I was sorry but I didn't think we we should, that the chemistry wasn't there for me. I felt a tad guilty about what I really wanted to say.... 'that he was simply not my type'!


Rentier1

2/3/2015 8:19 am

 Is nobody concerned about the health issues involved with being overweight?


shuel2002 65F
5537 posts
2/3/2015 12:01 pm

 You had no reason to feel guilty about not being attracted to him. The same goes if someone isn't feeling chemistry with you. It's part of life and we all have to accept the fact that everyone isn't going to be turned on by us. I have to add though that there have been guys I dated that I wasn't initially attracted to but as I got to know them better, their looks no longer mattered to me. Their inner selves appealed to me. That happens sometimes.
Elaine Shuel


shuel2002 65F
5537 posts
2/3/2015 12:05 pm
    Quoting Rentier1:
    Is nobody concerned about the health issues involved with being overweight?
Of course health issues are a concern. That is something each person that's overweight or too thin, has to deal with. That is separate from others judging us.
Elaine Shuel


Rentier1

2/3/2015 1:25 pm
    Quoting shuel2002:
    Of course health issues are a concern. That is something each person that's overweight or too thin, has to deal with. That is separate from others judging us.
No it's not.

I am free to judge anyone on any basis I like.

I am certainly free to judge people based on how they look after themselves.


shuel2002 65F
5537 posts
2/3/2015 1:51 pm
    Quoting Rentier1:
    No it's not.

    I am free to judge anyone on any basis I like.

    I am certainly free to judge people based on how they look after themselves.
I didn't mean people can't judge others. I meant that health issues is one thing and how people judge us is another.
Elaine Shuel


shuel2002 65F
5537 posts
2/3/2015 1:54 pm
    Quoting Rentier1:
    No it's not.

    I am free to judge anyone on any basis I like.

    I am certainly free to judge people based on how they look after themselves.
I may be wrong but I don't think that people tend to ask this of those too thin, which is equally a health risk. As far as judging people, sadly people are very judgmental, some more than others.
Elaine Shuel


Rentier1

2/4/2015 9:36 am
    Quoting shuel2002:
    I may be wrong but I don't think that people tend to ask this of those too thin, which is equally a health risk. As far as judging people, sadly people are very judgmental, some more than others.
They do, in fact.

Bulimia is far less common than obeisty, but at least as dangerous and recognized as such.


shuel2002 65F
5537 posts
2/4/2015 10:02 am

 Fair enough.
Elaine Shuel


frenchsalsa2 77F
7809 posts
2/4/2015 7:09 pm

 Yes, Elaine. I agree!

Rentier, oh yes, health is a great concern for me, hence my reason for being so fussy. I look after myself for that very reason, concern!

Dan, I hope you don't mind my saying so but as I thought, you also judge women. Bottom line though is you do still have your Barbie.


shuel2002 65F
5537 posts
2/5/2015 1:28 pm
    Quoting  :
We all have our preferences, Dan. There really is nothing to feel bad about. I have never been attracted to tall, thin men. Is anything wrong with them? No. They just don't tend to appeal to me physically.
Elaine Shuel


shuel2002 65F
5537 posts
2/5/2015 1:45 pm
    Quoting  :
You hit the nail on the head. Just because someone doesn't fit your preferences, doesn't mean that you can't be attracted to them for different reasons, that makes you forget that they didn't match your ideal physique.
Elaine Shuel


shuel2002 65F
5537 posts
2/5/2015 1:47 pm
    Quoting Rentier1:
    They do, in fact.

    Bulimia is far less common than obeisty, but at least as dangerous and recognized as such.
Absolutely true. I still remember being shocked when Karen Carpenter died of anorexia.
Elaine Shuel


frenchsalsa2 77F
7809 posts
2/5/2015 2:51 pm

 Dan, when responding to me, I'm afraid to say you've got it wrong. I believe I was referring to the many times I've seen you remark on what sort of women you prefer or even like etc. So in fact, that's why I commented. No dislikes here at all, believe me, but thank you for noting.


shuel2002 65F
5537 posts
2/5/2015 5:21 pm
    Quoting  :
I agree about a good sense of humor but a guy wouldn't have gotten to the bedroom with me if I wasn't turn on at some point.
Elaine Shuel




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